Tue.Oct 18, 2011

12 Awkward Moments in Leadership and Life

Ron Edmondson

Have you ever had an awkward moment in leadership? I’ve had plenty. In fact, I’ve done all of these on this list. Here are a dozen awkward moments in leadership: Selfishly holding out for your way only to be proven wrong. Tweeting publicly what was supposed to be a private direct message.

A Stuntman’s Secret Fear

Tony Mayo

Dar and I were childhood friends who met at a trampoline school. One day we climbed a ladder up to a billboard, high above the roof of the school, and dove off, landing on a soft pad below. I climbed to the fifth rung; Dar just kept climbing. Ten years later, he was [.]. For Executives Courage Fear

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I’m Sorry You Feel That Way

Lead Change Blog

Posted in Leadership Development A key employee on your team asks to speak with you about a sensitive issue in which you have a role. You have an “Open Door Policy” so the two of you meet. When she explains the issues from her point of view, your impatient response is: “I’m sorry you feel that way.” ” Your spouse [.] I’m Sorry You Feel That Way.

Leadership Biz Cafe Podcast #3 – Interview with Jesse Lyn Stoner

Tanveer Naseer

Does vision still play a key role for organizations in today’s ever-changing world? That’s one of several questions which I discuss with my guest, Jesse Lyn Stoner, in the third episode of my podcast series, “Leadership Biz Cafe”. Jesse Lyn Stoner is a business consultant, former executive, and bestselling author. For over 30 years, she has worked with leaders in hundreds of organizations including Honda, Pfizer, Marriott, Edelman Public Relations, Yale University, and SAP.

The battle of the sexes and its impact upon teamwork

Chartered Management Institute

Popular culture is full of so called Battles of the Sexes, whereby men and women compete against each other to determine who is the stronger sex. Such thinking assumes that, as men are from Mars and women are from Venus, that each sex works well with their peers, but not so well with the opposite sex. New research suggests this might not be the case at all. You are not watching this post, click to start watching

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Decision Angst

LeadStrategic

Looking at the menu , the decision was easy. “I’ll I’ll have the ‘breakfast skillet’ please!” … Maybe it’s because I’m my father’s son. Maybe it’s because I rarely have a “traditional” breakfast. Maybe it’s because … well, whatever the reason, I love breakfast so the choice was easy. E-A-S-Y.

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How to Decide if a Conflict is Worth the Effort to Resolve

The Recovering Engineer

One of the common questions I get as I lead workshops and work with my coaching clients is: How do I decide it a conflict is worth the effort to resolve? I think this is a great question. Honestly, resolving a conflict can take lots of emotional energy.

10 Team Dynamics That Produce Results

Create Learning

Have you ever worked on a team and it was awesome! Then you are placed in another project team and it was horrible! Creating results from teams happens on purpose, with a system and path to achieve the results.

A video of Teresa Amabile’s TEDx program in Atlanta

First Friday Book Synopsis

Teresa Amabile is the Edsel Bryant Ford Professor of Business Administration and a Director of Research at Harvard Business School and co-author of The Progress Principle: Using Small Wins to Ignite Joy, Engagement, and Creativity at Work. Originally educated as a chemist, Teresa received her doctorate in psychology from Stanford University. She studies how everyday [.].

The Real Reason Your Team Doesn’t Trust You

LDRLB

This is a guest post from Mike Figliuolo. Mike Figliuolo is the author of “ One Piece of Paper: The Simple Approach to Powerful, Personal Leadership.” He’s the managing director of thoughtLEADERS, LLC – a leadership development firm. An Honor Graduate from West Point, he served in the U.S. Army as a combat arms officer. Before founding his own company, he was an assistant professor at Duke University, and a consultant at McKinsey & Co. Your team doesn’t trust you. Honestly.

A skill every organized executive must master

The Organized Executive's Blog

My neighbor Shelby came right to the point. “I’m I’m calling to see whether I can talk you into serving on the board.”. Not a chance,” I told her. We both laughed and had a nice conversation. A year earlier I explained to her why I wouldn’t accept a nomination to our homeowners association’s board of directors. With a fulltime job, a young child and other obligations, I had decided not to take on any other commitments that would take time away from my family.

Finding Your Place of No Exceptions

Leadership Freak

When I interview someone, I listen for what interest me and explore it. While Marlene Chism chatted in my ear, I scribbled her statement, “If you can find an exception, it’s time to change the commitment.” The idea of changing a commitment troubled me. My interviewing style is circular. If a topic interests me, I’ll [.]. Marks of leaders Personal Growth Values Growth Leadership Development

The Real Reason Your Team Doesn’t Trust You

LDRLB

This is a guest post from Mike Figliuolo. Mike Figliuolo is the author of “ One Piece of Paper: The Simple Approach to Powerful, Personal Leadership.” He’s the managing director of thoughtLEADERS, LLC – a leadership development firm. An Honor Graduate from West Point, he served in the U.S. Army as a combat arms officer. Before founding his own company, he was an assistant professor at Duke University, and a consultant at McKinsey & Co. Your team doesn’t trust you. Honestly. They don’t.

Radio Show: This is Your Brain on Change

Change Starts Here

My guest today is Dr. Jackie Sherman, CEO of The Jackie Sherman Group, Inc., who has been an organization development consultant for 25 years. She became deeply interested in how the brain works and how that could inform her work with organizations and leaders.

Straight talk on workplace prejudice

Lead Change Blog

Posted in Leadership Development [link] Today’s post on the SmartBlog for Leadership is by Leigh Steere, co-founder of Managing People Better, unabashedly challenges the status quo. In this article, Leigh discusses “the most dangerous stereotypes are the ones we act on without realizing our prejudice. Who are you writing off, consciously or unconsciously?” ” Please click on the above title to read [.] Straight talk on workplace prejudice.

Peter Drucker Makes It Sound So Simple!

Leaders. Better. Brighter.

Peter Drucker was asked for his definition of leadership and this was his response… ” It is very simple.

Guest Marketing Post-Succeeding with Video

Management Excellence

Guest Marketing Post-Succeeding with Video: I'm not alone in my video-phobia, and in comparing notes with many of my colleagues, it seems we all struggle with the same issues. We also agree that the benefits of building a video presence strongly outweigh any of the personal reasons for avoiding this.

Bench Strength

Execupundit

I am frequently reminded of the fantastic "bench strength" we have in this country. It is not unusual to encounter people in a variety of jobs and locations who could perform well in high office and who are probably far more capable than the leaders of many nations

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To Reform Capitalism, CEOs Should Champion Structural Reforms

Harvard Business Review

This blog post is part of the HBR Online Forum The CEO's Role in Fixing the System. Capitalism has been incredibly effective at creating prosperity and improving the standard of living for many, but its current form is on the brink of extinction.

Art Break: Blumenschein

Execupundit

Art Contrarian looks at the work of Ernest Blumenschein

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Books on my Reading List – Tomatoland & Elizabeth and Hazel: Two Women of Little Rock

First Friday Book Synopsis

I wish I had more hours to read. I am behind on my fiction reading (50 years behind); my business book reading; my general nonfiction reading. I’m just behind! But here are two books on my reading list. I just bought Tomatoland: How Modern Industrial Agriculture Destroyed Our Most Alluring Fruit by Barry Eastabrook for my [.].

Miscellaneous and Fast

Execupundit

Seth Godin on the math of favors and the shortcut to success. Interview with Dan Schneider, entrepreneur. [HT: HT: Althouse ] Sensory Dispensary on The Beatles. Wally Bock : Advice from Helmuth von Moltke on assigning work. The New Republic's list of over-rated thinkers. Tim Berry on bad news as a test of leadership. Michael Walsh on The Full Alinsky. Tanmay Vora on diversity and groupthink. Roger von Oech suggests thinking like a wise fool

Corporate Cultures – Supervisor Initiated, Documented Processes Controlled Environment

Strategy Driven

The Supervisor Initiated, Documented Processes Controlled Environment represents move toward standardized, centralized control. This culture set benefits from greater local control than the leader initiated organization while still maintaining a degree of oversight that enhances standardization and centralized direction setting.

Keep On Keeping On

Execupundit

Steven Pressfield recalls his years in the wilderness : When I was living out of the back of my ’65 Chevy van, there was a kind of dude I used to run into from time to time. A hard-core road character, burnt brown by the sun, unbathed in months, living on dimes a day. I probably met and spent time with a dozen guys like this in places like Texas and Louisiana, northern California, Washington state—giving them rides, working day-labor jobs, staying up all night talking.

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We Need More Mature Leaders

Harvard Business Review

"My idea is better.". "Is Is not.". "If If we don't use my idea, I'm not playing!". Fine, I don't like you anymore.". An argument among six-graders in the schoolyard? Unfortunately not. In the past few months we've seen the attitude above reflected in the halls of government and corporate boardrooms across the country. Arrogance, pouting, tantrums, personal attacks, and betrayal of trust seem to be the order of the day. Situations at Hewlett-Packard, Yahoo!,

Bate's Lists

Execupundit

On my to-do list: Read Nicholas Bate every morning : 'To do' lists tend to drive the urgent, the here-and-now, the 'have-to-do's. You need a master list: that focuses on what you want to do, too

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Have you become enough experienced, Huh?

Self Help Zen

At some point, most software engineers start talking about themselves like they’ve got enough experience. Even if it seems right, it is too late to change our focus now.”. Why do I need to understand the mobile platform now? My twelve year experience in client-server and web is enough.”. Even organizations and families make decisions like this. They decide it’s just too late to change. Often the point is missed: It’s distinct for everyone. It’s a choice.

First Paragraph

Execupundit

When a fresh-faced guy in a Chevy offered him a lift, Parker told him to go to hell. The guy said, "Screw you, buddy," yanked his Chevy back into the stream of traffic, and roared on down to the tollbooths. Parker spat in the right hand-lane, lit his last cigarette, and walked across the George Washington Bridge. From The Hunter by Richard Stark

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Have you become enough experienced, Huh?

Utpal Writes

At some point, most software engineers start talking about themselves like they’ve got enough experience. Even if it seems right, it is too late to change our focus now.”. Why do I need to understand the mobile platform now? My twelve year experience in client-server and web is enough.”. Even organizations and families make decisions like this. They decide it’s just too late to change. Often the point is missed: It’s distinct for everyone. It’s a choice.

Quote of the Day

Execupundit

I told you I was sick. Epitaph of B. Roberts

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Are family contract’s the way forward for working parents?

Chartered Management Institute

O2 has announced the launch of a new flexible contract for working parents. Created with input from Mumsnet, the contract is set to encourage parents to to club together to arrange shifts enabling employees to balance flexible work patterns with the needs of the business. You are not watching this post, click to start watching

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Too Big to Fail and the Rule of Law

Execupundit

Too big to fail is too big to allow, reads one hand-lettered sign on the east side of Zuccotti Park overlooking lower Broadway. Good point. As a few protesters ( not all ) understand, the problem with “the banks” isn’t that they exist, but that they’re isolated from the consistent rule of law. The bizarre irony, then, is that five weeks in, Zuccotti Park’s live-in campers are behaving more and more like the banks against which they are railing. Read the rest of Nicole Gelinas here

Know how to walk first, running comes later.

Utpal Writes

Some musicians spend years doing nothing but practicing a piece of music and get it validated from their artist guru. If the piece of music isn’t right, it doesn’t matter what else you do, you cannot perform in the live show. Clients of most software programming projects that expect you to build great applications presume that you already know play that small piece of music.

Three Rules for Entrepreneurs During Uncertainty

Harvard Business Review

Consider three scenarios: The Mexican economy was in ruins in 1982. Oil prices had fallen, the peso was devalued, interest rates were high, and some banks were nationalized. Yet a young entrepreneur saw opportunities and invested heavily during that downturn. He acquired clusters of companies, across industries, from foreign and native investors, who were fleeing the collapsing nation. His father had told him that nations never go bust forever. Good times always return.