The Recovering Engineer

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Three Communication Strategies Guaranteed to Irritate Others

The Recovering Engineer

I can, however, identify several definitively wrong ways to do it. When you look closely at each of the definitions, you’ll note that the word “indirect” appears in each of them, and, from an emotional perspective, that is the problem with each of these communication techniques.

Strategy 226
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What’s the Problem?

The Recovering Engineer

However, these tools and techniques are secondary to a fundamental premise of group problem solving behavior: When people don’t agree on the problem definition, they will never agree on the problem solution. Do you have a clear and commonly understood definition of the problem? For example, your company has low revenues one quarter.

Consensus 191
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You Have to Have a Goal to Achieve a Goal

The Recovering Engineer

In late November, four weeks after setting a definite goal, I lost 10 pounds, and, within a few months after that, I lost a total of 35 pounds to get back to my goal weight. With a definite goal in mind, in a little more than ten percent of the time I spent “thinking about it,” I achieved over three times the results.

Goal 211
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People are a Package Deal

The Recovering Engineer

I definitely frustrate, irritate, and aggravate the people close to me. The reality is that I probably frustrate, irritate, and aggravate them to some extent as well. As I think about it, probably is the wrong word. Let me rephrase that last sentence.

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Better Relationship Tips For Task Oriented People: Redefine Your.

The Recovering Engineer

.&# Make sure that you include the relationship parts of the task in your definition. You might define task issues by their relationship impact and that definition just might get in your way at times. Your definition might be the source of your problem. I totally understand. You may, though, have the opposite challenge.

Tips 257
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Can Every Conflict Be Resolved?

The Recovering Engineer

The operating definition that I work from for a successful conflict resolution is that the involved parties have come to an agreement about their future behaviors and interactions with regard to each other that ends, or resolves, the conflict. By adding the criteria that the relationship is preserved, the answer changes from yes to no.

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Get Comfortable With Mistakes

The Recovering Engineer

While I was in the car with my daughter, it was definitely not easy to watch – or experience – as a passenger. And, if you want the people on your team to learn, grow, and develop, you have got to let them make some mistakes. Watching other people make mistakes that you could have avoided is not easy to do.