Tim Milburn

How To Turn Regret Into A Resource

Tim Milburn

You got any regrets in your life? Anything you wish you could go back and change or do differently? We all do. It’s kind of like asking you if you’re breathing. Yup…we all are. Some of us may struggle with those regrets. Wishing for a time machine. Kicking ourselves for what happened. Focusing on the past. All of that is robbing us of energy we need for this present moment. Carrying our regrets is like carrying a backpack full of rocks all the time.

The Five Minute Shot

Tim Milburn

Do you enjoy staring at that one task you keep putting off…every single day? I want to introduce you to a technique that is giving me productivity super powers. I call it the Five Minute Shot.

The Rhodium Rule

Tim Milburn

The first step in any leadership journey is leading yourself. Leadership STARTS with you. Effective leadership requires (DEMANDS!) that you lead yourself well, not only for your own sake, but for the sake of others. This isn’t about selfishness. In fact, it’s the first and most necessary step toward selflessness. It starts with leading yourself well, because any attempt to lead others well without leading yourself well typically ends up causing a great deal of frustration.

Someone With A Lot Less Is A Lot More Happy Than You

Tim Milburn

I’m currently working on a message I’m delivering this Sunday at a church where my friend is the pastor (you rock Doug!). Since I’m putting a lot of time into getting it ready, I thought I’d share a nugget of it with you. The focus of my talk is on learning to be content. That’s a lifelong lesson. I don’t believe contentment comes naturally. I don’t think you inherit contentment or that there’s a contentment gene in your DNA.

Create A Morning Ritual That Gets You Going

Tim Milburn

When I think about starting well, I’m not just thinking about projects or tasks. We get to practice starting well each and every day. That’s where I’m finding a lot of value. As I transitioned from working in a corporate environment to becoming a solopreneur (three months ago!), I sat down and wrote down what a perfect day would look and feel like for me. This exercise forced me to think about how I wanted to organize my day.

Five Irrational Fears That Keep Us From Moving Forward

Tim Milburn

If you are a human being (which means all alien beings can stop reading now) then you are going to experience fear. Fear is emotion – raw, unfiltered anxiety that has evolved over time to protect us from the painful and maybe fatal situations we encounter. Rational fear is good fear. It protects us.

Self-Discipline Isn’t Multiple Choice

Tim Milburn

If I’m going to take a test, I like to take multiple choice tests. That way I know the correct answer is there…somewhere. Even if I don’t know which one is correct, I can still guess. But self-discipline isn’t a multiple choice test. It’s a True / False test.

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7 Ways To Battle The Complainer Inside Of You

Tim Milburn

In his groundbreaking book, The Road Less Traveled , Dr. Scott Peck offers in the opening sentence, what he later identifies as “the greatest truth”: Life is difficult.

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Seven Ways To Follow Like A Leader

Tim Milburn

I’ll often get asked what it takes to be a great leader. Those asking the question are typically looking for one or two standout, key principles or characteristics. They want it simple and succinct. I’ll be honest here, my answer to that question often changes.

How To Do One Thing For 90 Days In A Row

Tim Milburn

January 1 is such an exciting day. Sooo many people are all geared up to make changes. They start writing. They start working out. They start eating vegetables. They start… Then there’s January 11. Not such an exciting day.

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It’s Not About Me

Tim Milburn

Today is the first day of the ten day launch of my newest book, Leadership Is Not About You. Can I tell you something? It’s exciting to launch a book. It’s such a great feeling to see all of your words spread out on a bunch of pages with a nicely printed cover.

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Self-Discipline Isn’t Convenient

Tim Milburn

Self-discipline sounds a lot like punishing myself. It’s all about sacrificing what I want to do for what I have to do. It’s “making myself do the thing I have to do, when it ought to be done, whether I like it or not.” Huxley).

How To Wait When The Waiting Is Hard

Tim Milburn

I don’t like to wait. The study of leadership seems to be about doing, about making something happen. But there are situations where I have made the decision to wait. Because that’s the right decision. A good decision can become a bad decision if it’s not the right time.

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10 Strategies To Increase Your Mental Focus

Tim Milburn

I tried out a new workout yesterday at a place called 9Round. It combines cross fit and kickboxing training moves into a fast-paced workout at nine different stations. You walk in, jump in, and go hard for 30 minutes. During the workout I saw a poster displaying the core values of 9Round.

Self-Discipline Isn’t Automatic

Tim Milburn

Miranda Lambert has a song out entitled, Automatic. You can watch the music video below. The chorus of her song seems really appropriate for this next post on self-discipline.

Thinking About Stepping Into A Leadership Position?

Tim Milburn

I am constantly on the lookout for students who have the potential to lead. When I find them, I ask them this question: Have you ever considered applying or running for a student leadership position? I want to encourage people to lead. The only way one truly learns to lead is by actually leading.

Three Characteristics Of An Influential Leader

Tim Milburn

There’s a simple test you can take to see if you’re a leader: turn around and see if anyone is following you. People may follow you for all kinds of reasons. I tend to break them into three categories: They follow you because they have to – you are an authority over them.

How To Choose A Positive Attitude When You Feel Negative

Tim Milburn

I just returned from a great conference called Storyline. The whole conference was dedicated to learning how to live a better, more significant story with your life. The conference took place in downtown Portland. What an incredibly fun city.

Four Reasons You Need Vision To See Where You’re Going

Tim Milburn

It’s that time of year when we get to hear the campaign speeches from our candidates for student leadership positions. Beyond their ability to give a good speech, they each share their hopes and dreams for next year. They lay out their plan to make it “the best year ever.”

15 Unorganized Thoughts On Being Better Organized

Tim Milburn

The stuff of life can pile up quickly. Each day I accumulate new to-do’s, countless pieces of paper, unforeseen problems, random interruptions and numerous distractions. Over time, I begin to form piles. Piles on my desk. Piles in my mind. Piles around the goals I’m working to accomplish.

Six Ways To Earn The Trust Of Those Around You

Tim Milburn

I walked into the room full of newly elected student leaders. You could feel the excitement. You could sense that each one of them was motivated to do his or her very best. They all wore the same t-shirt. They were all on the same team.

Five Ways To Find Fulfillment In Your Day

Tim Milburn

When you lay your head on your pillow at night, you drift off to sleep with a sense of fatigue. But that fatigue can be caused by a couple of different things. You’re tired and frustrated from spinning your wheels all day but not having much to show for it.

Five Ways To Turn Your Crisis Into A Comeback

Tim Milburn

A Note To My Readers: You may have noticed I took a six month hiatus from blogging on my site. The biggest reason is mentioned in this post. If you’re one of my subscribers and committed readers, I’m grateful for your attention.

Help Your Kid’s Cultivate A Leader’s Heart

Tim Milburn

This is a guest post by Mark Miller. Mark is launching his book The Heart Of Leadership this week. As we launch The Heart of Leadership , I’m reminded of how grateful I am that several of the leadership character traits I outline in the book were instilled in me early in life.

The Three Most Important Components Of Any Meeting

Tim Milburn

I have a love/hate relationship with meetings. I love them when they’re necessary. I hate them when they’re full of unnecessary elements (like my presence). I love them when they move us forward. I hate them when they don’t move us any closer to our goal.

Challenged To Do More By Doing Less

Tim Milburn

I never realized I was doing it wrong for most of my life. It seemed obvious to me that you peeled a banana by pulling on the stem. Then one day, someone explained to me that there was a better way. I needed to start peeling a banana like the monkeys do. It really is easier to peel a banana this way.

The 3 Motives Of A Leader People Want To Follow

Tim Milburn

We are in the process of electing/selecting our group of student leaders for next year. We call them “student leaders” because they will fill the various leadership roles we have identified on our campus.

6 Ways Difficult People Make You Better

Tim Milburn

When you are a leader, sometimes you get to pick the people you work with and other times they’re chosen for you. Hopefully, most of the people you lead will have positive attitudes, follow your leadership, and be an all-around team player.

Learn To Lead By Leading

Tim Milburn

One of the reasons people are interested in leadership development is because it so closely aligned with personal development. Working on one’s leadership capacity requires some work in the area of personal growth and an understanding of one’s temperament, personality, and skill set.

Three Ways To Capture Your Vision

Tim Milburn

I recently returned from a leadership conference with my newly elected student leaders. We bonded and created fun memories. We even made up a few new words that will stick with us throughout the next year.

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Self-Discipline Isn’t Emotional

Tim Milburn

“But I don’t feel like it.” ” I don’t know how many times I’ve said that, heard that, or read that when I challenged someone to follow through on their promise. How much of our life is directed by our emotions?

12 Basic Choices Lifelong Leaders Make

Tim Milburn

When you write a blog centered around leadership development, the messages often repeat themselves.

Change The Narrative And You Change Everything

Tim Milburn

We all tell ourselves stories. We tell stories about how we met certain people. We tell stories about the idiosyncrasies we’ve acquired. We tell stories because stories help us give meaning to the events of our lives.

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10 Communication Myths We Thought Were True

Tim Milburn

You can improve your ability to communicate. You can get better at it. Oftentimes, you don’t even have to learn something new. By simply unlearning false assumptions and common misconceptions, you will notice that your communication style becomes more effective.

Book Review: The Power Of Starting Something Stupid

Tim Milburn

If you were to drop by my office right now, you would see stacks of books that have been given to me for review purposes. It’s become apparent that if you have a fairly successful blog and have written your own books, people are happy to share their work with you.

You Might Be A Leader…

Tim Milburn

One question that I’m often asked is whether or not I believe every person can be a leader? My answer: yes and no. I answer “yes” because I think every person has the potential and the responsibility to lead oneself well. I believe leadership does start with you.

Why Can’t Anyone Motivate Me?

Tim Milburn

When it comes to motivation, you might think this requires giving something to someone else that pumps them up (like a pep talk, a bonus, an ultimatum, etc). But motivation actually comes from the inside of a person. It’s a person’s own desires and energy that fuels action.

Be The Friend You Wish You Had

Tim Milburn

Effective leaders understand two things: 1. It starts with me. It’s not about me. In order to lead, one must be willing to go first…and go last. This is true in so many other areas of life as well.

5 Questions That Will Change Your Perspective, Not Your Problem

Tim Milburn

Don’t let the title of this post fool you. Changing your perspective may be the very thing you need to do in order to change (think solve ) the problem. Too often, people are surprised by problems. Not only are they surprised, they’re quickly offended or angry by the situation.

Developing Your Soul For Leadership

Tim Milburn

I’ve often said that a person can be a leader and possess bad character…just not for very long. Over time, the neglect of one’s inner life will show itself in one form or another on the outside. A longstanding leadership principle states that you cannot give what you do not have.

10 Distractions You Can Control

Tim Milburn

We’re all busy. We can all fill up a to-do list with the greatest of ease. But if you’re anything like me, it’s sometimes difficult to get the stuff on the list done. Of course, there are all kinds of strategies of what to do and how to do it.

3 Thoughts On Making Personal Change In Your Life

Tim Milburn

“If you really wanted to be any different, you would be in the process of changing right now.” ” - Fred Smith. I was listening to talk radio the other day. They were discussing who they thought the hardest working actor in Hollywood was.

Purpose: The Soul Of Leadership

Tim Milburn

/NOTE/ The following is a guest post by Gary Burnison, CEO of Korn/Ferry International. Leadership is less about analytics, and much more about aligning, motivating, and inspiring others.