Marshall Goldsmith

OCTOBER 12, 2015

One reason we resist coaching, I’m sure, is our need for privacy. But beyond the structured hierarchies of the workplace, where we’re always answerable to someone for our paycheck and where we have clear incentives for getting better, we don’t appreciate the dynamic as well. Some pieces of us are not to be shared with the world.

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Marshall Goldsmith

AUGUST 25, 2014

They tend to resist negative judgment. Feed forward , on the other hand, is almost always seen as positive because it focuses on solutions – not problems. Feed forward is especially suited to successful people. Successful people like getting ideas that are aimed at helping them achieve their goals.

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Marshall Goldsmith

MARCH 23, 2015

What I am talking about is our interpersonal behavior and our resistance to changing how we treat other people. Going through life and never changing our tastes, opinions, and everyday preferences is unimaginable—because our environment won’t allow it. The old friend we still tease with a cruel childhood nickname that he’s long outgrown.

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Marshall Goldsmith

FEBRUARY 2, 2015

We harbor beliefs that trigger all manner of denial and resistance—and we end up changing nothing. Discouraged by our failure, overwhelmed and disheartened, it’s hard to commit to change again. So, we become geniuses at coming up with reasons to avoid change. We make excuses. We rationalize. We fail to become the person we want to be.

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Marshall Goldsmith

AUGUST 3, 2015

In the following pages, we’ll examine—and dispense with—the deep-seated beliefs that trigger our resistance to change. We can’t admit that we need to change —either because we’re unaware that a change is desirable, or, more likely, we’re aware but have reasoned our way into elaborate excuses that deny our need for change.

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Marshall Goldsmith

MARCH 9, 2015

We all resist being told how to behave, even when it’s for our own good or we know our failure to comply will hurt someone. We need to erase this devious distinction—or at least close the gap between professional and amateur—to become the person we want to be. Being good over here does not excuse being not so good over there.

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Marshall Goldsmith

SEPTEMBER 23, 2013

A review of research on successful people indicates that they tend to over-rate their own performance (relative to their peers) and that they tend to resist feedback that is inconsistent with their self-image.

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Marshall Goldsmith

MAY 26, 2014

Why We Resist Change. Even when I’ve gotten the greatest advance build-up as someone who can help people change for the better, I still meet resistance. Our positive beliefs about ourselves help us become successful. These same beliefs can make it tough for us to change. I see this daily in my work.

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Marshall Goldsmith

SEPTEMBER 12, 2011

Cognitive Dissonance Even when I've gotten the greatest introduction as someone who can help others change for the better, I can still meet game-breaking resistance. I see this in my work every day. I have made peace with the fact that I cannot make people change; I can only help them get better at what they choose to change.

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Marshall Goldsmith

JUNE 22, 2015

It wasn’t long before these two resisters decided to become former Ford executives. What better way to get his team communicating properly than by showing them step by step how great teams communicate? Yet even with their jobs on the line if they didn’t cooperate, two executives refused to change their behavior in the BPR.

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Marshall Goldsmith

JANUARY 6, 2011

Maybe it’s our natural urge to take the path of least resistance, to start with the easy fix first. Often people I work with will ignore that in-your-face problem and instead tackle any and every other problem around them instead. I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s denial, although if one is committed to change, denial shouldn’t be an issue.

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Marshall Goldsmith

DECEMBER 23, 2010

But most people’s resistance to change can be overcome by natural law. Then there’s the arrogance, the feeling they can do anything, that develops and bulges like a well-exercised muscle in successful people, especially after a string of successes. These are all heady defense mechanisms to overcome. All we have to do is find it.

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Marshall Goldsmith

JANUARY 20, 2014

They are responsive in achieving goals that they set but resist changes that make them feel judged or manipulated. Since successful people have a high need for self-determination, they (not a coach) must own the behavioral change process. The more they are involved, the more likely they are to “buy in” to modeling this behavior.

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Marshall Goldsmith

FEBRUARY 15, 2015

That’s when we fall back on a set of beliefs that trigger denial, resistance, and ultimately self-delusion. For those of us who admit to it, we know our genius becomes more acute when it’s our turn to change how we behave. These beliefs are more wicked than excuses. An excuse is the handy explanation we offer when we disappoint other people.

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Marshall Goldsmith

MARCH 18, 2013

Why We Resist Change. Even when I’ve gotten the greatest advance build-up as someone who can help people change for the better, I still meet resistance. Our positive beliefs about ourselves help us become successful. These same beliefs can make it tough for us to change. I see this daily in my work.

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Marshall Goldsmith

JANUARY 27, 2011

You get even more resistance to change when you add the positive interpretations that successful people assign to their past performance, their ability to influence their success, their optimistic belief that their success will continue, and their sense of control over their own destiny. Those are just the surface responses.

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Marshall Goldsmith

OCTOBER 20, 2014

Keep this in mind the next time you find yourself resisting change because you are clinging to a false, and/or probably pointless, notion of “me.”. An Equation for Life: Less Me + More You = More Success. It’s an interesting equation: less me + more them = more success as a leader.

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Marshall Goldsmith

FEBRUARY 22, 2016

We can’t resist our impulse to confront the issue, to show our frustration, to make it known that we are triggered. These little moments trigger some of our basest impulses. Some of us suppress the impulse. We disarm the moment. Others of us do not. Even more perilous are the small triggering moments with our families and best friends.

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Marshall Goldsmith

MAY 10, 2013

Keep this in mind the next time you find yourself resisting change because you are clinging to a false – and/or probably pointless – notion of “me.” He accepted the fact that the more he focused on his employees, the more they worked to benefit the company – and that benefited him. ” Life is good.

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Marshall Goldsmith

MARCH 25, 2013

Keep this in mind the next time you find yourself resisting change because you are clinging to a false – and/or probably pointless – notion of “me.” He accepted the fact that the more he focused on his employees, the more they worked to benefit the company – and that benefited him. ” Life is good.

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Marshall Goldsmith

MAY 11, 2015

We fall back on a set of beliefs that trigger denial, resistance. It is much easier, and more fun, to attack the strategy of the person who’s trying to help than to try to solve the problem. and ultimately self-delusion. They sabotage lasting change by canceling its possibility.

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