For most of us, starting at a new company brings up those same anxieties we felt when starting in a new school as a child. All of a sudden you don’t have any friends, you’re not sure what you’re supposed to do, and it’s hard to find the bathroom. Adding to the pressure is the unspoken fact that the clock is ticking: Your new colleagues may give you a grace period, but you know that they are making judgments about whether or not you’ll be a good fit, starting on day one. And of course you are also making a parallel assessment to figure out if you made the right choice.