The Recovering Engineer
SEPTEMBER 26, 2010
In the process of looking over my notes and thinking through the planned events tomorrow, I started reflecting on a meeting that I facilitated for a client in Indiana last week. Quickly, in less than an hour, we listed, ranked and developed specific action plans for overcoming their biggest challenges.
The Recovering Engineer
APRIL 19, 2010
By understanding the model, we can plan positive steps to back conflicts down after they start. I plan to revisit the specific things we can do to reverse this cycle in future posts. Using this post as a starting point, we can then look at how to avoid or minimize this problem in our lives. Click on the image for a larger view.)
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The Recovering Engineer
DECEMBER 14, 2010
So, as we prepare to end 2010 and begin 2011, I’ll share the question with you that I’ve been asking myself: What will you do, starting now, to create more time, financial, and relationship margin in your life? Reply Guy Harris says: January 11, 2011 at 9:16 pm Hi Kelly – Thanks for stopping by and leaving your comment.
The Recovering Engineer
DECEMBER 11, 2010
Looking ahead at my 2011 calendar, I have been hoping to plan an extra day or two while I’m in town to do some reconnecting. It wasn’t a big thing except that she made the effort, and it meant a lot to me. I’ll likely be in Raleigh next summer to do another workshop. Now, I won’t get that chance.
The Recovering Engineer
MAY 24, 2010
I went to my doctor, and he asked a whole battery of questions before prescribing a treatment plan. Offering suggestions before people have told their whole story is like having a doctor prescribe medication or treatment before listening to all of the symptoms. I once had numbness and tingling in my foot.
The Recovering Engineer
JUNE 3, 2010
Rather, I suggest understanding the behavior and then making plans that recognized the reality of life instead of wishing that things were different. This is an observable and repeatable psychological phenomenon. Like so many of the things I write and speak on, I don’t suggest hiding behind the behavior.
The Recovering Engineer
JUNE 7, 2010
This is a bad plan. If you want to resolve a conflict, make sure that you set aside enough time to get through the emotion and on to the plan. While the specific time line for a conflict resolution conversation depends on many factors, most conflict conversations reach their peak of emotional energy at about 45 minutes to an hour.
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