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Three Communication Strategies Guaranteed to Irritate Others

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In workshops and coaching conversations, I receive many questions about the right way to communicate an idea. And, it doesn’t work that way.

Three Power Phrases to Disarm a Verbal Aggressor

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Here they are… If I were you, I would feel exactly the same way. Part of the power in this statement is that it is absolutely true in all cases.

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The Difference Between Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive Communication

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Communication breakdowns are a common cause for conflict, and poor communication strategies can lead to rapid escalation. Use “I” statements. Listen.

The DISC Model of Human Behavior – A Quick Overview | Guy Harris.

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As a teenager and young adult, I thought people were totally irrational and unpredictable.

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A Simple Model for Understanding What Drives Behavior

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The diagram above shows a simplified model for better understanding what drives behavior. We anticipate the outcome we want from that situation.

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Don't Use an Illness Description for a Normal Behavior | Guy.

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Last week, I saw a report on television about the number of children that have likely been misdiagnosed as ADD/ADHD.

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Conflict Resolution Lession: Recognize Redirected Aggression | Guy.

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Under stress cats can redirect their aggression towards you. So can people. Learn a lesson in dealing with redirected aggression from our cat, Merlin

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Six Questions to Make Sure You Have Communicated Effectively

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The communication process really should be easy. You say something to another person. They hear it. End of discussion. And, it’s not quite that easy.

Five Questions to Make Sure that You Understand Others Correctly

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So far, everyone I have asked this question in a face-to-face conversation answers pretty much the same way. And, the truth is, so have I. Tweet This!

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Emotions are the Greatest Barrier to Change

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I often say that facts dictate the need for change and emotions create the barrier to it. My weight (a fact) drives the need for change.

Learning to Embrace Messiness

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Sometimes, life gets messy — as shown by the picture of the living area in my home this morning. The mess felt a bit overwhelming and out of control.

You Cannot Punish People into Good Behavior

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In a recent post, I presented a simple model for understanding what drives our behavior. And, you might achieve partial success. Photo by Ken_Mayer.

Decision Making 101 – Check Your Emotions Before You Decide | Guy.

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How we feel when we make a decision one time can impact how we make a similar decision in the future

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The 7 Deadly Sins of Conflict Resolution | Guy Harris: The.

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Learn the 7 deadly sins of conflict resolution so that you know what NOT to do when conflict strikes

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Employee Motivation Tips: Their Personal Life

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Many leaders struggle with finding ways to motivate people to higher level performance. I have already written that you cannot motivate another person.

One Way To Guarantee That Your Suggestion Is Ignored

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Conflict Resolution Tips: Don’t Assume You Know What Someone Will Do

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Have you ever seen or been involved in a conflict conversation where one person said: “I knew that you were going to say that!&#. Tweet This!

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Employee Motivation Tips: The Why Matters

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There are two musical instruments I would like to play. One is the saxophone and the other is the guitar. That was about 25 or 26 years ago.

Effective Communication Skills: How to Quickly Guess a Person's.

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Effective communication skills start with understanding the other person's perspective. This posts offers a simple way to gain better understanding

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Conflict Resolution Mistakes: Stating Opinions As Facts | Guy.

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Stating opinions as facts can be a subtle and insidious conflict conversation practice. It can sneak into your communication patterns in little ways

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The Two Sides of Trust

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Like so many words we use commonly, trust has many layers of meaning. Your Now Step: Think about the people you lead. How do they view trust?

Three Clues You Can Use to Find What Motivates Another Person

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Two questions I often get in workshops, from coaching clients, and in consulting engagements is: How do I work with an unmotivated person?

Group Problem Solving - Give People a Chance to Talk | Guy Harris.

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Being Too Nice Can Hurt You | Guy Harris: The Recovering Engineer

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Being nice and helpful is a good trait. Carried to an extreme though, it can back-fire and harm you in the workplace

Rules Without Relationship Breed Rebellion | Guy Harris: The.

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You can and should set and enforce rules.

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How to Tell If a Conflict is Good or Bad | Guy Harris: The.

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Not all conflict is bad. Sometimes it can be good. Here are three ways you can tell the difference

Better Relationship Tips For Task Oriented People: Redefine Your.

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How you view or define a task can cause you to struggle in your relationships. Try redefining the task to stay focused on the other person

Using the DISC Model: How to Create Stress for Other People | Guy.

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If you really want to stress someone out, just use these tactics in your communications with them

Effective Communication Skills: You Don't Know Until You Ask | Guy.

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You never know another person's intentions until you ask. A story about how assumptions can escalate conflict

Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented.

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Remember these suggestions the next time you interact with people who are fast-paced and people-oriented, and you will improve the odds that they lis

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Three Critical Factors to Consider Before You Choose a Communication Technique

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Before you start looking for the right communication technique or words to use to convey an idea, you must consider three critical factors. Tweet This!

Using the DISC Model: Focus on Needs More than Behaviors

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The DISC Model of Human Behavior is, as the name implies, about behavior. To illustrate the point, consider the refrigerator shown above.

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Why Your Natural Response to Conflict is Probably Wrong and What.

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Most people's natural response to conflict begins with this perception of threat. This perception triggers our "fight-or-flight" response, and our ad

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Employee Motivation: Compliance or Commitment?

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Whether you are trying to resolve a conflict, coach an employee, or correct your child’s behavior; you have to wrestle with your real goals.

It Takes a Team

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From Bud to Boss I've been traveling to lead workshops, on vacation (sort-of), and working hard with my co-author and colleague, Kevin Eikenberry, and the rest of the Kevin Eikenberry Group team to get ready for the launch of our book

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Three Words to Guarantee Conflict Escalation

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I tend to notice how people respond to certain words. I guess that’s something of an “occupational hazard” for me. Always.

The Positive Runs Out

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This afternoon, I recorded a webinar on employee motivation techniques. The main learning point from this model is that people

Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People.

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Remember these suggestions the next time you interact with people who are fast-paced and task-oriented, and you will improve the odds that they liste

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Why I Use The DISC Model

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People frequently ask me why I use the DISC model in my work. Today, I’ll offer some of my reasons. Is the model perfect?

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Employee Engagement: Lessons From Our Book Launch

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What creates engagement? How do you build it, spread it , and maintain it? I don’t propose that I know the definitive answer to these questions.