Tim Milburn

Five Irrational Fears That Keep Us From Moving Forward

Tim Milburn

If you are a human being (which means all alien beings can stop reading now) then you are going to experience fear. Fear is emotion – raw, unfiltered anxiety that has evolved over time to protect us from the painful and maybe fatal situations we encounter. Rational fear is good fear. It protects us.

Self-Discipline Isn’t Automatic

Tim Milburn

Miranda Lambert has a song out entitled, Automatic. You can watch the music video below. The chorus of her song seems really appropriate for this next post on self-discipline.

How To Do One Thing For 90 Days In A Row

Tim Milburn

January 1 is such an exciting day. Sooo many people are all geared up to make changes. They start writing. They start working out. They start eating vegetables. They start… Then there’s January 11. Not such an exciting day.

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Self-Discipline Isn’t Convenient

Tim Milburn

Self-discipline sounds a lot like punishing myself. It’s all about sacrificing what I want to do for what I have to do. It’s “making myself do the thing I have to do, when it ought to be done, whether I like it or not.” Huxley).

Self-Discipline Isn’t Multiple Choice

Tim Milburn

If I’m going to take a test, I like to take multiple choice tests. That way I know the correct answer is there…somewhere. Even if I don’t know which one is correct, I can still guess. But self-discipline isn’t a multiple choice test. It’s a True / False test.

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7 Ways To Battle The Complainer Inside Of You

Tim Milburn

In his groundbreaking book, The Road Less Traveled , Dr. Scott Peck offers in the opening sentence, what he later identifies as “the greatest truth”: Life is difficult.

Book Review: The Power Of Starting Something Stupid

Tim Milburn

If you were to drop by my office right now, you would see stacks of books that have been given to me for review purposes. It’s become apparent that if you have a fairly successful blog and have written your own books, people are happy to share their work with you.

How To Wait When The Waiting Is Hard

Tim Milburn

I don’t like to wait. The study of leadership seems to be about doing, about making something happen. But there are situations where I have made the decision to wait. Because that’s the right decision. A good decision can become a bad decision if it’s not the right time.

Be Bold: Your “Future Best”

Tim Milburn

This is a guest post by my friend, Jeff Shore. Jeff is a highly sought-after sales expert, speaker, author and executive coach. “I I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself.”. Mikhail Baryshnikov. Your best is not the same as the highest you can achieve!

10 Strategies To Increase Your Mental Focus

Tim Milburn

I tried out a new workout yesterday at a place called 9Round. It combines cross fit and kickboxing training moves into a fast-paced workout at nine different stations. You walk in, jump in, and go hard for 30 minutes. During the workout I saw a poster displaying the core values of 9Round.

Thinking About Stepping Into A Leadership Position?

Tim Milburn

I am constantly on the lookout for students who have the potential to lead. When I find them, I ask them this question: Have you ever considered applying or running for a student leadership position? I want to encourage people to lead. The only way one truly learns to lead is by actually leading.

Three Ways To Capture Your Vision

Tim Milburn

I recently returned from a leadership conference with my newly elected student leaders. We bonded and created fun memories. We even made up a few new words that will stick with us throughout the next year.

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Four Reasons You Need Vision To See Where You’re Going

Tim Milburn

It’s that time of year when we get to hear the campaign speeches from our candidates for student leadership positions. Beyond their ability to give a good speech, they each share their hopes and dreams for next year. They lay out their plan to make it “the best year ever.”

How To Choose A Positive Attitude When You Feel Negative

Tim Milburn

I just returned from a great conference called Storyline. The whole conference was dedicated to learning how to live a better, more significant story with your life. The conference took place in downtown Portland. What an incredibly fun city.

Challenged To Do More By Doing Less

Tim Milburn

I never realized I was doing it wrong for most of my life. It seemed obvious to me that you peeled a banana by pulling on the stem. Then one day, someone explained to me that there was a better way. I needed to start peeling a banana like the monkeys do. It really is easier to peel a banana this way.

Seven Ways To Follow Like A Leader

Tim Milburn

I’ll often get asked what it takes to be a great leader. Those asking the question are typically looking for one or two standout, key principles or characteristics. They want it simple and succinct. I’ll be honest here, my answer to that question often changes.

Help Your Kid’s Cultivate A Leader’s Heart

Tim Milburn

This is a guest post by Mark Miller. Mark is launching his book The Heart Of Leadership this week. As we launch The Heart of Leadership , I’m reminded of how grateful I am that several of the leadership character traits I outline in the book were instilled in me early in life.

Three Characteristics Of An Influential Leader

Tim Milburn

There’s a simple test you can take to see if you’re a leader: turn around and see if anyone is following you. People may follow you for all kinds of reasons. I tend to break them into three categories: They follow you because they have to – you are an authority over them.

Five Ways To Turn Your Crisis Into A Comeback

Tim Milburn

A Note To My Readers: You may have noticed I took a six month hiatus from blogging on my site. The biggest reason is mentioned in this post. If you’re one of my subscribers and committed readers, I’m grateful for your attention.

15 Unorganized Thoughts On Being Better Organized

Tim Milburn

The stuff of life can pile up quickly. Each day I accumulate new to-do’s, countless pieces of paper, unforeseen problems, random interruptions and numerous distractions. Over time, I begin to form piles. Piles on my desk. Piles in my mind. Piles around the goals I’m working to accomplish.

Why Can’t Anyone Motivate Me?

Tim Milburn

When it comes to motivation, you might think this requires giving something to someone else that pumps them up (like a pep talk, a bonus, an ultimatum, etc). But motivation actually comes from the inside of a person. It’s a person’s own desires and energy that fuels action.

What Do You Want In 2014?

Tim Milburn

This is the time of year when we think about and talk about goals. I wrote down six goals for 2013 around this time last year. I accomplished half of them. That’s 50% (I just did the math in my head). Some people might look at that and think that I failed.

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Be The Friend You Wish You Had

Tim Milburn

Effective leaders understand two things: 1. It starts with me. It’s not about me. In order to lead, one must be willing to go first…and go last. This is true in so many other areas of life as well.

Developing A Philosophy Of Failure (Part 1)

Tim Milburn

The most effective leadership development processes give people the opportunity to learn to lead by leading. Even if you spend an enormous amount of time preparing students for leadership, you’ll never know what kind of leader they will be until they start leading.

The Three Most Important Components Of Any Meeting

Tim Milburn

I have a love/hate relationship with meetings. I love them when they’re necessary. I hate them when they’re full of unnecessary elements (like my presence). I love them when they move us forward. I hate them when they don’t move us any closer to our goal.

Learn To Lead By Leading

Tim Milburn

One of the reasons people are interested in leadership development is because it so closely aligned with personal development. Working on one’s leadership capacity requires some work in the area of personal growth and an understanding of one’s temperament, personality, and skill set.

6 Ways Difficult People Make You Better

Tim Milburn

When you are a leader, sometimes you get to pick the people you work with and other times they’re chosen for you. Hopefully, most of the people you lead will have positive attitudes, follow your leadership, and be an all-around team player.

Five Ways To Find Fulfillment In Your Day

Tim Milburn

When you lay your head on your pillow at night, you drift off to sleep with a sense of fatigue. But that fatigue can be caused by a couple of different things. You’re tired and frustrated from spinning your wheels all day but not having much to show for it.

Change The Narrative And You Change Everything

Tim Milburn

We all tell ourselves stories. We tell stories about how we met certain people. We tell stories about the idiosyncrasies we’ve acquired. We tell stories because stories help us give meaning to the events of our lives.

For The Good Of Others

Tim Milburn

Leadership starts with taking responsibility, first for oneself, then, for the good of others. In other words, leadership starts with you but it’s not about you. It’s about working for the good of others.

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How To Inspire Others Without Saying A Word

Tim Milburn

Don’t underestimate the power of your example. I’m often asked: Is example enough? What do you think? Does the boss who says one thing and does another influence you? Does the person whose private life would destroy their public life seem like the type of person we want in leadership?

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Beautiful Skin Can’t Cover A Rotten Heart

Tim Milburn

Do you know how to pick out a quality piece of fruit? Everyone I talk to seems to have a technique to pick out the sweetest, juiciest, and tastiest ones in the pile. But I don’t have that ability. For example, I was trying to make these fancy fruit parfaits for a special meal I was preparing.

Excellence Is An Attainable Goal

Tim Milburn

I’d like to talk to all of the student leaders in the room for a moment. Everyone else can listen in if you’d like). As a student leader, you bring a unique set of strengths, abilities, and weaknesses to the table. You may or may not feel like you possess the “leadership” gene.

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Six Ways To Earn The Trust Of Those Around You

Tim Milburn

I walked into the room full of newly elected student leaders. You could feel the excitement. You could sense that each one of them was motivated to do his or her very best. They all wore the same t-shirt. They were all on the same team.

“Your Resolution” Starts With Y

Tim Milburn

It’s that time of year. The end of one. The start of another. And I know you are tempted to do what you always do. You want to make a resolution. Don’t do it. You made a resolution last year. Remember? Look how long that lasted.

Increase Your Motivation In 5 Minutes

Tim Milburn

Maybe you can relate to the following scenario… I have a task that I need to do. I know it needs to be done because I wrote it down on my to-do list. I know it needs to be done today because I put today’s date next to it as a deadline.

Purpose: The Soul Of Leadership

Tim Milburn

/NOTE/ The following is a guest post by Gary Burnison, CEO of Korn/Ferry International. Leadership is less about analytics, and much more about aligning, motivating, and inspiring others.

The 3 Motives Of A Leader People Want To Follow

Tim Milburn

We are in the process of electing/selecting our group of student leaders for next year. We call them “student leaders” because they will fill the various leadership roles we have identified on our campus.

Developing A Philosophy Of Failure (Part 2)

Tim Milburn

In Part One of this article I explained why it was important to develop a philosophy around the ways we approach, handle, and learn from failure. In this second part, I will offer six questions to aid in the process of developing our own philosophy of failure.

Pay It Backward

Tim Milburn

This morning, I enjoyed my morning ritual of grabbing a cup of coffee at Starbucks on the way to work. I pulled into the drive thru and got in line with the other cars. Once I got up to the speaker, I ordered my drink along with a scone.