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Flying without a Helicopter – A Book for Millennials, Their Parents and Their Bosses

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Recently I was having a conversation about parenting with three people I love the most – my husband, daughter and son-in-law. This topic has immediate relevance for them since they had their first child in October. Some interesting questions popped up about Alison’s growing up years… What did Lee and I do to instill in her a sense of responsibility? How did we prevent her from developing a sense of entitlement as an only child?

Is Your Heart at Peace or at War with Others?

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Do you have an ongoing conflict with someone in your professional or personal life? If the tension and differences have been going on for a while, you’ve probably made a substantial list of things about that person you’d like to change. Maybe it’s their attitude or their approach, or certain words and actions they use. If they would just start doing X or stop doing Y, then your life would be so much happier. What if there were something YOU could do that would dramatically improve the situation?

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Do You Talk Too Much about Yourself?

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I’d arrived a few minutes at the beauty salon for my hair appointment. While I was waiting for my stylist to arrive, I couldn’t help overhearing the only other stylist who was there with a client. Sheila” was talking non-stop about a worker’s compensation situation involving her brother. He had been seriously injured on the job a year ago and had not worked since.

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Support Coaching Is Essential for New Habits

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“Mastering any kind of skill takes time, effort and patience. Along the way, there’s much you can do to help someone stay on track.” – Dennis E. Coates, Ph.D. in Support Coaching Do you know someone who’s trying to break a bad habit or form a new, positive one? Think back to when you’ve attempted to make such a change. It’s not easy. People will experience setbacks and failures as they work to adopt a new way that’s different from their familiar, comfortable pattern.

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Paycor CFO Survey: The State of American Business in 2021

In Paycor’s latest survey, more than 2,000 Finance and HR leaders told us about their plans for 2021. Download the survey for actionable insights and tips.

Three Steps for Building a New Habit

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When you decide to make a change, you''ve taken an important step. Now you need to follow through on your commitment. But there’s a problem. As you begin this undertaking, you find that your old way of doing things kicks in more often than the new way. That’s because your brain is literally wired – it has physical connections – for the familiar pattern you’ve been using. It’s like putting on a pair of old, comfortable shoes.

How to Make Someone Feel Special…or Not

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This year my primary care physician got promoted to an administrative position, so I needed to find a new doctor. I decided to go to a Doctor of Osteopathic Medicine (DO) due to what I’d read about their approach to treating patients: “DOs combine today''s medical technology with their ears to listen caringly to their patients, with their eyes to see their patients as whole persons, and with their hands to diagnose and treat patients for injury and illness.”

The Worst Listeners Are Guilty of This

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I was trying to have a conversation with this person. But I found myself getting irritated with one thing he kept doing…interrupting me in the middle of a sentence and talking over me. It became impossible to carry on a conversation because it seemed like I was never able to articulate a complete thought. This is an extreme case, but unfortunately, interrupting is a common occurrence. We all do it at times.

How to Eliminate the Drama in Your Life

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I’ve been on a path of self-development for as long as I can remember…always on the look-out for books, podcasts, videos and quotes that inspire me to become more effective as a human being. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is a book that’s had a profound impact upon the way I view myself and everyone I encounter. It’s about adopting a code of conduct that results in a deeper sense of happiness and well-being.


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Today I’m featuring a guest post from Henry Kimsey-House , co-author of a new, must-read book for every leader, Co-Active Leadership. A few years ago, Karen and I went to a workshop down in Silicon Valley called “Slideology” put on by Duarte Creative Design.

How Quickly Do You Get to a Place of Acceptance?

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On the first day of 2014, my husband and I had a terrific fall/winter garden in place, with rows of healthy vegetables like kale (3 varieties), collards and broccoli growing nicely. But then the bitterly cold weather hit a few weeks later, with temperatures in the single-digits. And all those lovely veggies got decimated overnight. I allowed myself a few minutes of feeling frustrated and disappointed.

Paycor HR Leaders Survey: The State of American Business in 2021

In Paycor’s latest survey, more than 2,000 HR and Finance leaders told us about their plans for 2021. Download the survey for actionable insights and tips.

How to Help Everyone in an Organization Become a Coach

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When I got my first job as a supervisor, I was given no training on how to be an effective leader. I made a lot of mistakes. And I had absolutely no idea how to coach my direct reports on to improve their performance. Unfortunately, what I experienced is not uncommon. Companies often invest huge amounts of money and time training managers on the technical aspects of their job yet don’t make a similar investment teaching them how to lead and coach others. As I read Thomas G.

The High Price of Ignoring Intuition

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In our last office space, I had a private door to my office off the main hallway. I typically used that door for trips to the ladies’ room since it was closer than our main entrance. I left that door unlocked during those trips since I was only gone for a few minutes and didn’t want to have to carry my keys. One morning, as I entered the hallway, I encountered a tall, slender man in a black suit with a brightly colored shirt and tie.

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Mental Rehearsal: The Secret to Superior Performance

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When you observe truly outstanding performers in any field, it’s like looking at the tip of an iceberg. You can see only a tiny fraction of what lies beneath the surface. You aren''t able to watch the commitment, preparation and repetitions that preceded the performance. And you don’t have access to another element that plays a critical role in their success: mental rehearsal.

Fear vs. Worry: Why They Are Not the Same

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Among the many useful insights I took away from Gavin de Becker’s masterful book The Gift of Fear , one of the most profound was a deeper appreciation for the distinction between worry and fear. Until reading the final chapter, I had not pondered the difference. But the author not only defines them clearly, he points out why one is harmful and the other can be life-saving. Gavin de Becker is one of the most sought-after, highly respected experts on security issues in the world.

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Judy Robinett: A True Power Connector

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A few years ago I got a phone call from a woman I’d connected with on Twitter. She had been following my blog and the blog of my business partner, Denny Coates , and said she was very impressed with our content. She said we were the kind of people she liked to connect with. Of course, I liked her immediately! She proceeded to ask lots of questions about our focus and business, expressing genuine interest along the way.

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Benefits in a Pandemic: What HR Leaders Need to Know

Building a benefits program for a diverse workforce has always been a top priority, but now it’s become both more important and complex with so much change and uncertainty. Download our latest guide that features emerging benefits employees expect in 2021 and beyond.

What Are You Feeding Your Brain?

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Sometimes you discover information that’s so important, you want to scream it from the rooftops to make sure everyone else finds out about it, too. That’s what I felt like doing after reading David Perlmutter’s eye-opening book, Grain Brain: The Surprising Truth about Wheat, Carbs, and Sugar – Your Brain’s Silent Killer s. Because what’s contained in these pages is not common knowledge. Very few people know which nutrients best feed our brains and ensure long-term mental health.

A Group Intervention at Work

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Several years ago I was supervising a team of ten people, and most of them got along well. But over time, I picked up serious rumblings from four of them about “Rita,” one of the team members. They had legitimate complaints about her performance related to lack of cooperation and sharing of information. They found her difficult to approach and talk to.

Sheryl Sandberg and a Pivotal Question

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As I was reading Sheryl Sandberg ’s thought-provoking book, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead , I encountered a passage that popped out at me. As the sub-title implies, Sandberg addresses this book to women. But it’s an excellent read for men as well. She peels back the curtain on what goes on in women’s heads and in organizations to prevent women from advancing their careers and taking on more leadership positions.

Would you Rather Argue or Have a Dialogue?

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We miss many opportunities to have meaningful dialogue with another person, and as a result, we lose out on deepening the relationship. What often happens instead is that people assert their opinions without considering the reasoning, assumptions, or facts that their opinions are based on. They feel distressed or angry when someone expresses an opposing point of view. They argue. The interchange becomes heated and emotional. It becomes a matter of winning and losing.

How Businesses are Managing the New Reality of Work: A Paycor Survey

We wanted to know how COVID-19 impacted businesses and their workforces. Did they need government funds? How many workers did they layoff or furlough? Are employees working from home now? How’s team morale? And perhaps most importantly, what are their plans for the future? This guide offers a pretty good idea of how business leaders are feeling, what keeps them up at night, and what approaches they’re taking to solve problems. Download the guide to see all the survey results and where your organization might stand comparatively.

Blind Spots, Feedback and Change

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My husband Lee and I were in the kitchen preparing dinner last week, and I said, “I’m thinking that broccoli would be great as a side dish.” He looked at me and chuckled. What are you laughing about?” “It’s It’s just that you''ve been starting a lot of sentences lately with ‘I’m thinking…’ and I bet you don’t even realize you’re doing it.” I had no clue. I was completely unaware that I was even saying those words. Until he pointed it out to me. Does it bother you?” I asked.

Wayne Dyer Wisdom – A Change in Perspective

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“Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer, American author (1940- ) My husband Lee was a residential builder for almost 30 years. By training, he’s a mechanical engineer. That means he likes to take things apart and put them back to together. He loves figuring out what makes them work. He also pays attention to detail and notices the little things. I, on the other hand, tend to focus on ideas and people.

Optimism: A Strength You Can Develop

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Back in 1994 I completed the self-assessment in Martin Seligman ’s now-classic book, Learned Optimism. With most quizzes, I answer the questions, think about the interpretation for a few minutes and promptly forget about it. Not this time. The insights I gained from that thought-provoking test had a profound, lasting effect on the way I think about and explain what happens to me in life.

Change a Habit, Change Your Life

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Recently I was reminded once again how hard it is to change the way we think and the way we act, specifically when it comes to giving up a bad habit and adopting a good one. My husband Lee and I were at the Outer Banks of North Carolina with a group of enthusiastic bird watchers, and one morning we were having breakfast with another couple. The topic of food came up. The husband said he had a history of heart disease in his family and revealed that he’s pre-diabetic.

COVID & the Future of Work: Insights from Paycor’s C-Suite

In Paycor’s newest report, our Chief Executive and Group Leaders consider how your clients will recruit, manage their workforce, optimize benefits, and foster employee experience in the new normal of 2020 and beyond. For actionable insights and tips download and share our guide with your clients!

How to Prepare High School Students for Life

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Even though it’s been more than 40 years ago, I can still clearly remember the day my parents dropped me off to start my college career. I had no idea what to expect. They had brought all six of us kids up with a strong moral compass, but I know I wasn’t prepared for all the challenges and choices I’d face in that first year and throughout my college life. I had to feel my way through the process, and I made a lot of mistakes along the way. A lot.

How to Network Like a Fox

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I''ve been in business since 1982 and have read dozens of books about networking over the years. Usually Id get a nugget here and there, but then I was left to cobble together my own plan. In her Network Like a Fox is refreshingly different. Inside the covers of this value-packed book by Nancy Fox is an entire strategy mapped out for the taking. Foxs recommended approaches are closely aligned with my own values, focusing on what you can do for other people and not what theyll do for you.

Don’t Use THIS Tone of Voice…EVER

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My company had just completed a survey of our customers using our 20/20 Insight software, asking them to give us feedback about our product and our technical support staff. I was studying the results to identify areas we could improve the program and our service. These two comments grabbed my attention. “I I hesitate to call because I don’t like the way Sue talks to me.” "I I avoid calling unless I’m desperate for help. Sue uses a condescending tone whenever I call.”

Dustin Hoffman on Tootsie and Pre-judging People

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It’s been more than 30 years since Dustin Hoffman played the starring role in the movie Tootsie. This now-classic film required him to dress up as a woman in order to play the character of Dorothy Michaels. But before he agreed to play the part, he had a requirement. He didn’t want to look like a man dressed in drag. He wanted to be seen as a woman when walking down the streets of New York City. That, he was able to do.

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Why HR Technology Matters Now More Than Ever

When a crisis hits, HR technology gives business leaders the data, tools, and support to make important business decisions quickly. In this report, Josh Bersin breaks down the 4 key benefits of HR tech and demonstrates through case studies how business leaders can leverage it to solve problems and grow. Download this report to learn more!

Rewiring the Brain about Food

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When people set New Year’s resolutions, many include a weight loss goal. My husband and I took a different twist on this since he doesn't have additional pounds to lose and I have just a few. We want to eat in such a way that we maintain our ideal weight and keep our bodies in great working order so we stay healthy and avoid taking medications as we get older.

Keep Asking, Even When the World Says NO

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Imagine this. You have an idea for a book that you believe would be fantastic. You draft a proposal and send it to five publishers as a test. They all say no. You try five more. They say no, too. You’re discouraged but decide to double up and send your idea to TEN more publishers. Still no takers. That’s 20 indicators that your idea has no merit. What would you do at this point? Most people would give up. Maybe their idea wasn’t so great after all. Or it’s not worth the effort to keep trying.

The GPS Guide to Success

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Alex Tremble, author of The GPS Guide to Success I am drawn to people who have an exciting vision and take bold action. I’m especially impressed with individuals who develop these behavior patterns at a young age. Alex Tremble is such a person, and I’m privileged to know him. We met on Twitter after he gave me positive feedback about one of my blog posts. Our 140-character exchanges led to phone conversations where I learned about his deep commitment to helping young people.

Feel Gratitude, Express Appreciation

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“Gratitude is the most exquisite form of courtesy.” - Jacques Maritain, French philosopher (1882-1973) This time of year we’re encouraged to think about the people and things in our lives that we’re thankful for. Actually, this is a good thing to do every day. Starting and ending your day with a sense of gratitude helps you keep your difficulties in perspective. Making a list of what you’re grateful for is even more powerful. And I’d like to recommend another step: Expression of that gratitude.

Workplace Mask Policy & Return to Work Templates

Paycor’s comprehensive checklist and customizable letters will help you re-start your business and welcome your team back to a new normal.

How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

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For some reason, many of us wait until January 1 each year to set new goals. As if that’s the only time it’s appropriate to describe what you want to do, have or be. Actually, any day can work. But no matter when you decide the time is right, these five ingredients are essential for those dreams to become a reality. And they apply whether your goals focus on physical health, finances, relationships, career or spirituality.

The Power of Persistence

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The principles in Napoleon Hill’s classic, Think and Grow Rich can certainly be applied to the accumulation of money. But they also represent an outstanding roadmap for accomplishing any worthwhile achievements in your life. Best-selling author Bob Proctor has studied and taught Hill’s 13 success principles for 40 years. The two habits he’s developed over the years are worth adopting: 1. Read a few lines from the book every day.

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3 Interpersonal Skills Every Leader and Parent Should Have

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In the first job where I supervised other people, I made a terrible mistake. One day, a woman on my team told me she had done something without asking me, something she thought I’d be happy about. As I listened to her describe what she did, I let my facial expression communicate that I wasn’t pleased about the action she’d taken. I don’t think I actually scowled, but I probably came pretty close.

Developing a Strong Work Ethic Takes Work

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Several years ago I went on a “ladies only” weekend with six friends to a cabin that one of them owned in the mountains. We got along well and had a lot of fun together. But I noticed one very interesting thing over the course of the 3 days. A few of us consistently pitched in to help clean up the dishes after a meal, while others were content to sit around and watch. I found it curious that the thought never seemed to cross their minds about making a contribution or doing their fair share.

9 Ways to Manage Costs and Prepare for Future Growth

SMB leaders are working day and night to navigate the COVID-19 crisis. Successfully managing it requires the CFO and HR leader to make complex decisions quickly, without rushing into an uncoordinated response. Foremost among these decisions will be cost containment. The way organizations manage costs now will determine how well they perform during and after COVID-19. Download our guide and start preparing for the future today.