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Is Your Heart at Peace or at War with Others?

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Do you have an ongoing conflict with someone in your professional or personal life? If the tension and differences have been going on for a while, you’ve probably made a substantial list of things about that person you’d like to change.

Flying without a Helicopter – A Book for Millennials, Their Parents and Their Bosses

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Recently I was having a conversation about parenting with three people I love the most – my husband, daughter and son-in-law. This topic has immediate relevance for them since they had their first child in October.

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Do You Talk Too Much about Yourself?

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I’d arrived a few minutes at the beauty salon for my hair appointment. While I was waiting for my stylist to arrive, I couldn’t help overhearing the only other stylist who was there with a client. Sheila” was talking non-stop about a worker’s compensation situation involving her brother.

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Three Steps for Building a New Habit

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When you decide to make a change, you''ve taken an important step. Now you need to follow through on your commitment. But there’s a problem. As you begin this undertaking, you find that your old way of doing things kicks in more often than the new way.

Support Coaching Is Essential for New Habits

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“Mastering any kind of skill takes time, effort and patience. Along the way, there’s much you can do to help someone stay on track.” – Dennis E. Coates, Ph.D. in Support Coaching Do you know someone who’s trying to break a bad habit or form a new, positive one?

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Situational Leadership for Dummies

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Today I'm featuring a guest post by Henna Inam , a colleague whose outstanding new book, Wired for Authenticity , is a must-read for leaders. This past Sunday I got to spend a few hours as a “dumb blonde." It taught me some great lessons about authentic leadership.

Self-Esteem Has 6 Pillars

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My favorite author on the topic of self-esteem is Nathaniel Branden. No one holds a close second. Through his writing, I believe he’s done more than anyone else to show just how critical a healthy sense of self is to a person’s overall well-being and happiness.

Strategies

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Today I’m featuring a guest post from Henry Kimsey-House , co-author of a new, must-read book for every leader, Co-Active Leadership. A few years ago, Karen and I went to a workshop down in Silicon Valley called “Slideology” put on by Duarte Creative Design.

The Worst Listeners Are Guilty of This

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I was trying to have a conversation with this person. But I found myself getting irritated with one thing he kept doing…interrupting me in the middle of a sentence and talking over me.

How to Eliminate the Drama in Your Life

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I’ve been on a path of self-development for as long as I can remember…always on the look-out for books, podcasts, videos and quotes that inspire me to become more effective as a human being.

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How to Help Everyone in an Organization Become a Coach

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When I got my first job as a supervisor, I was given no training on how to be an effective leader. I made a lot of mistakes. And I had absolutely no idea how to coach my direct reports on to improve their performance. Unfortunately, what I experienced is not uncommon.

How Quickly Do You Get to a Place of Acceptance?

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On the first day of 2014, my husband and I had a terrific fall/winter garden in place, with rows of healthy vegetables like kale (3 varieties), collards and broccoli growing nicely. But then the bitterly cold weather hit a few weeks later, with temperatures in the single-digits.

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How to Prepare High School Students for Life

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Even though it’s been more than 40 years ago, I can still clearly remember the day my parents dropped me off to start my college career. I had no idea what to expect.

Judy Robinett: A True Power Connector

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A few years ago I got a phone call from a woman I’d connected with on Twitter. She had been following my blog and the blog of my business partner, Denny Coates , and said she was very impressed with our content. She said we were the kind of people she liked to connect with.

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The High Price of Ignoring Intuition

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In our last office space, I had a private door to my office off the main hallway. I typically used that door for trips to the ladies’ room since it was closer than our main entrance.

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Mental Rehearsal: The Secret to Superior Performance

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When you observe truly outstanding performers in any field, it’s like looking at the tip of an iceberg. You can see only a tiny fraction of what lies beneath the surface. You aren''t able to watch the commitment, preparation and repetitions that preceded the performance.

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Are You Disengaged at Work? Ruth Ross Has Answers

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Every now and then, I read a book that’s so potent I’d like to get it in the hands of everyone in the workplace. Coming Alive: The Journey to Reengage Your Life and Career by Ruth Ross is such a book.

Fear vs. Worry: Why They Are Not the Same

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Among the many useful insights I took away from Gavin de Becker’s masterful book The Gift of Fear , one of the most profound was a deeper appreciation for the distinction between worry and fear. Until reading the final chapter, I had not pondered the difference.

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Sheryl Sandberg and a Pivotal Question

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As I was reading Sheryl Sandberg ’s thought-provoking book, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead , I encountered a passage that popped out at me. As the sub-title implies, Sandberg addresses this book to women. But it’s an excellent read for men as well.

What Are You Feeding Your Brain?

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Sometimes you discover information that’s so important, you want to scream it from the rooftops to make sure everyone else finds out about it, too.

A Group Intervention at Work

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Several years ago I was supervising a team of ten people, and most of them got along well. But over time, I picked up serious rumblings from four of them about “Rita,” one of the team members.

Wayne Dyer Wisdom – A Change in Perspective

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“Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer, American author (1940- ) My husband Lee was a residential builder for almost 30 years. By training, he’s a mechanical engineer. That means he likes to take things apart and put them back to together.

Would you Rather Argue or Have a Dialogue?

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We miss many opportunities to have meaningful dialogue with another person, and as a result, we lose out on deepening the relationship. What often happens instead is that people assert their opinions without considering the reasoning, assumptions, or facts that their opinions are based on.

Blind Spots, Feedback and Change

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My husband Lee and I were in the kitchen preparing dinner last week, and I said, “I’m thinking that broccoli would be great as a side dish.” He looked at me and chuckled. What are you laughing about?” “It’s

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Change a Habit, Change Your Life

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Recently I was reminded once again how hard it is to change the way we think and the way we act, specifically when it comes to giving up a bad habit and adopting a good one.

Optimism: A Strength You Can Develop

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Back in 1994 I completed the self-assessment in Martin Seligman ’s now-classic book, Learned Optimism. With most quizzes, I answer the questions, think about the interpretation for a few minutes and promptly forget about it. Not this time.

Keep Asking, Even When the World Says NO

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Imagine this. You have an idea for a book that you believe would be fantastic. You draft a proposal and send it to five publishers as a test. They all say no. You try five more. They say no, too. You’re discouraged but decide to double up and send your idea to TEN more publishers. Still no takers.

The GPS Guide to Success

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Alex Tremble, author of The GPS Guide to Success I am drawn to people who have an exciting vision and take bold action. I’m especially impressed with individuals who develop these behavior patterns at a young age. Alex Tremble is such a person, and I’m privileged to know him.

Dustin Hoffman on Tootsie and Pre-judging People

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It’s been more than 30 years since Dustin Hoffman played the starring role in the movie Tootsie. This now-classic film required him to dress up as a woman in order to play the character of Dorothy Michaels. But before he agreed to play the part, he had a requirement.

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Don’t Use THIS Tone of Voice…EVER

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My company had just completed a survey of our customers using our 20/20 Insight software, asking them to give us feedback about our product and our technical support staff. I was studying the results to identify areas we could improve the program and our service.

The Power of Persistence

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The principles in Napoleon Hill’s classic, Think and Grow Rich can certainly be applied to the accumulation of money. But they also represent an outstanding roadmap for accomplishing any worthwhile achievements in your life.

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Rewiring the Brain about Food

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When people set New Year’s resolutions, many include a weight loss goal. My husband and I took a different twist on this since he doesn't have additional pounds to lose and I have just a few.

Virtual Coffee – A Power Tool for Connecting

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What if you had a way to give free positive publicity to one of your key connections or influencers? Would you do it? Recently I joined the community of More Clients More Fun to learn more ways to leverage the power of LinkedIn to build strong relationships.

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The Best Kind of Accountability Coach

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Several years ago we retained the services of a marketing consultant who gave us some terrific ideas for growing our business. In the process of working together, I got to know “Brian” well, both personally and professionally.

Feel Gratitude, Express Appreciation

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“Gratitude is the most exquisite form of courtesy.” - Jacques Maritain, French philosopher (1882-1973) This time of year we’re encouraged to think about the people and things in our lives that we’re thankful for. Actually, this is a good thing to do every day.

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How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

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For some reason, many of us wait until January 1 each year to set new goals. As if that’s the only time it’s appropriate to describe what you want to do, have or be. Actually, any day can work.

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Developing a Strong Work Ethic Takes Work

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Several years ago I went on a “ladies only” weekend with six friends to a cabin that one of them owned in the mountains. We got along well and had a lot of fun together. But I noticed one very interesting thing over the course of the 3 days.

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Happiness, Joy and Gratitude

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Ever think about what it would take to make you really happy? To feel a deep sense of joy? Some people say they need a certain amount of money. Others focus on lifestyle, travel, a stress-free job, or free time. Many want more time with family and friends.

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3 Interpersonal Skills Every Leader and Parent Should Have

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In the first job where I supervised other people, I made a terrible mistake. One day, a woman on my team told me she had done something without asking me, something she thought I’d be happy about.

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A Chess Teacher Shows Students How to Learn from Experience

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When I attended Catholic schools between first grade and eighth grade, the emphasis was on conforming to the rules, not learning how to think for yourself. Things didn't change much in my four years at public high school. My experience probably wasn't unique.

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A Hair Stylist with More than Technical Skills

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I found myself procrastinating. I needed to get my hair cut but I delayed making the appointment because it took 40 minutes to drive to the salon where my hairdresser worked.

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The Problem with Over-preparing

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Some people I know jump right in with both feet when they’re presented with an opportunity. They say YES and don’t worry about how they’re going to do it. They’ll figure it out later. I admire that approach, and I've done the same thing myself at times.

The Best Gift You Can Give…Year-Round

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This time of year, people spend a lot of time looking for the perfect holiday presents for loved ones. These gifts can involve a lot of money. Sometimes you luck out, and the present hits the mark. It’s just what the person hoped for.