The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 24, 2014

To create a feeling of empowerment, do everything in your power to foster a positive workplace with little or no fear as the motivating factor in people’s actions. Remember that any negative comments you make will have a much stronger impact on people than your positive ones. Look for and comment on anything that people are doing well.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 13, 2011

In the meantime though, find a way to frame it positively so that you can find the energy and enthusiasm to lead positively. In either case, learn to embrace the temporary disarray, disorganization, and messiness because of the growth and progress it represents.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 24, 2012

During my watch, I consulted with the Quartermaster (he tracks position and course), the Diving Officer (he controls direction and depth), the Chief of the Watch (he controls many systems), and others. The Quartermaster and I spoke about our position and our intended course. And, it taught me a whole lot about how to work with a team.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 21, 2012

Fortunately, we spoke again on a different day, and we had a more positive outcome. Even in many situations where the other person intends an attack, you can deescalate the conflict by making the positive assumption and responding kindly. I chose a negative interpretation, and I escalated right along with my partner.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 27, 2012

Many people rise to leadership positions because they can solve problems. One of the reasons I quickly moved from an individual contributor role to a supervisory position in my first civilian job after the Navy was that I knew how to solve the technical problems my team faced. That was certainly true for me.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 28, 2012

A few months ago, I was speaking with my friend and colleague JJ Brun , and he said that he had come to the conclusion that when he was in any kind of relationship with a person, he had to accept the frustrating and challenging parts of their behaviors if he was going to enjoy the positive parts. The phrase is pure JJ.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 6, 2011

It subtly places you in an intellectually and emotionally “superior&# position relative to the other person. It says that how you anticipate another person will react is a forgone conclusion rather than an expectation. It leaves no room for the other person’s autonomy and self-control.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 25, 2012

We feel threats to our position, our expertise, or our experience. In most workplace situations, none of us will be in an imminent physical threat situation when we are in conflict. Most of us will, however, experience what we perceive as an emotional threat. We feel disrespected, disliked, or unheard.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 13, 2011

Consider that the other person might actually have a positive intention rather than a negative one. I really liked what I read over at Aled’s blog, and it got me thinking: one of the key components I see in the 5 steps he wrote about is patience. The patience to: Slow down your emotional response.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 15, 2011

As my daughters and a friend of mine patiently teach me scales, chords, chord progressions, hand positions, and strumming patterns; I have learned to struggle through a song or two. Today, I have another lesson drawn from my recent guitar playing endeavor for people of all ages and roles. First, the story behind the lesson.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 29, 2010

Did it offer us more positive or more negative? If it was more positive, we needed to go forward without complaining about the negative because we had chosen to accept it into our lives for the moment. Attempt to exert positive influence on those things that I couldn’t directly change. In my case, I chose to stay.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 2, 2011

The Positive Runs Out. It is not intended as a complete and exhaustive description of how the DISC model might reveal motivational patterns and preferences. This article is from the Motivation series. Use the links below to read more from this series. The 5 Be's of Motivation. A Simple Model for Understanding What Drives Behavior.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 18, 2010

Even if what I say is positive, you probably have a bit of a defensive posture in receiving what I am about to say. The second reply creates a more positive lead-in to the second part of the statement. I have probably triggered a natural defensive mechanism.

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Skills Engineering FAQ Emotional Intelligence 209

The Recovering Engineer

MAY 12, 2010

Use data and third-party information to support your position — they want to know that you have done your homework. Talk about thoughts more than feelings — while they are not totally unemotional, they are more likely to be persuaded by thoughts than by feelings.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 2, 2010

.&# You reach a point in the conversation where you have to make a choice to stay on the road or to take the right fork that leads you back to the main highway of resolution and positive interaction. The truth is that we almost always have a better and more positive option we can choose. Photo by tonystl.

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 21, 2011

The DISC model is one tool that you can use to get an estimate of another person’s emotional/psychological needs so that you can take positive, intentional actions that increase your ability to effectively connect and communicate with him or her.

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The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 22, 2013

When you give the answer, deliver it in a way that people see the personal, positive benefits of the change from their perspective. In order to transform resistance into acceptance, give people an answer to this question as soon as possible.

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Resistance Motivation Energy Tips 177

The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 1, 2014

In most cases, front-line supervisors have more flexibility and freedom to adjust and improve work processes than they realize upon first taking the new position. In some cases, company procedures, processes and work practices are mandated from a level far removed from the front-line supervisor, and they are relatively fixed.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 14, 2011

The class was lively, engaged, and energetic with everyone in the room displaying a highly positive approach to learning. For many of the people in the class, this was their first in-depth exposure to the DISC model and how to use it to more effectively communicate with others.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 7, 2011

The Positive Runs Out. What activities energize your kids and which ones drain them? Photo by prettydreamer.workshop. This article is from the Motivation series. Use the links below to read more from this series. The 5 Be's of Motivation. A Simple Model for Understanding What Drives Behavior. You Cannot Punish People into Good Behavior.

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The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 25, 2014

Positive actions. Focus on blame and fault-finding. Create a feeling of powerlessness. When you shift the conversation towards the future you can focus the conversation on… Solutions. The key point here is that you can learn from the past, you don’t want to live there.

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Tactics Skills Strategy Tips 182

The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 24, 2012

Their position in the organization. In another post, I wrote about this consideration based on their DISC style , and it is only one of the factors to consider. Some of the other factors you could consider are: Your relationship with them. Pressures they might be facing. Their past experiences.

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The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 15, 2010

Since I have been in the other driver’s position, encountering a snow drift on my side of the road while the other driver has basically clear pavement, I was aware that they were in a position where they might feel a little out of control.

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Engineering Self-aware FAQ Video 188

The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 11, 2010

If a conflict conversation is destructive, use the Seven Secrets for Resolving Personal Workplace Conflict to move the conflict in a positive direction. If a conflict conversation is constructive, let it go to completion. It is likely to turn out well. Photo by jphilipg.

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The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 10, 2011

If you are in the “subordinate” position, you might hear threats that are not intended. Keep this in mind as you plan your communications. If you are the “superior” party, you might have to work a little harder to take any subtly implied threat out of your communications. The Context. Where are you during the communication?

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 10, 2010

Show them respect — they also want you to show respect for them, their position, and their work. Look them in the eye and speak-up — they seldom have patience for people who do not have confidence.

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Tips Engineering FAQ Emotional Intelligence 277

The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 2, 2010

If you want to resolve the conflict, carefully consider which of your positions are based in fact and which are based in your opinion or perspective. In my experience so far, I have never observed a conflict conversation that turned out well when both parties insisted on arguing their respective perspectives as if their opinions were facts.

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Engineering FAQ Self-aware Video 265

The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 16, 2010

Take a walk, read something positive, or just get away from the situation for a moment to carefully consider your emotional state and it’s possible impact on your decision making. Did you just learn that you need to invest money you don’t have to repair your car? If so, be careful.

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Emotional Intelligence Self-aware Short-term Engineering 210

The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 3, 2010

The Positive Runs Out Communicating About Change – Connect With Emotions Tags: emotional control , emotional intelligence , emotions , get over yourself , human behavior , intention , self awareness , self control , understanding people Guy Harris describes himself as a recovering engineer.

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FAQ Self-aware Emotional Intelligence Engineering 235

The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 19, 2010

By understanding the model, we can plan positive steps to back conflicts down after they start. Using this post as a starting point, we can then look at how to avoid or minimize this problem in our lives. In this post, I will quickly show a model of what often happens during conflict escalation. I’ll share more on that later.

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Engineering Video Self-aware FAQ 223

The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 16, 2010

Take a walk, read something positive, or just get away from the situation for a moment to carefully consider your emotional state and it’s possible impact on your decision making. Did you just learn that you need to invest money you don’t have to repair your car? If so, be careful.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 9, 2010

In all of these situations, you can, like a lifeguard, be in the position of a person approaching someone else when they are under distress because their needs are not being met. Picture a drowning man. He is flailing in the water. He is grasping at everything and everyone within reach.

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Engineering FAQ Video Self-aware 231

The Recovering Engineer

MAY 20, 2010

Related posts: Commit to Continual Learning – Life Lessons From Cal Ripken, Jr One Way To Guarantee That Your Suggestion Is Ignored The Positive Runs Out Tags: astd conference , courage , kevin eikenberry group , Leadership Skills , persuasion , speaking in public Guy Harris describes himself as a recovering engineer.

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Conference Engineering FAQ Emotional Intelligence 102

The Recovering Engineer

DECEMBER 16, 2008

The more you focus on future actions to “fix&# the problem, the more you improve the odds that they will engage with you in a positive way. They often want to get moving rather than talk about past events or feelings.

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Tips Engineering FAQ Self-aware 188

The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 23, 2010

Alternative stories can stop our perception of threat and lead us to a more positive, rational, and engaged response than either a heated attack or an icy withdrawal. &# “Are they really on the attack, or are they just tired and having a bad moment?&# “Are they an evil person, or did I say something that offended them?&#

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Engineering Self-aware FAQ Video 218

The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 18, 2010

By telling her colleague that she will likely have questions, she is: Establishing reasonable expectations with her colleague, Preparing her colleague to receive the call, and Showing that she is concerned with a positive outcome. She has made a consistent and persistent effort to make sure that her communications are as clear as possible.

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Engineering Self-aware Video FAQ 210

The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 7, 2010

Very seldom will anyone respond positively to you if you blame them. (It For example, “I yelled at you because you yelled at me.” While it feels a bit like self-defense, it actually triggers conflict escalation. It could happen. It’s just not very likely.) Trying to justify our behaviors. Justification is blame’s evil twin.

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