The Recovering Engineer

Can work and home DISC styles be different?

The Recovering Engineer

One of the questions that Kevin and I get asked frequently is, “Can I have a different style at work than I have at home?” ” The answer is a qualified yes, and it gets to the idea of having a natural style compared to an environmental style.

Emotions are the Greatest Barrier to Change

The Recovering Engineer

I often say that facts dictate the need for change and emotions create the barrier to it.

The DISC Test is an Assessment, It’s not a Test

The Recovering Engineer

When I hear people talk about the DISC Assessment, I often hear them say things like: “Hey, how'd you come out on that test?” ” I really don't like that type of reference to the DISC model.

Does Your Personality Style Change Over Time?

The Recovering Engineer

After taking a DISC assessment , people frequently wonder if their style can change over time. The question shows up in two common ways: I think I was more reserved (or outgoing) when I was a kid, and now I'm not. Could my adult style be different from my style when I was a kid?

The HR Playbook: Reduce Turnover with Employee Benefits

Companies with the right mix of benefits saw a 138% drop in employee turnover. Learn how you can lower your employee attrition rate and retain top talent.

Why you should never try to beat or fool the DISC Assessment

The Recovering Engineer

One question I often get when I'm discussing use of the DISC assessment and profile report is this: “Can you fool (or beat) the DISC assessment?” ” The short answer to that question is: Yes, you can “beat” the DISC assessment.

Three Communication Strategies Guaranteed to Irritate Others

The Recovering Engineer

In workshops and coaching conversations, I receive many questions about the right way to communicate an idea. Sadly, I cannot define the absolutely, most correct, “right” way to communicate an idea – particularly if the idea is communicated during a conflict conversation.

Five Ways to De-escalate a Conflict

The Recovering Engineer

Reversing the course of an escalating conflict is a topic that surfaces frequently in my work with coaching clients and workshop participants. I have received emails, blog comments, and twitter requests for help with this topic.

You Have to Have a Goal to Achieve a Goal

The Recovering Engineer

One January day about thirteen years ago, I stepped on the scales in my bathroom, and I did not like the feedback I received. I was at the highest weight I had ever been in my life. My clothes were starting to get a bit tight, and I was feeling uncomfortable in them.

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The Two Sides of Trust

The Recovering Engineer

Like so many words we use commonly, trust has many layers of meaning. While most of us have similar general perspectives about what it means to trust another person, there are some subtle differences in how we view this simple word.

Five Common Responses to Conflict

The Recovering Engineer

In my work with clients of all kinds, I have noticed five basic types of response to conflict. I see people who are… Conflict Rock Stars. Conflict Rock Stars are almost always in control of their responses. They know how to communicate calmly and assertively in nearly every situation.

How to Build a Competitive Benefits Package

An attractive benefits program can be a highly effective recruiting and retention tool. But to make benefits a competitive advantage, employers must get creative with their benefits strategy or risk losing out on the best talent. Learn how to build a benefits package that your employees will love.

Six Questions to Ask for Successful Collaboration

The Recovering Engineer

The biggest problem with collaborative problem solving is the collaborative part. Many new leaders became leaders because they know how to get things done.

Get Comfortable With Mistakes

The Recovering Engineer

One day a few years ago, my daughter and I had to drive about thirty miles on county roads through rural Indiana. Snow was not falling on the day we made this drive. However, there was plenty of snow in the fields on either side of the roads and the wind was blowing.

Three Ways to Deal with an Angry Person

The Recovering Engineer

How do you like dealing with an angry person? If you’re like most of the people I know, you hate it. And, you occasionally have to do it.

Three Power Phrases to Disarm a Verbal Aggressor

The Recovering Engineer

When you feel that you have been verbally attacked, it is incredibly difficult to think of the right words to calm the situation and disarm a verbal aggressor.

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The Difference Between Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive Communication

The Recovering Engineer

Communication breakdowns are a common cause for conflict, and poor communication strategies can lead to rapid escalation. Likewise, effective communication strategies can help you correct these miscommunications to move conflicts quickly towards resolution.

5 Step Guide to Personal Development Plans

Great HR leaders are continually looking for new ways to develop their people and build companies that people want to work for. A well-considered Personal Development Plan (PDP) is one huge part of that. Download Paycor's guide today, and learn new tips and best practices to help create effective development plans for your people.

A Collection of Conflict Resolution Quotes

The Recovering Engineer

I love quotes. They often capture big concepts in only a few words. They give me “thought anchors” to help me collect and focus my thoughts. This is a quick video I put together to capture some great conflict resolution quotes that help and inspire me.

Six Questions to Make Sure You Have Communicated Effectively

The Recovering Engineer

The communication process really should be easy. You say something to another person. They hear it. They act in a way that is consistent with what you said. End of discussion. And, it’s not quite that easy.

People are a Package Deal

The Recovering Engineer

Nearly everyone irritates me to some extent. Even the people close to me — my wife, my kids, my friends, and my professional colleagues — irritate me from time to time.

Five Questions to Make Sure that You Understand Others Correctly

The Recovering Engineer

Have you ever taken an action – either immediately or at some later time – based on what you heard someone say only to find out after you acted (or spoke) that you did not accurately understand their statement or request?

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11 Proven Ways to Turn Your Culture into a Culture of Innovation

Learn the 11 proven strategies that you can implement quickly to get every employee innovating and contributing to the growth of your company.

Data Tells and Stories Sell

The Recovering Engineer

Early in my career, I worked in the plastics industry as a process and product development engineer. At the time, I had a degree in chemical engineering, and I had just completed service as a nuclear engineering officer in the U.S. Navy.

Four Ways to Improve Your Communication

The Recovering Engineer

If you want to become more effective as a leader, more successful in meetings, or more confident while resolving conflicts, become a better communicator.

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Using Apology to De-escalate a Conflict

The Recovering Engineer

Apology is a powerful — and often under used — conflict resolution tool. One reason for not apologizing that I often hear in my work with clients is the concern that apologizing either totally admits fault for the conflict or reveals a weakness.

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Learning to Embrace Messiness

The Recovering Engineer

Sometimes, life gets messy — as shown by the picture of the living area in my home this morning. When I first walked through this area on my way to get a cup of coffee and some breakfast, I felt a bit stressed. My family was still asleep, and I had a full day of work planned in my home office.

Quantifying a Culture of Innovation

Examining five years of anonymous data from over 6 million users in 170+ countries, Spigit has discovered that a culture of innovation can be measured – with a 99% statistical confidence level – by a metric called "ideation rate." Download the eBook now for an in-depth look at this groundbreaking study.

Three Clues You Can Use to Find What Motivates Another Person

The Recovering Engineer

Two questions I often get in workshops, from coaching clients, and in consulting engagements is: How do I work with an unmotivated person? How do I motivate someone to work harder? Here are the quick answers: There is no such thing as an unmotivated person. Everyone is motivated to do something.

Conflict De-escalation Strategies: Control Your Tone and Body Language

The Recovering Engineer

The perception of threat is the primary cause for conflict escalation. The most important word in the previous sentence is perception.

A Simple Model for Understanding What Drives Behavior

The Recovering Engineer

The diagram above shows a simplified model for better understanding what drives behavior. Since people often spend their lives studying and understanding what really drives our behavior, I am pretty confident that I cannot hope to fully cover the topic in this short post.

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Listening as a Tool to De-escalate Conflicts

The Recovering Engineer

Recently, I read this statement: “They keep yelling at me that I’m not listening.” ” I would love to give credit to the person who said it, but I’ve lost the source. I think I saw it as a tweet in my twitter stream. I’m just not sure of that.

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The CFO Playbook: How to Reduce Turnover with Employee Benefits

To increase employee retention, you need to consider more than universal healthcare benefits in your turnover calculation. Discover how investing in the right employee benefits can decrease turnover by 138%.

Applying the DISC Model: Breaking Through A Common Frustration

The Recovering Engineer

Today, I led a DISC communication skills workshop that ended with a role-play exercise to allow participants the opportunity to practice the skills we had been discussing.

Assume Benign Intent

The Recovering Engineer

My anger was rising. Every time he spoke, I grew more frustrated and irritated. I could feel my blood pressure rising, my face flushing, my lips tightening, and my shoulders hunching forward.

The Leadership Secret to Getting More Done

The Recovering Engineer

One of the things I notice as I work with new leaders is a tendency to accept work practices and processes as fixed entities. In some cases, company procedures, processes and work practices are mandated from a level far removed from the front-line supervisor, and they are relatively fixed.

Employee Motivation: Compliance or Commitment?

The Recovering Engineer

Whether you are trying to resolve a conflict, coach an employee, or correct your child’s behavior; you have to wrestle with your real goals. You have to ask yourself, “Do I want compliance or commitment?&#.

Innovation: Five Signs You Might Be Faking It

Every company wants to be a leader in innovation, but how can you tell if your company is really innovating or just going through the motions? See the 5 signs you might be faking innovation and what to do if you are.

You Cannot Sell What You Do Not Own

The Recovering Engineer

One day John, a newly promoted supervisor with Fictional Products, met with his boss, Bill, to discuss a new procedure recently mandated by a change to company policy. John was not happy with the change because he knew that his team would not like it.

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Seven Reasons to Develop Conflict Confidence

The Recovering Engineer

At one time, I thought I taught conflict resolution. Over time, I have come to realize that I don’t really teach conflict resolution as much as I teach conflict confidence. To resolve a conflict, you need the other person’s cooperation.

Task-Oriented vs People-Oriented: A Common Source of Conflict.

The Recovering Engineer

The difference between task-oriented people and people-oriented people can often be the source of conflicts

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Using the DISC Model: How to Create Stress for Other People | Guy.

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If you really want to stress someone out, just use these tactics in your communications with them

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Tough Comp Conversations: A Guide For Doing Them Right

Speaker: Rusty Lindquist, VP Strategic HR Insights at Bamboo HR

Compensation can be tricky, few things carry as much emotional weight as comp. And with the increased transparency in the market, combined with our collective propensity to rate ourselves against others, the frequency of these very difficult conversations is increasing. In this webinar, we will deconstruct some of the psychology around comp. We’ll take an analytic look at comp’s role in the employee experience, and then we’ll get really tactical with guidance on very specific compensation conversations.