2008

Conflict Resolution Tips: Task Oriented People with People.

The Recovering Engineer

As you work and interact with people who are more people oriented than you, remember to keep your primary focus on understanding their perspective bef

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Seven Habits Of Highly Ineffective People

Self Help Zen

Do you want to be ineffective? Look no further. Here are the cool 7 ways to be one. Be Reactive: React to external forces. Wait for the things to happen to you. Be ‘Effect’ in the matter, not the cause. Begin without the End In Mind: Take life as it happens. Planning is a total time waster. What’s the hack is Goal? Put First Things Last: Focus on urgent and easy tasks. No matter if completion of the ‘urgent’ task is not going to help you anywhere. Allow people to drag you with their actions.

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If this was the last thing you could say to a person… | Rajesh Setty

Rajesh Setty

She was brought in there when she was fifteen and her brother was eight. They both were on a train to Auschwitz and she saw that her brother had no shoes. She told her brother – “Why are you so stupid. Can't you keep your things

Using Reflection & Intention to Create a Productive 2009

Anese Cavanaugh

NOTE: This article is part of a bigger article released to DTE Community Members. You can access this full article and additional articles by registering in the box in the upper right hand corner of this page. The end of the year provides us a great opportunity to reflect on the previous year, pull learning and have it support the next year.

Time to Breathe, Think and Make Your Dreams Come True

Women's Leadership Exchange

We all race around as if the more we do, the more successful we will be.and it's not true. The new ideas, the right connections, come when we breathe, and take time to think about our business. Only then can we shape it to fulfill our dreams and the current market needs. Please don't hate me when I say, maybe this recession is a good thing. The slowdown of business forces us to reassess, rethink and. really go deep to say,"is this really what I want my life to be like?"

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Excellence is a Drive from Inside, Not Outside

Self Help Zen

A man once visited a temple under construction where he saw a sculptor making an idol. Suddenly he noticed a similar idol lying nearby. Surprised, he asked the sculptor, “Do you need two statues of the same idol?”. Well,” said the sculptor without looking up, “We need only one, but the first one got damaged at the last stage.”. The gentleman examined the idol and found no apparent damage. Where is the damage?” he asked. There is a scratch on the nose of the idol.”

I know Bob. | Rajesh Setty

Rajesh Setty

“I know Bob”. You might have heard that many times. However, what they say may not be what they mean. Here are some “real meanings” for “I know Bob” in the order of decreasing influence. So next time someone says “I know Bob” it is your

Things that make me smile #46 – The Zen of Sarcasm | Rajesh Setty

Rajesh Setty

Kenneth Young sent me this list a week ago. Thanks Ken. The Zen of Sarcasm. Do not walk behind me, for I may not lead. Do not walk ahead of me, for. I may not follow. Do not walk beside me either. Just pretty much leave me

Ways to distinguish yourself #198 – Don't focus on the "derivative.

Rajesh Setty

First everyone is working on one or more big projects – actually at least two of them – one in professional life and one in personal life. Every big project is typically made up of several sub-projects or we can call them derivatives of

Ways to distinguish yourself #200 – Understand the story behind.

Rajesh Setty

Stories make it easy to communicate something but if the stories are flawed they can just communicate the wrong thing – and, in a compelling way. In other words, stories can help and if you are not careful, they can hurt

Ways to distinguish yourself #199 – Exit gracefully | Rajesh Setty

Rajesh Setty

I have always believed that there are only two kinds of relationships – those that are “long term” and those that are “very long term”. Yes, I am exaggerating a bit but when you approach your relationships and put them into one of those

Ways to distinguish yourself #197 – Be comfortable with "Nothing.

Rajesh Setty

Take a dot. Put some “nothing” in it and. You get a doughnut! Take a doughnut. Put some “nothing” in it and… You get a zero. Take a zero. Put some more “nothing” in it and… You get a bowl. Take a bowl. Put some more “nothing” in it and

Ways to distinguish yourself #196 – Be aware of your circle of.

Rajesh Setty

It requires a lot of maturity to be aware of your circle of awareness. This is one of the areas where “ignorance is definitely NOT bliss”. What you want is typically within your circle of awareness. If “what you need” to reach your

Ways to distinguish yourself #190 – Stop punishing yourself un.

Rajesh Setty

My teacher told me that moods are the most under-rated characteristics. I agree. Typically people set themselves a big hurdle to be in a great mood. They need only one small thing to go wrong to get into a rotten mood

25 Tips to Selling in a Recession | Rajesh Setty

Rajesh Setty

I have always believed that everyone is always selling – whether they are in the profession of sales or not. So the topic of sales has always been fascinating to me. Everyone is selling but not everyone knows that they are selling

Powerful Platform + Passionate People = Endless possibilities.

Rajesh Setty

The idea is simple (but hard to execute, of course). Build a simple and powerful platform and get passionate people to get engaged. Watch new possibilities emerge. I have taken a simple example here. Fortunately or unfortunately

Ways to distinguish yourself #195 – Stop sending "MeMails.

Rajesh Setty

I am using a personal example here but I have talked on this topic to MANY people and the experience has been the same. Today I received a mail from an acquaintance. It was a long email about a milestone that their organization achieved

Ways to Distinguish Yourself #194 – Copy "being" rather than.

Rajesh Setty

You aim to become like someone (may be a role model, hero or just someone that you aspire to become) and start copying what they are “doing”. You soon realize that you are not getting the results that they are getting

Ways to Distinguish Yourself #193 – Watch your Effort-Value Curve.

Rajesh Setty

When you are at the beginning of your career, you really work hard and for all that effort the “real value” that you add may not be that significant. This may not be a problem as people know that you are just “starting

Ways to Distinguish Yourself #192 – Get In Their Shoes | Rajesh Setty

Rajesh Setty

At a basic level, getting into someone's shoes is to think “how the other person may be thinking.” If you really want to get into their shoes, you need to find out the “worldview” of the person. What is their outlook and approach to

Ways to distinguish yourself #191 – Add an extra "Thank You.

Rajesh Setty

Come to think of it, saying “Thank You” just once more in a day in your life costs you almost NOTHING. However, for the recipient of that thank you, it is invaluable. Imagine when someone genuinely thanks you for something – isn't that

Engage much? It’s not just the words you say…

Anese Cavanaugh

It’s not necessarily the words you say, but rather the tone, the intent and the physiology you say them with. I often have clients come to our meetings with issues about “unintentional impact”…saying or doing something and having it perceived in a negative way. One of the things you can do when you’re not getting the result you want from your communication is to look at the result you DO get, plus these 4 things: Intention: What is the intention of my communication?

Dare to Challenge FEAR

Anese Cavanaugh

What does failure have to do with action? I wrote an article on daring to celebrate failure. I spoke about the learning and growth and opportunities that we can find when we allow ourselves to really celebrate and learn from our failures. A couple of months later, I’m curious how that’s settled for readers. Curious what that article, the exercise provided, and the invitation to truly celebrate failure may have brought up for you. Resistance? Permission? A sigh of relief? Just notice.

Dare to Elevate Engagement

Anese Cavanaugh

Did you know: 21% of the global workforce considers themself actively engaged in their work right now (loyal, passionate, positive, enjoying their work.) 38% are actively disengaged (meaning they’re complaining, bringing morale down, looking for another job, etc.) And the remaining 41% aren’t sure where they stand. Does that suprise you?

Gratitude…A gift in itself

Anese Cavanaugh

I LOVE Thanksgiving…it may very well be my favorite holiday. To me, this week is one of the happiest of the year, regardless of what’s happening in the economy, in the world, in our own personal lives. Truly. One of the happiest of the year. Because we get to walk around expressing gratitude, more than usual, not that we can’t everyday (because I personally believe we absolutely can and should). But because it gives us an extra container and nudge to create space for gratitude.

Women Rule in International Diplomacy

Women's Leadership Exchange

The buzz about Senator Hillary Clinton becoming Secretary State is so loud that I believe it is "safe" to. comment on it. I read that Gloria Steinem says Senator Clinton should accept it and Marie Wilson, head of the White House Project, says she would prefer the senator stay in the Senate, so I thought I'd offer you my opinion so that you can make your comments.

Engage Your Team – 7 Questions

Anese Cavanaugh

It’s here! We’ve just released our new product “7Questions You MUST Ask Yourself to Lead Your Team Well…And Get Things Done Quickly.” ” For a free recording of the call, transcript and a quick start “cheat sheet” – sign in on the upper right hand corner of this blog (under my picture), with your name and email address, OR go to www.daretoengage.com and sign in for your free report. Hope you enjoy it.

The Mystery (and Simplicity) of Engagement…

Anese Cavanaugh

How do you keep your team engaged? How do you personally stay engaged? In your work? At home? In your personal life? In your fitness regime? It’s easy to “check out”…especially with so many competing demands. So how do you stay “fully engaged?”. I had a meeting yesterday with a colleague who shared with me that she “didn’t like how something was going, so she changed it.” That simple.

Good Morning President Obama

Women's Leadership Exchange

Waking up this morning, I smell "hope" in the air, rather than the familiar smell of coffee. What a welcome fragrance! It truly fills my entire body. I usually never use the word "hope," cause for me it is not a word of action - and I like action.

Women's Leadership Exchange - Blog - Good Morning President Obama

Women's Leadership Exchange

Good Morning President Obama. Subscribe in a reader · Bookmark and Share. Posted: November 5, 2008, 10:22 PM by Leslie Grossman. Waking up this morning, I smell "hope" in the air, rather than the familiar smell of coffee

Bad News on the Economic Front Can't Stop Women's Success

Women's Leadership Exchange

This morning we awoke to another crisis on Wall Street.the news that Lehman Brothers appeared to be going into bankruptcy and Bank of America was buying (or saving) Merrill Lynch. All this on the heels of Hurricane Ike's devastation. Fall 08 seems to be coming in ferociously. All this in the midst of a presidential election that is full of attacks, innuendoes and fear. On top of this WLE hosted with Aetna a morning breakfast program featuring NYC Congresswoman Carolyn B.

Good News and Bad News

Women's Leadership Exchange

The news at the start of the Labor Day weekend that John McCain picked a woman - Gov. Sarah Palin of Alaska - as his running mate in the presidential race took just about everyone but the McCain camp by surprise. No matter whether you agree with Sarah Palin's stand on various issues or not.no matter whether you think she has too little experience or not.no

The Economy: Batman vs Mamma Mia

Women's Leadership Exchange

The economic forecast is doom and gloom. But it doesn't have to be your economic reality. It's your choice! Do you choose the Batman or Mamma Mia economic mentality? If you know me, you know I choose the Mamma Mia economy.

Sex and the City Meets Another Career Women

Women's Leadership Exchange

I was delighted with different viewpoints many of you shared in the Sex & the City Blog! I think this is the biggest exchange of blog entries we've had yet!! By the way, to those of you who disagreed with my blog, I say "thank you." " I welcome your disagreement! Please don't judge me or the WLE based on what I wrote! I certainly don't judge you. WLE is an "exchange" of ideas, knowledge, opinions, expertise, support etc.and isn't that what blogging is all about?