The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 21, 2010

Using the handout from this month’s Remarkable Leadership teleseminar as a discussion guide, we talked about some really powerful concepts related to communicating change. This is one of the many ideas we discussed: Change can be driven by facts, but people are driven by emotions. Never show again. Get Email Updates

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 21, 2012

The leverage point for better self-control lies in recognizing that we have the power to choose our assumptions. Conflict Resolution Tips: The Power of Patience. In most cases, we only know what we assume to be true about their intention based on our past experiences and our own emotional filters.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 27, 2011

What a simple, yet powerful concept. When I say accept differences, I mean that I see the power in understanding how other people develop thoughts and feelings about certain topics that are different from my thoughts and feelings without lapsing into criticism, condemnation, and moral judgment about them as human beings.

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Morale Objective Power Article 156

The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 2, 2010

To illustrate the power of this tip, imagine a young child walking across your kitchen with a cup of milk. The second, and more powerful statement, says what you DO want. Assuming that you want them to get the cup safely to a counter top without spilling it, you could say: Don’t spill that milk. Never show again.

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The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 24, 2014

It is more powerful, more persuasive, and less irritating to say exactly what you mean than it is to insinuate, infer, or imply. A message intended to convey mild irritation sounds – to the person hearing the message – like a strong personal attack. A better, and a slightly counterintuitive, approach is to speak directly with people.

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Strategy Definition Workshop Tactics 226

The Recovering Engineer

MAY 7, 2010

How to apply powerful psychological principles in a practical way to help you control your response and develop influence with others. Only the context changes. The principles remain the same.) Here’s what you’ll find on this audio program: Ways of looking at conflict that you may have never considered. Never show again.

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Tips Emotional Intelligence Engineering FAQ 198

The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 31, 2015

Changing from one way of doing things (behavior) to a different one always involves loss , and loss triggers powerful negative emotions. Previously, I wrote about the power that having a weight loss goal had in driving my choices with regard to diet and exercise.

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 30, 2013

Taking an action that makes you non-threatening to the other person is a powerful step towards de-escalating the conflict. A common reason that conflicts escalate is the perception of threat one or both parties see in the conflict escalation cycle.

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Tips Tools Motivation Article 158

The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 8, 2010

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The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 11, 2010

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The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 10, 2011

Proper consideration of these three factors coupled with understanding the underlying principles of communication and conflict resolution will lead you to successful, powerful, and effective communications. If there is a power mismatch between you and the other person, it could increase the perception of threat felt by either party.

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Tools Workshop Tactics Strategy 194

The Recovering Engineer

SEPTEMBER 13, 2012

Three Power Phrases to Disarm a Verbal Aggressor. Six Questions to Make Sure You Have Communicated Effectively. Five Questions to Make Sure that You Understand Others Correctly. Three Critical Factors to Consider Before You Choose a Communication Technique.

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Workshop Video Skills Course 114

The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 24, 2012

Three Power Phrases to Disarm a Verbal Aggressor. Can every conflict be resolved and also preserve the relationship? Related Posts Six Questions to Make Sure You Have Communicated Effectively. Three Critical Factors to Consider Before You Choose a Communication Technique. How to Decide if a Conflict is Worth the Effort to Resolve.

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The Recovering Engineer

AUGUST 27, 2011

At that moment I gained a powerful insight into heading off conflicts before they start. The estimated time we would drive in the construction zone was longer than I wanted to experience. The delay was the same, and, still, I felt relieved.

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Construction Management Energy Information 217

The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 14, 2013

Apology is a powerful — and often under used — conflict resolution tool. One reason for not apologizing that I often hear in my work with clients is the concern that apologizing either totally admits fault for the conflict or reveals a weakness. While these concerns may be legitimate in some situations, they are overblown in most cases.

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Tips Skills Tools Influence 208

The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 14, 2017

Eventually, the lesson of the spaghetti bowl analogy for polymer chemistry became clear to me – converting data and logic into stories and analogies dramatically improves the persuasive power of any presentation. When you make presentations of any kind, whether they are one-to-one or one-to-many, remember this concept.

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Chemicals Engineering Mentor Cooper 100

The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 23, 2010

How the “flight&# response contributes to conflict escalation is a little more subtle, and still just as powerful in its affect on the conflict escalation cycle. As a result, the other person feels a direct threat from our response. Never show again. Get Email Updates

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 2, 2010

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 29, 2010

I also believe that you cannot hold someone else accountable if you have not, first , done everything in your power to fix the situation. It’s my responsibility to do everything in my power to make things better whether you choose to cooperate with me or not. Doing my part has nothing to do with you doing your part.

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Emotional Intelligence Self-aware Engineering FAQ 131

The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 26, 2010

Kevin will be leading a free teleseminar on How to Make a Smooth and Rapid Transition to Leadership on Monday November 1st, and I will be leading another free teleseminar about the Secrets to Make Your Next Performance Review Meeting Productive, Powerful, and Painless on Wednesday November 10th. Never show again. Get Email Updates

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Performance Review Engineering FAQ Emotional Intelligence 105

The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 25, 2016

Eventually, the lesson of the spaghetti bowl analogy for polymer chemistry became clear to me – converting data and logic into stories and analogies dramatically improves the persuasive power of any presentation. When you make presentations of any kind, whether they are one-to-one or one-to-many, remember this concept.

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Chemicals Engineering Mentor Cooper 100

The Recovering Engineer

SEPTEMBER 26, 2010

There where 18 powerful leaders from across the state of Indiana in this meeting – business leaders, educational leaders, and leaders of not-for-profit organizations. Eighteen people with different perspectives, different backgrounds, different view points, and strong opinions. Never show again. Get Email Updates

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Engineering FAQ Tips Video 210

The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 2, 2012

Conflict Resolution Tips: The Power of Patience. Related Posts Twenty-seven Years and Lots of Relationships. Employee Motivation: Compliance or Commitment? Applying the DISC Model: Breaking Through A Common Frustration. Conflict Prevention: Just Fix the Problem.

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Gantt Chart Project Tools Compliance 176

The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 24, 2014

To create a feeling of empowerment, do everything in your power to foster a positive workplace with little or no fear as the motivating factor in people’s actions. They will feel controlled. If they feel controlled, they will not deliver the results of an empowered workplace that I mentioned above.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 23, 2010

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 16, 2010

by Lisa Haneberg The Sound of Silence: The Power of Listening Between the Lines by Diane Levin Managing the Toxic High Performer by Dan McCarthy We’re All Recovering Somethings by Amber Naslund Kindness, Present and Past by Angie Thompson Photo by striatic. Never show again. Get Email Updates

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FAQ Engineering Emotional Intelligence Self-aware 114

The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 25, 2014

One strategy you can use to apply this concept is to move the conversation to what you would like the person to DO in the FUTURE using The Power of AND. The key point here is that you can learn from the past, you don’t want to live there. ” Relieve the pressure. People have a strong need to be heard and understood.

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The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 24, 2012

It does highlight some of the main items to factor into how you deliver your message and what might affect your persuasive power. The list above is not a complete or exhaustive list. 2. Write the way that people read. Consider these two ideas: Most business and personal communications are intended to quickly communicate an idea.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 6, 2012

They do everything in their power to reduce uncertainty by communicating more often, more thoroughly, and more personally. Wise leaders recognize, understand, and anticipate this response. Rather than push changes quickly and get angry with people, they make allowances for this normal human reaction.

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Management Uncertainty Fashion Tips 138

The Recovering Engineer

DECEMBER 11, 2010

It’s powerful, and it sums up much of what I’m feeling and thinking as I remember Krystal. And that’s the life lesson that goes with this post. Rather than tell you the words, I thought I would ask that you take the 4 minutes it takes to watch the video. Never show again. Get Email Updates

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 12, 2010

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The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 19, 2010

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The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 11, 2010

What a powerful way to make the point about the need to constantly invest the effort to become better. He spoke about his personal perspective on perseverance and success. At one point, speaking about the need to continually learn, grow, and improve, he said: The ones who become satisfied with who they are have short careers.

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Commitment Emotional Intelligence Self-aware Engineering 105

The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 15, 2010

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 7, 2010

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 24, 2011

“What&# questions give you power. Instead, ask “what&# questions. Ask: What lesson have I learned from this experience? What will I do now? What good is there in this situation? “Why&# questions sap your strength. And, I come back to the title of this post: Count Your Blessings.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 3, 2011

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