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TIM MILBURN Why Can’t Anyone Motivate Me?
| THURSDAY, JULY 3, 2014
When it comes to motivation, you might think this requires giving something to someone else that pumps them up (like a pep talk, a bonus, an ultimatum, etc). But motivation actually comes from the inside of a person. It’s a person’s own desires and energy that fuels action. photo credit: Calidenism via photopin cc. You can’t actually motivate someone else. But you can influence the motivation that already exists inside of another person in order to help that person get something done.
TIM MILBURN Excellence Is An Attainable Goal
| TUESDAY, JULY 1, 2014
I’d like to talk to all of the student leaders in the room for a moment. Everyone else can listen in if you’d like). As a student leader, you bring a unique set of strengths, abilities, and weaknesses to the table. You may or may not feel like you possess the “leadership” gene. But the one quality each and every student leader can demonstrate is excellence. photo credit: anjan58 via photopin cc. Excellence is within your reach if you are willing to pursue it.
TIM MILBURN How To Do One Thing For 90 Days In A Row
| MONDAY, JUNE 30, 2014
January 1 is such an exciting day. Sooo many people are all geared up to make changes. They start writing. They start working out. They start eating vegetables. They start… Then there’s January 11. Not such an exciting day. And not very many people doing what they set out to do on January 1. Why can’t we find the self-discipline to do the one thing we promised ourselves we would do? It’s because we don’t have a plan. We don’t have a framework to follow.
TIM MILBURN Self-Discipline Isn’t Multiple Choice
| FRIDAY, JUNE 27, 2014
If I’m going to take a test, I like to take multiple choice tests. That way I know the correct answer is there…somewhere. Even if I don’t know which one is correct, I can still guess. But self-discipline isn’t a multiple choice test. It’s a True / False test. I either have it or I don’t. I either do what I’m supposed to do or I don’t. It’s not about options. It’s about making a decision and then managing that decision on a daily basis.
TIM MILBURN Self-Discipline Isn’t Automatic
| WEDNESDAY, JUNE 25, 2014
Miranda Lambert has a song out entitled, Automatic. You can watch the music video below. The chorus of her song seems really appropriate for this next post on self-discipline. It goes like this: Hey what ever happened to waiting your turn Doing it all by hand, ’cause when everything is handed to you It’s only worth as much as the time put in It all just seems so good the way we had it Back before everything became automatic.
TIM MILBURN Self-Discipline Isn’t Emotional
| TUESDAY, JUNE 24, 2014
“But I don’t feel like it.” ” I don’t know how many times I’ve said that, heard that, or read that when I challenged someone to follow through on their promise. How much of our life is directed by our emotions? How many times do we default to our feelings instead of our commitments? Photo Credit: kaneda99 via Compfight cc. I’m learning that self-discipline challenges me to take my emotions out of the equation. It’s not that emotions are bad or evil.
TIM MILBURN Self-Discipline Isn’t Convenient
| MONDAY, JUNE 23, 2014
Self-discipline sounds a lot like punishing myself. It’s all about sacrificing what I want to do for what I have to do. It’s “making myself do the thing I have to do, when it ought to be done, whether I like it or not.” Huxley). Back in June, 2013, Time ran an article that described a study showing that Self-Disciplined People Are Happier. “…the researchers found a strong connection between higher levels of self-control and life satisfaction.
TIM MILBURN Five Irrational Fears That Keep Us From Moving Forward
| TUESDAY, JUNE 17, 2014
If you are a human being (which means all alien beings can stop reading now) then you are going to experience fear. Fear is emotion – raw, unfiltered anxiety that has evolved over time to protect us from the painful and maybe fatal situations we encounter. Rational fear is good fear. It protects us. It is a healthy fear that keeps us from putting ourselves into the path of unnecessary danger. For example, we don’t jump the fence into the lion’s den at the zoo.
TIM MILBURN Making Setbacks Work For You
| THURSDAY, MAY 8, 2014
This is a guest post by Robert L. Dilenschneider, author of The Critical First Years of Your Professional Life. How can you tap into the power of a setback — and make it work for you? I have nine recommendations. If you’re shocked by the setback, ask yourself why. In Ambition: How We Manage Success and Failure Throughout Our Lives , Gilbert Brim observes that “sometimes we don’t know we are losing until the very end.” ” And that’s not entirely our fault.
TIM MILBURN Three Ways To Capture Your Vision
| WEDNESDAY, APRIL 9, 2014
I recently returned from a leadership conference with my newly elected student leaders. We bonded and created fun memories. We even made up a few new words that will stick with us throughout the next year. The conference and journey together gave us all increased momentum as we anticipated what we wanted to accomplish in the near future. Each new student leader comes to the table with hopes and dreams and ideas. We all have some sense of what we want our year in student leadership to look like.
TIM MILBURN 7 Ways To Battle The Complainer Inside Of You
| MONDAY, MARCH 24, 2014
In his groundbreaking book, The Road Less Traveled , Dr. Scott Peck offers in the opening sentence, what he later identifies as “the greatest truth”: Life is difficult. He goes on to say, “Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”. Photo credit: Getty Images. It doesn’t matter that life is difficult ?!
TIM MILBURN Four Reasons You Need Vision To See Where You’re Going
| WEDNESDAY, MARCH 19, 2014
It’s that time of year when we get to hear the campaign speeches from our candidates for student leadership positions. Beyond their ability to give a good speech, they each share their hopes and dreams for next year. They lay out their plan to make it “the best year ever.” ” They are sharing their vision for the future. A distinguished philosopher once wrote that the greatest force for the advancement of the human species is “a great hope held in common.”
TIM MILBURN Five Ways To Find Fulfillment In Your Day
| MONDAY, MARCH 17, 2014
When you lay your head on your pillow at night, you drift off to sleep with a sense of fatigue. But that fatigue can be caused by a couple of different things. You’re tired and frustrated from spinning your wheels all day but not having much to show for it. You’re tired and fulfilled from putting your energy into activities that moved you forward in life. I love it when I can look back on my day and feel a sense of satisfaction.
TIM MILBURN Fail Forward Fast
| FRIDAY, MARCH 14, 2014
The following is an excerpt from the book, The Way of the Seal: Think Like an Elite Warrior to Lead and Succeed , by Mark Divine with Allyson Edelhertz Machate. Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. Winston Churchill, British Prime Minister (1874-1965). I believe the world is chaotic and destiny favors the prepared.
TIM MILBURN Developing A Philosophy Of Failure (Part 2)
| TUESDAY, MARCH 11, 2014
In Part One of this article I explained why it was important to develop a philosophy around the ways we approach, handle, and learn from failure. In this second part, I will offer six questions to aid in the process of developing our own philosophy of failure. I wish we talked about failure more than we do in student leadership development circles.
TIM MILBURN Developing A Philosophy Of Failure (Part 1)
| WEDNESDAY, MARCH 5, 2014
The most effective leadership development processes give people the opportunity to learn to lead by leading. Even if you spend an enormous amount of time preparing students for leadership, you’ll never know what kind of leader they will be until they start leading. And like most things, they won’t get it perfect on their first try (or their second…or third…).
TIM MILBURN For The Good Of Others
| WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 12, 2014
Leadership starts with taking responsibility, first for oneself, then, for the good of others. In other words, leadership starts with you but it’s not about you. It’s about working for the good of others. Imagine the following scenario: You walk into your house and your mom or dad is standing over a broken lamp on the floor. They look at the lamp and then they look at you. Their eyes dart back and forth between the lamp and you. Their gaze is somewhat accusing.
TIM MILBURN The Power Of Trust (Book Excerpt)
| TUESDAY, JANUARY 28, 2014
The following is an excerpt from the book, The Age of the Customer, by Jim Blasingame. Few things help an individual more than to place responsibility upon him and to let him know that you trust him. Booker T. Washington. Thousands of years ago, when Og instinctively held up his open palm for the first time to reveal to Gog that he wasn’t holding a weapon, Og was saying, “Trust me, I mean you no harm.”
TIM MILBURN The “Leadership Is Not About You” Reviews
| TUESDAY, JANUARY 14, 2014
One of the best parts of launching a book is making new friends. Someone once told me that “a book is a business card that people don’t throw away.” ” I’d have to agree. Writing a book creates all kinds of opportunities for conversations. I’ve already begun communicating with people about the book on three different continents other than my own. One person wrote back with some helpful feedback on how to make the book even better. What a gift!
TIM MILBURN It’s Not About Me
| MONDAY, JANUARY 13, 2014
Today is the first day of the ten day launch of my newest book, Leadership Is Not About You. Can I tell you something? It’s exciting to launch a book. It’s such a great feeling to see all of your words spread out on a bunch of pages with a nicely printed cover. It felt like Christmas when the first box of copies showed up off the UPS truck. I opened the package and there it was…my book…times 150!
TIM MILBURN New Book: Leadership Is Not About You
| FRIDAY, JANUARY 10, 2014
You elected or selected students in your school, church, or organization to be leaders. You even call them student leaders. But now they’re doing everything by themselves. They are working hard, but they’re not leading…anyone…else. I’ve just released my latest book, Leadership Is Not About You. It’s the follow-up book to Leadership Starts With You. I put this book in the hands of every one of my student leaders.
TIM MILBURN Learn To Lead By Leading
| MONDAY, JANUARY 6, 2014
One of the reasons people are interested in leadership development is because it so closely aligned with personal development. Working on one’s leadership capacity requires some work in the area of personal growth and an understanding of one’s temperament, personality, and skill set. photo credit: kendura99 via photopin cc. With that in mind, I am always excited to hear from students who are eager to learn more about leadership. I believe each person can learn to be a better leader.
TIM MILBURN “Your Resolution” Starts With Y
| MONDAY, DECEMBER 30, 2013
It’s that time of year. The end of one. The start of another. And I know you are tempted to do what you always do. You want to make a resolution. Don’t do it. You made a resolution last year. Remember? Look how long that lasted. I believe there’s a time and a place for a person to make resolutions. I just don’t think that time and place occurs on January 1 of each year. I believe in resolutions. I just don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions.
TIM MILBURN What Do You Want In 2014?
| FRIDAY, DECEMBER 27, 2013
This is the time of year when we think about and talk about goals. I wrote down six goals for 2013 around this time last year. I accomplished half of them. That’s 50% (I just did the math in my head). Some people might look at that and think that I failed. But I can’t believe how successful I feel. I made great progress this year and I am grateful for all of the work I put in. Even on those goals that I didn’t accomplish.
TIM MILBURN Hacking The Passion Gap
| WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 18, 2013
This is a guest post by Mike Myatt, author of the new book, Hacking Leadership. Review any list of positive leadership traits and “ passion ” will undoubtedly rank near the top – rightly so. In most cases passion is an asset capable of carrying you through tough times, sharpening your perspective, revealing purpose, and helping you succeed in the face of overwhelming odds.
TIM MILBURN Time To Take A Leadership “Selfie”
| FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 22, 2013
The word “selfie” has been declared the Word Of The Year for 2013 by Oxford Dictionaries. I am simply reporting that as news. I’m not sure if it’s good news. The BBC reports it this way… To qualify, a word need not have been coined within the past 12 months, but it does need to have become prominent or notable in that time.
TIM MILBURN How To Inspire Others Without Saying A Word
| THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 14, 2013
Don’t underestimate the power of your example. I’m often asked: Is example enough? What do you think? Does the boss who says one thing and does another influence you? Does the person whose private life would destroy their public life seem like the type of person we want in leadership? Does the classroom, the lecture, the PowerPoint slides seem like the best way to learn? We can all see where example is powerful. A positive example is more valuable than a positive statement.
TIM MILBURN Be Bold: Your “Future Best”
| WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 13, 2013
This is a guest post by my friend, Jeff Shore. Jeff is a highly sought-after sales expert, speaker, author and executive coach. “I I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself.”. Mikhail Baryshnikov. Your best is not the same as the highest you can achieve! At some point in your childhood, you were probably told to “do your best.” While not bad advice, this phrase contains some potentially negative implications. photo credit: Sanctuary photography ? back
TIM MILBURN Challenged To Do More By Doing Less
| THURSDAY, OCTOBER 31, 2013
I never realized I was doing it wrong for most of my life. It seemed obvious to me that you peeled a banana by pulling on the stem. Then one day, someone explained to me that there was a better way. I needed to start peeling a banana like the monkeys do. It really is easier to peel a banana this way. My life will never be the same. It’s this kind of AHA moment that has inspired me to slow down and try to do less.
TIM MILBURN Effective Offline Brand Strategies
| THURSDAY, OCTOBER 31, 2013
This is a guest post by Rachel Matthews. Online marketing is all the rage these days and for good reason. Each day, more people are turning to the internet in search of the products or services they need. However, an effective brand marketing strategy should be multi-dimensional. Effective brand marketing involves not only making your business visible but also building trust in your brand. photo credit: pasma via photopin cc.
TIM MILBURN The Heart Of Leadership: Book Giveaway
| WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 23, 2013
I am grateful to be a part of the launch of Mark Miller’s latest book, The Heart of Leadership. I will tell you how you can enter into my giveaway for a free copy of the book below. The basic question each leader must answer is this: Are you the type of leader people want to follow? The Heart of Leadership identifies five specific leadership character traits required for maximum influence and impact, and shows how to cultivate them.
TIM MILBURN Help Your Kid’s Cultivate A Leader’s Heart
| TUESDAY, OCTOBER 22, 2013
This is a guest post by Mark Miller. Mark is launching his book The Heart Of Leadership this week. As we launch The Heart of Leadership , I’m reminded of how grateful I am that several of the leadership character traits I outline in the book were instilled in me early in life. I’ve not mastered all of them, but thanks to my parents, I wasn’t starting from scratch as an adult.
TIM MILBURN 5 Core Values For The Workplace
| WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 2, 2013
This is a guest post by Robert L. Dilenschneider, author of A Briefing for Leaders: Communication As the Ultimate Exercise of Power. There are many fine values, such as courtesy, confidence, ingenuity, thrift, and so on. The trouble is that the list of values grows easily and can cause many employees to lose their focus. They fail to prioritize. A “short list” of values is far more useful in putting the workplace back on track. photo credit: Bob AuBuchon via photopin cc.
TIM MILBURN Leadership Starts With You (The Webinar)
| TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 24, 2013
I recently did a “live” webinar for the amazing sales associates of Thirty One gifts. This webinar was hosted by Courtney Hawkins. She is a Senior Executive Director at Thirty One Gifts. We recorded the webinar and I wanted to make it available to you. You can access it by clicking the picture or the link below. Webinar Title: Leadership Starts With You. Length: 1:12:00. Topic: Every single person lives with the responsibility to lead him or herself well.
TIM MILBURN How To Leave A Great Impression As A Speaker
| MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 23, 2013
We had just spent a full day of training. My students got to hear from a variety of speakers. I walked out of the conference hall and headed toward a group of them huddled up in the corner staring at their phones. “So…how were the speakers?” ” I asked. Here are some of their responses… They were great! I feel better prepared for the year. I was sort of sleepy. I liked this one guy’s stories. I felt like she knew what I was going through.
TIM MILBURN Failure: Will You Quit Or Will You Question?
| WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 11, 2013
I slumped down next to a tree near the finish line. I was exhausted and I was frustrated. I had just completed a cross country race. It was the second race of the season. I came in last place. It’s no fun being last. Every single one of the 80-90 runners that day had crossed the finish line in front of me. As I sat there, with my head leaning back against the tree, I kept saying to myself, “I’m done with this.” ” My coach approached me.
TIM MILBURN Leadership Is Difficult, But It Doesn’t Have To Be Hard
| THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 5, 2013
Here is a quote that communicates a profound truth in a simple way. There are leaders and there are those who lead. The quote is by Simon Sinek. He is the author of a fantastic book called Start With Why. He also offers his insights in quotable form on Twitter. The quote serves as a warning. You might have a leadership position or a leadership title, but that doesn’t necessarily make you a leader. Title and position alone aren’t enough to be effective.
TIM MILBURN Are You Addicted To Tools And Allergic To Work?
| THURSDAY, AUGUST 29, 2013
I need to make a confession. I like tools. I’m always resisting the urge to slip an extra screwdriver or socket wrench into the cart. I can’t walk down the aisles of a Home Depot without seeing a tool I’d like to have. Even if I don’t need the tool now, I can always imagine how it will come in handy…someday. photo credit: Seditious Canary via photopin cc. But it doesn’t end there.
TIM MILBURN Seven Ways To Follow Like A Leader
| TUESDAY, AUGUST 27, 2013
I’ll often get asked what it takes to be a great leader. Those asking the question are typically looking for one or two standout, key principles or characteristics. They want it simple and succinct. I’ll be honest here, my answer to that question often changes. Leadership is a matter of context, so I’ll often tell them it depends.
TIM MILBURN Preparation Is Your Secret Sauce
| WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 7, 2013
We have a couple of weeks until the start of our Fall Semester. It’s GO time! This is an exciting time of year in the life of student leadership. Our student leaders are arriving on campus a few days before everyone else to get everything ready. It’s time to put our plans into action. It’s time to see how all of our preparation pays off. photo credit: atmtx via photopin cc.
TIM MILBURN 10 Strategies To Increase Your Mental Focus
| FRIDAY, JULY 26, 2013
I tried out a new workout yesterday at a place called 9Round. It combines cross fit and kickboxing training moves into a fast-paced workout at nine different stations. You walk in, jump in, and go hard for 30 minutes. During the workout I saw a poster displaying the core values of 9Round. It was inspiring (you can view it here ). It also had one of the best definitions for the word “focus” I’ve ever seen… F ollow O ne C ourse U ntil S uccessful.
TIM MILBURN Thinking About Stepping Into A Leadership Position?
| MONDAY, JULY 15, 2013
I am constantly on the lookout for students who have the potential to lead. When I find them, I ask them this question: Have you ever considered applying or running for a student leadership position? I want to encourage people to lead. The only way one truly learns to lead is by actually leading. photo credit: paurian via photopin cc.
TIM MILBURN Increase Your Motivation In 5 Minutes
| TUESDAY, JULY 9, 2013
Maybe you can relate to the following scenario… I have a task that I need to do. I know it needs to be done because I wrote it down on my to-do list. I know it needs to be done today because I put today’s date next to it as a deadline. I have everything I need to be able to successfully accomplish this task. I have the skill, I have the ability, and I have the time. But there is one thing I lack that is keeping me from starting… I don’t feel like doing it.
TIM MILBURN 15 Unorganized Thoughts On Being Better Organized
| THURSDAY, JULY 4, 2013
The stuff of life can pile up quickly. Each day I accumulate new to-do’s, countless pieces of paper, unforeseen problems, random interruptions and numerous distractions. Over time, I begin to form piles. Piles on my desk. Piles in my mind. Piles around the goals I’m working to accomplish. In order to be productive, I must do battle with the clutter. photo credit: sanden. via photopin cc. The clutter is a source of stress if it’s not addressed.
TIM MILBURN The Three Most Important Components Of Any Meeting
| FRIDAY, JUNE 28, 2013
I have a love/hate relationship with meetings. I love them when they’re necessary. I hate them when they’re full of unnecessary elements (like my presence). I love them when they move us forward. I hate them when they don’t move us any closer to our goal. I love them when they take less time than allotted. I hate them when they take more time than needed. I love them when they clarify. I hate them when they confuse.
TIM MILBURN The Psychology Of A Company Leader
| WEDNESDAY, JUNE 19, 2013
The following is a guest post by Scott McGinty. Look at a CEO of a fortune 500 company, get a sense of their personality, and then look at the CEO of a successful startup. Chances are, they’re going to be very different. One would have the mindset of relating to their employees and making a fun environment, after all, most start up’s have passionate CEO’s. Larger firms CEO’s will be more distant, and much more professional, with investors in mind.
TIM MILBURN Five Online Communities To Strengthen Your Productivity Skills
| SUNDAY, MAY 19, 2013
This is a guest post by Lewis Jacobs, a free lance writer and social media specialist. You’ve heard the phrase “natural born leader.” But what if you aren’t a natural born leader? How do you go about acquiring the skills and tools and the confidence to become a leader in your own right? Hopefully, you are learning what it takes to be productive and to help those on your team to be productive as well.
TIM MILBURN Three Benefits To Going All In
| TUESDAY, MAY 7, 2013
Every now and then, ESPN will air the World Series of Poker. They play Texas Hold’Em for gobs of cash and bragging rights. The most dramatic moments occur when one of the players at the table utters two words… All In. photo credit: Reza Vaziri via photopin cc. Most of the time, this means the player is putting all of his or her chips on the table. It’s typically an all or nothing move. Get the winning hand and you play on. Lose the hand and you’re done for the day.
TIM MILBURN You Might Be A Leader…
| WEDNESDAY, MAY 1, 2013
One question that I’m often asked is whether or not I believe every person can be a leader? My answer: yes and no. I answer “yes” because I think every person has the potential and the responsibility to lead oneself well. I believe leadership does start with you. You and I must learn, practice, and hone our ability to lead our own selves well. photo credit: theloushe via photopin cc. But I also answer “no.”
TIM MILBURN Six Ways To Earn The Trust Of Those Around You
| MONDAY, APRIL 29, 2013
I walked into the room full of newly elected student leaders. You could feel the excitement. You could sense that each one of them was motivated to do his or her very best. They all wore the same t-shirt. They were all on the same team. The only question that remained between their success or failure as a group was a simple one… Would they learn to trust each other? Every new year is full of excitement and anticipation.
TIM MILBURN Getting The M.O.S.T. Out Of Your Student Leadership Year
| THURSDAY, APRIL 25, 2013
The life of a student can be very demanding. You are learning to balance your classes, your relationships, your workload, and your free time. On top of all that, you became a student leader. In the midst of the demands, it’s easy to begin to live from event to event…from one task to the next. When that happens, you will find yourself trying to play catch-up all year. You may miss out on what can be a great experience for you. A school year is demanding, both mentally and physically.
TIM MILBURN Beautiful Skin Can’t Cover A Rotten Heart
| TUESDAY, APRIL 23, 2013
Do you know how to pick out a quality piece of fruit? Everyone I talk to seems to have a technique to pick out the sweetest, juiciest, and tastiest ones in the pile. But I don’t have that ability. For example, I was trying to make these fancy fruit parfaits for a special meal I was preparing. The recipe called for a mango. So I went to the mango pile at the grocery store and started looking them over. I picked the one that looked the best out of the bunch.
TIM MILBURN The One Barrier Standing In Your Way
| WEDNESDAY, APRIL 17, 2013
I have a running joke with some of my friends. You might have a similar one. We imagine what we’d do if we won the lottery. We dream about how we would spend all that money. We talk about how many problems we could solve with our winnings. But then someone will state the obvious… “Don’t you have to buy a lottery ticket to have a chance at winning the lottery?” ” We all smile. None of us wants to spend the money on a lottery ticket.
TIM MILBURN How To Wait When The Waiting Is Hard
| SATURDAY, APRIL 13, 2013
I don’t like to wait. The study of leadership seems to be about doing, about making something happen. But there are situations where I have made the decision to wait. Because that’s the right decision. A good decision can become a bad decision if it’s not the right time. Timing matters. But it’s even harder to wait when the decision or circumstance is out of our control.
TIM MILBURN 10 Adjectives To Affirm Those Around You
| THURSDAY, APRIL 11, 2013
It was the end of the night. Our students had worked hard all day to put together a top notch event. There were numerous details and all of the elements of the event seemed to exceed expectations. As we were milling around the room, cleaning up all of the decorations, I turned to the student in charge and said one word to her, “Awesome!” ” She smiled and thanked me. One word had said it all. Everybody needs and wants affirmation.
TIM MILBURN How To Enhance Your Eye For Detail
| TUESDAY, APRIL 9, 2013
There’s a scene near the beginning of the movie, Sherlock Holmes (2009 with Robert Downey Jr and Jude Law), where Holmes and Watson have thwarted an occult-like ritual led by the evil Lord Blackwood. As Watson moves in to grab Blackwood, Holmes abruptly stops him. Holmes then proceeds to point to a long, transparent needle protruding from Blackwood designed to pierce Watson when he got close. Watson is relieved and amazed. How did you even see that?”.
TIM MILBURN How Do You Respond To The Voices?
| MONDAY, APRIL 1, 2013
As I was driving into work today, I turned off the radio and just drove in silence. But it wasn’t quiet. In the stillness of the cab of my truck, I could hear the voices. Not the crazy voices. The ones that form the the messages that flow out of my thoughts. They all masquerade behind the sound of my own voice in my head. The intensity and tone of these messages vary. Some are reflective, instructive, and encouraging. Others are discouraging, negative, and accusing.
TIM MILBURN The Power of WE
| THURSDAY, MARCH 28, 2013
Love the message in this video. This is the kind of campaign I can get behind wholeheartedly. For more information about G5 Leadership and other resources that supplement this campaign, visit this page. Related posts: Leadership And The Power Of Stories. Consistency Gives Self-Discipline It’s Power. Book Review: The Power Of Starting Something Stupid
TIM MILBURN Ten Pills That Are Tough To Swallow
| WEDNESDAY, MARCH 27, 2013
I remember when I was little. I had the toughest time swallowing pills. I would put them in my mouth, drink some water, throw my head back, swallow the water…and the pills were still in my mouth. photo credit: Deborah Leigh (Migraine Chick) via photopin cc. While the whole “tough pill to swallow” thing is a bit cliche’, we can’t deny certain realities – even when we want to deny or ignore them. There are lessons life has to teach us.
TIM MILBURN The 3 Motives Of A Leader People Want To Follow
| MONDAY, MARCH 25, 2013
We are in the process of electing/selecting our group of student leaders for next year. We call them “student leaders” because they will fill the various leadership roles we have identified on our campus. These include positions in student government, resident assistants, peer mentors, etc. Each of these roles have some authority (with a lot of responsibility) built into them.
TIM MILBURN Book Review: The Power Of Starting Something Stupid
| FRIDAY, MARCH 22, 2013
If you were to drop by my office right now, you would see stacks of books that have been given to me for review purposes. It’s become apparent that if you have a fairly successful blog and have written your own books, people are happy to share their work with you. It’s the new marketing machine of publishing. I will often share a tool, resource, or book that I have found helpful in my own journey.
TIM MILBURN Develop Your Self-Leadership M.A.R.K.E.R.s
| WEDNESDAY, MARCH 20, 2013
When I’m standing in front of a room full of people and talk about the importance of leading yourself well, everyone typically nods their heads. They nod for a couple of reasons: 1. They know they need to lead themselves well. They know someone who hasn’t led him or herself well. Affirmative nods are one thing. Affirmative action (not the kind you’re thinking of) is another. Knowing you have to lead yourself well is not enough.
TIM MILBURN Five Ways To Turn Your Crisis Into A Comeback
| MONDAY, MARCH 18, 2013
A Note To My Readers: You may have noticed I took a six month hiatus from blogging on my site. The biggest reason is mentioned in this post. If you’re one of my subscribers and committed readers, I’m grateful for your attention. I will begin to add more content to the site in the days and weeks ahead. I love comeback stories. They share the journey of someone who had tasted success and rose to the top of his or her game. But somewhere along the way this person encountered a tragedy.
TIM MILBURN How To Sustain Team Success Through The Storms of Adversity, Uncertainty, And Change
| WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 24, 2012
This is a guest post by Dennis N.T. Perkins, Author of Into the Storm: Lessons in Teamwork from the Treacherous Sydney to Hobart Ocean Race. Imagine navigating a tiny boat through a sudden, violent storm at sea — with winds roaring at nearly 100 mph and waves soaring to 80 feet — to not only survive, but triumph over formidable competitors in one of the world’s toughest ocean races.
TIM MILBURN Three Characteristics Of An Influential Leader
| MONDAY, OCTOBER 22, 2012
There’s a simple test you can take to see if you’re a leader: turn around and see if anyone is following you. People may follow you for all kinds of reasons. I tend to break them into three categories: They follow you because they have to – you are an authority over them. They follow you because they need to – you have something they want. They follow you because they want to – you influence them in a positive way. photo credit: manufrakass via photopin cc.
TIM MILBURN Put Exercise On Your Calendar Not Your To-Do List
| MONDAY, OCTOBER 15, 2012
Maybe you can relate to the following dilemma: I put all of the tasks I want to accomplish during the day on a list. I call this…my to-do list. Throughout the day I attempt to tackle all of the items on my to-do list. On good days, I’ll try and accomplish the more important tasks rather than simply going after the most urgent ones. I’ll typically come to the end of the day feeling like I didn’t have enough time to accomplish what was on my to-do list.
TIM MILBURN How You See Problems Helps You Solve Problems
| MONDAY, OCTOBER 1, 2012
It’s a fact of life that no matter what you’re involved in, if you stay with it for any length of time, you’re going to encounter problems. Student leaders who are surprised when problems surface during their time in leadership have an unrealistic view of things. In fact, if there were no problems there wouldn’t be any need for leaders. So from this point forward, let’s consider problems to be a part of your job security as a student leader. photo credit: jinterwas via photopin cc.
TIM MILBURN 3 Ways To Maintain The Momentum Of The Moment
| TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 4, 2012
The beginning of a school year, the start of a project, or the launch of a campaign are moments filled with energy and hopeful enthusiasm. Everyone is excited at the start of something. I just returned from a weekend retreat with the new freshman students on our campus. There was a palpable sense of anticipation and excitement. Up to this point, everyone has straight A’s. As a leader, I would encourage you to take advantage of the built-in momentum that comes with each new beginning.
TIM MILBURN 5 Ways Student Leaders Fail A Little
| TUESDAY, AUGUST 28, 2012
I am in the business of helping student leaders succeed. But you must realize that I probably define success differently than most. Within the world of student leadership, the road to success is sometimes paved with failure. Some of the best lessons I can teach or talk about come from the mistakes and mishaps that occur during the student leader year. For a student leader, failure can be the fodder of lifelong lessons.
TIM MILBURN A System For Rapid Realignment
| TUESDAY, AUGUST 14, 2012
This is a guest post by Dr. George H. Labovitz and Victor Rosansky, co-authors of Rapid Realignment: How to Quickly Integrate People, Processes, and Strategy for Unbeatable Performance. As you read this post, think of ways you can implement this realignment system within your own environment of culture. If you’ve ever skippered a sailboat, you know that you cannot simply set a course and then sit back, relax, and watch the waves roll by.
TIM MILBURN Opening The Door To Leadership
| MONDAY, AUGUST 13, 2012
Have you ever tried to get into a restaurant or store in the middle of the day but the door wouldn’t open. You look at the sign displaying the business hours – the business is open but the door won’t open. You see people inside and wonder why they have locked themselves into the building. Then you see it…the other sign. The little sign next to the door handle says “push.”
TIM MILBURN 12 Basic Choices Lifelong Leaders Make
| FRIDAY, AUGUST 10, 2012
When you write a blog centered around leadership development, the messages often repeat themselves. Do a search for “leadership” on Google and you’ll come across hundreds of thousands of articles, posts, tips, principles, and illustrations to help you improve in the area of leadership. Put all of the leadership development blogs out there together and you’ll see a lot of similar messages and material. My hope on this site is to simplify some of those messages.
TIM MILBURN You Steer Where You’re Looking
| TUESDAY, AUGUST 7, 2012
My good friend, Mike recently took me mountain biking on some of the trails running through the foothills above Boise. Before this, I mostly rode my bike on the street and on the local greenbelt. It became quickly obvious – hills are a game changer. We rode up until I couldn’t go any farther. The sign that we had reached this point was me losing my breakfast out on the trail. Hills are also the ultimate weight-loss plan.
TIM MILBURN Join Our Community Of Lifelong Leaders
| MONDAY, AUGUST 6, 2012
In a couple of weeks, students will return to campus for another school year. It is our student leaders who show up first. When they arrive we’ll tell our stories about the summer. We’ll go on a retreat and bond and laugh and prepare. Then we’ll focus on all of the things we have to do to get ready for the start of the school year. At some point, I’ll share this message.
TIM MILBURN 14 Attributes of Great Coaches
| FRIDAY, AUGUST 3, 2012
The following is a guest post (reprinted from his site) by Garret Kramer , the author of Stillpower: Excellence with Ease in Sports and Life. Garret’s last guest post on timmilburn.com generated a lot of conversation. He will challenge your assumptions. Read this post with an open mind, then go out and pick up his book. There are many, many coaching manuals and books on the market today.
TIM MILBURN Seven Stages In The Life Of A Difference-Maker
| THURSDAY, AUGUST 2, 2012
You’re the only one who can make the difference. Whatever your dream is, go for it. Earvin “Magic” Johnson. At the beginning of each school year, I invite student leaders to think about what they hope the end of the year will look like. I have never heard a student say he or she hopes the end of the year will be exactly as things are right now.
TIM MILBURN 3 Ways To Reconnect When You Return
| WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 1, 2012
I’m back in the office after some time away. Summer = one of the perks of working at an academic institution. The first day back after summer is a bit surreal. You’re back, but you’re not really back. It takes time to reconnect when you’ve been away. It could be summer break. It could be a vacation. It could be a new season for your sport. There are a lot of moments when we leave something and come back.
TIM MILBURN Symbols Express Meaning In Ways Words Cannot
| TUESDAY, JULY 24, 2012
The front of Beaver Stadium in Pennsylvania has a bare spot. The spot was formerly the home of the Joe Paterno statue. The bronze image of a man who had coached a football program into a national powerhouse. The flattened, metal silhouettes of football players attached to the wall behind the statue removed as well. The statue told a story of a man who led young men. It represented a piece of history for those who bled the blue-and-white of Penn State allegiance.
TIM MILBURN Who You Follow Influences Who Follows You
| MONDAY, JULY 23, 2012
Leaders aren’t exempt from following. In fact, the leader who says he or she isn’t following anything or anyone is a dangerous person. Every person who fills a leadership position or role is a follower of something or someone. Every leader operates under some type of authority. This authority comes in a variety of forms. It could be a boss. It could be a culture. It could be the rules. It could be a previous example. It could be a higher power.
TIM MILBURN 3 Things Putting A Golf Ball Taught Me About Decision-Making
| THURSDAY, JULY 19, 2012
I spent four hours on the golf course yesterday with my son Mitch. He’s a funny guy (I told a story about him in yesterday’s post ) and becoming a pretty good golfer. Golf, like most sports, teaches principles that can be applied to other areas of life as well. You don’t have to be an avid golfer to learn and appreciate these principles. Personally, the little white ball is always teaching me how to deal with failure.
TIM MILBURN Forgiving May Be The Best Form Of Living (and Leading)
| WEDNESDAY, JULY 18, 2012
I haven’t read a lot of leadership articles that tackle the subject of forgiveness. Yet with all of the other leadership talk pointed at allowing people to fail, learning from one’s mistakes, and getting up one more time after you fall down…forgiveness has a huge role to play here. In the words of C.S. Lewis, “Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea until they have something to forgive.” ” Forgiveness is difficult.
TIM MILBURN 10 Reasons Why I Tweet
| TUESDAY, JULY 17, 2012
People often ask me why I tweet so often. I love the potential and possibilities that exist within the social networking platform known as Twitter. It’s a cool tool if used effectively. I joined Twitter in March, 2007. My first tweet simply said, “I just joined twitter…” And nothing happened. That might have been your experience as well following your first tweet. Since then, I’ve found a lot of amazing people to follow.
TIM MILBURN Serving With An “Extra Mile” Motive
| MONDAY, JULY 16, 2012
I think we would all agree that serving others is a good thing. In fact, it is a great thing. Many companies will pride themselves on their excellent customer service. Entire philosophies of leadership have centered around the idea of the leader who serves those around her. There are countless ways one can offer service to both community and country. But not all service is created equal. What I mean is, the effect of one’s service is often influenced by the motive of one’s service.
TIM MILBURN 8 Ways To Measure Your Leadership Effectiveness
| FRIDAY, JULY 13, 2012
I am taking a break from writing for a few days to strategize for the second half of 2012 and for a speaking engagement in Southern California. While I’m away, I’m re-posting some of my most popular posts from the last year. I hope you enjoy reading or re-reading these posts. I’ll be back and better than ever on July 16, 2012! Leadership requires a balance between an awareness of one’s self and others. If a leader is too focused on self, he or she is labeled egocentric.
TIM MILBURN Five Ways To Deal With Difficult People
| FRIDAY, JULY 6, 2012
I am taking a break from writing for a few days to evaluate the second half of 2012 and for a speaking engagement in Southern California. While I’m away, I’m re-posting some of my most popular posts from the last year. I hope you enjoy reading or re-reading these posts. I’ll be back and better than ever on July 16, 2012! What do you do about the difficult people in your organization, on your team, or in your group?
TIM MILBURN 3 Subtle Ways We Get Stuck In Relationships
| THURSDAY, JULY 5, 2012
I am taking a break from writing for a few days to evaluate the second half of 2012 and for a speaking engagement in Southern California. While I’m away, I’m re-posting some of my most popular posts from the last year. I hope you enjoy reading or re-reading these posts. I’ll be back and better than ever on July 16, 2012! Think about all of the people you encounter on a daily basis.
TIM MILBURN 5 Ways Leaders Impact The Lives Of Busy People
| WEDNESDAY, JULY 4, 2012
I am taking a break from writing for a few days to strategize for the second half of 2012 and for a speaking engagement in Southern California. While I’m away, I’m re-posting some of my most popular posts from the last year. I hope you enjoy reading or re-reading these posts. I’ll be back and better than ever on July 16, 2012! When you lead a group of busy people, you may wonder what kind of influence you actually have in their lives.
TIM MILBURN A Note To My Readers
| TUESDAY, JULY 3, 2012
Hello Friends, Readers, and Followers! First of all, let me express how grateful I am for your interest and attention to this site. I’ve worked hard for the last six months to invest more time, energy, and writing here. You’ve amazed me. My blog stats have more than doubled since January. I’m on the verge of breaking through 10,000 pageviews a month. Thank you! Second, I hope you know I work hard to practice the various tips and strategies I write about here.
TIM MILBURN How Will Your Halftime Help You?
| MONDAY, JULY 2, 2012
Welcome to the beginning of July! While it might not be the literal halfway point of 2012, six months have passed and there’s six months to go. It’s all downhill from here. Or maybe it’s uphill for you? I watch a lot of sports (Hi…my name is Tim…I’m an ESPN addict!). I can’t count the number of times a team has gone into the locker room at halftime – down by a bunch and deflated – and returned to the game a different team.
TIM MILBURN Timeless Principles In Developing Student Leaders
| FRIDAY, JUNE 29, 2012
Who do you work with? Boomers, Busters, Millennials, Post-Millennials? There’s a lot of differences that exist between each generation. There’s also a lot of information out there to help us understand and interact with each other in the midst of those differences. I don’t want to underestimate the importance of understanding those differences. But we have a lot in common as well.
TIM MILBURN 7 Things You Can’t Lose And Keep Leading
| THURSDAY, JUNE 28, 2012
A student came up to my office because he had lost his cell phone. I asked him if he had tried calling it. He hadn’t thought of that. We called his number and his backpack started ringing. We found the cell phone. We’ve all lost things. I’ve lost my keys. I’ve lost money (no, not in Vegas). I’ve even lost one of my kids (wasn’t for too long, but he did look older when we were reunited). Losing things is a part of every leader’s journey.
TIM MILBURN Ten Surprising Concepts that Teams (Organizations, Too) Should Adopt — Starting Now
| WEDNESDAY, JUNE 27, 2012
NOTE: This is a guest post by Garret Kramer, Author of Stillpower: Excellence with Ease in Sports and Life. I found this article to be very challenging to my own thinking and current paradigms. I am excited to read more in Kramer’s book, Stillpower. These days, it seems that the same common concepts are stressed over and over in order to ensure team success. But I believe, from pee-wee to pro, that this standard coaching paradigm is simply not bringing out the best in our athletes.
TIM MILBURN 10 Distractions You Can Control
| TUESDAY, JUNE 26, 2012
We’re all busy. We can all fill up a to-do list with the greatest of ease. But if you’re anything like me, it’s sometimes difficult to get the stuff on the list done. Of course, there are all kinds of strategies of what to do and how to do it. But even the best strategy can be thwarted by an untimely or irresistible distraction. In the words of Mike Tyson, “Everyone has a strategy until they get punched in the face.”
TIM MILBURN 3 Ways To Demonstrate Trust On Your Team
| MONDAY, JUNE 25, 2012
One of the most influential books in my personal leadership development is Patrick Lencioni’s The Five Dysfunctions of a Team. It is profound in its simplicity. In this post, I’m interested in addressing the first dysfunction Lencioni identifies – the absence of trust. Trust lies at the foundation of every successful team. It is the first thing that must be developed and maintained amongst teammates.
TIM MILBURN 19 Random Leadership Thoughts From My Moleskine
| FRIDAY, JUNE 22, 2012
I will often be asked how I find the time, ideas, and insights for the posts I write here on timmilburn.com. My response: Everyday. Everywhere. I carry a Moleskine notebook with me all the time (Steve Farber calls this a WUP ). When I observe something or have a few moments to reflect – I start writing. Over time, those thoughts find their way into posts, lessons, training material, etc. Some of them simply live in my notebook.
TIM MILBURN 3 Thoughts On Making Personal Change In Your Life
| THURSDAY, JUNE 21, 2012
“If you really wanted to be any different, you would be in the process of changing right now.” ” - Fred Smith. I was listening to talk radio the other day. They were discussing who they thought the hardest working actor in Hollywood was. After going round and round, they came to the conclusion it was Sylvester Stallone.
TIM MILBURN The Three W’s Necessary To Accomplish Your Goals
| WEDNESDAY, JUNE 20, 2012
I had a recent conversation with a group of young people at a leadership roundtable. As we went around the table, each shared about success and failure as it related to using their time wisely each day. Some people acknowledged their tendency to procrastinate while others talked about the pressure of deadlines. Throughout the conversation, the one thing crystal clear to all of us was this: it’s often a struggle to get stuff done.
TIM MILBURN Public Speakers Practice Public Speaking By Speaking Publically
| MONDAY, JUNE 18, 2012
If you want to be a better public speaker, stop reading this blog post. Go out there and speak…publicly. I’m not against learning better practices, identifying key strategies, and gleaning from the wisdom of others. By all means, read, study, and learn. Like most anything else – you learn by doing. If you want to become a better public speaker, you need to get out there and engage in the act of public speaking. To learn to ride a bike, you must get on the bike.
TIM MILBURN 12 Basic Truths To Build On
| THURSDAY, JUNE 14, 2012
I received a number of emails about yesterday’s post on the importance of exercise. So many people agree it’s a simple, basic, and necessary idea that’s difficult to follow through on. We (and I mean you and ME) come up with all kinds of reasons and rationalizations to avoid the very thing that will improve almost every facet of our life (namely exercise and eating right). There’s other simple truths out there we know to be true but often forget or fail to heed.
TIM MILBURN The Best Leadership Exercise Just Might Be Exercise
| WEDNESDAY, JUNE 13, 2012
You might not think that this post has much to do with leadership. I would argue that it has everything to do with your ability to lead yourself and others well. It’s a personal issue that is made public every time you interact with others. I want you to take a hard look at your physical fitness. I’ve got one question: Are you in shape? If you’re anything like me, you’re never really satisfied with where you’re at physically.