The Recovering Engineer

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One Way to Head Off a Conflict: Manage Expectations

The Recovering Engineer

As is common this time of year, we encountered road construction marked with a sign similar to the one above, and I felt frustrated as I thought about the coming delay. The estimated time we would drive in the construction zone was longer than I wanted to experience. We then saw another sign with additional information.

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How to Tell If a Conflict is Good or Bad | Guy Harris: The.

The Recovering Engineer

The difference is whether the conflict is constructive or destructive. So, how can you tell the difference between a constructive conflict and a destructive conflict? Constructive conflict conversations focus on issues. Constructive conflict conversations focus on the future. In fact some conflict can actually be good.

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Flexible With People and Rigid With Timelines

The Recovering Engineer

They include construction, computer system, computer software, marketing, web development, book writing, process improvement, and plant expansion projects. At different times and in different roles, I have had the opportunity to observe, work on, plan, and implement projects of various sizes and types.

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Five Secrets for More Persuasive Writing

The Recovering Engineer

If I did, I would welcome constructive comments to help me – and my readers – improve. The danger of writing about how to write better is that, well, it’s in writing. As a result, I run the risk of violating the very secrets that I propose. From your perspective, I may have done just that.

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Change Management Lessons: Surprise Breeds Inaction

The Recovering Engineer

Situation Number Two: Driving my car into the neighborhood where Kevin lives, I came upon road construction vehicles that slowed me down and partially blocked my view of the frontage property. After 10 or 15 seconds that felt like 10 or 15 minutes to me, they looked at each other, shrugged, and began to walk down the “stairs.”.

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Exercise Your Power of Choice in Conflict Resolution | Guy Harris.

The Recovering Engineer

After the heat of the moment passes, you can exercise your power of choice to act in better and more constructive ways. When it does, you cannot continue to claim: “I don’t know why I said that.&# You are no longer in the automatic and reactive mode.

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Effective Communication Skills: You Don't Know Until You Ask | Guy.

The Recovering Engineer

Put the best construction on everything. Since you are in control of your thoughts, choose to make the story a good one – a positive one – one that puts you in a better frame of mind and puts the other person in a good light – or at least one to be sympathized with. You’ll be much happier.

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