The Recovering Engineer

MAY 6, 2012

The key point, though, is that the people in the escalator example eventually moved without prodding or prompting from me. Many leaders see this initial response, and grow frustrated with their team like I grew frustrated by the initially unmoving people at the top of the escalator.

Management 138

Management Uncertainty Fashion Tips 138

The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 22, 2013

Dealing with resistance is a normal part of leadership. If you have been reading leadership development resources for any time at all, this concept is probably not new to you. For example, I am very factual and data driven. For example… If they talk about how they feel about the change. Use words the they would use.

Resistance 177

Resistance Motivation Energy Tips 177

The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 24, 2013

As I listened to a well-respected speaker at a multi-speaker conference talk about productivity and time management strategies, the speaker questioned the two-minute offense often used in football. For example, consider what you believe to be true about your ability to become more productive. The speaker achieved his objective.

Objective 173

Objective Workshop Skills Project 173

The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 31, 2015

The issue of understanding and addressing the emotional factors that slow change efforts – both organizational and personal – appears in many ways across the landscape of change management and behavior change literature. The leadership lesson is this – emotions are often fickle, transitory, and situational.

Short-term 100

Short-term Licensing Long-term Goal 100

The Recovering Engineer

JULY 8, 2011

I am not always “on my game.&# Teaching conflict resolution, problem solving, interaction dynamics, and leadership skills does not make me perfect at applying them. There are many situations — in coaching, parenting, and performance management for example — when the approach I started with is a better long-term answer.

Long-term 185

Long-term Information Skills Tips 185

The Recovering Engineer

MAY 21, 2012

In the example above, I could have assumed that the other person was passionate about the topic rather than angry with me. One Way to Head Off a Conflict: Manage Expectations. In most cases, we only know what we assume to be true about their intention based on our past experiences and our own emotional filters.

Tips 221

Tips Objective Power Influence 221

The Recovering Engineer

DECEMBER 14, 2010

For example, do you have enough margin in your relationships to… Withstand a communication error? And having enough to meet the minimum requirements does not create margin. Just as the concept of margin applies to our schedule and our budgets, it also applies to our personal and professional relationships. Survive a missed appointment?

Engineering 169

Engineering Self-aware Emotional Intelligence Chemicals 169