DISC Model FAQ's: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney?

The Recovering Engineer

DISC Model FAQ’s: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney? This article is from the DISC FAQs series. DISC Model FAQs: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone? DISC Model FAQs: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style?

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DISC Model FAQ's: Is One Style Better Than the Others?

The Recovering Engineer

DISC Model FAQ’s: Is One Style Better Than the Others? This article is from the DISC FAQs series. DISC Model FAQs: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone? DISC Model FAQs: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style?

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DISC FAQ's: Can I Change My Personality Style On Purpose? | Guy.

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DISC FAQ’s: Can I Change My Personality Style On Purpose? This article is from the DISC FAQs series. DISC Model FAQs: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone? DISC Model FAQs: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style?

FAQ 132

DISC Model FAQ's: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style.

The Recovering Engineer

DISC Model FAQ’s: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style? This article is from the DISC FAQs series. DISC Model FAQs: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone? DISC Model FAQs: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style?

FAQ 132

DISC Model FAQ's: Can Your Personality Style Change Over Time.

The Recovering Engineer

DISC Model FAQ’s: Can Your Personality Style Change Over Time May 4, 2010 by Guy Harris Filed under DISC Model , Video 3 Comments Guy Answers the Question: Can Your Personality Style Change Over Time? This article is from the DISC FAQs series.

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DISC Model FAQ's: Can I Have One DISC Style at Work and Another.

The Recovering Engineer

DISC Model FAQ’s: Can I Have One DISC Style at Work and Another DISC Style at Home? This article is from the DISC FAQs series. DISC Model FAQs: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone? DISC Model FAQs: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style?

FAQ 132

DISC Model FAQ's: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone? | Guy.

The Recovering Engineer

DISC Model FAQ’s: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone? This article is from the DISC FAQs series. DISC Model FAQs: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone? DISC Model FAQs: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style?

FAQ 142

Leadership Lesson From General McChrystal: Get Onboard or Get Out.

The Recovering Engineer

I am simply observing the outcome of a leadership act: a high level leader who reports to a higher level leader within an organization took his discontent public and he had to leave the organization as a result.

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Vote in the Best of Leadership Blogs

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When you visit the voting page, you will find links to eleven top-flight blogs on leadership. All you have to do is claim it to get access to leadership development resources including: Videos Ebooks Special reports Audio recordings Excerpts from the new book, From Bud to Boss And more!

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Effective Communication Skills: How to Quickly Guess a Person's.

The Recovering Engineer

This article is from the DISC FAQs series. DISC Model FAQs: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone? DISC Model FAQs: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style? DISC Model FAQs: Can I Have One DISC Style at Work and Another DISC Style at Home?

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Managing Across Generations: Leadership Coaching Success Story

Mike Cardus

Leadership Coaching & Development Case Study from the Exponent Leadership Process. “I I was contracted for 12 months to consult and coach Sharon using the Exponent Leadership Process. The 5-person leadership team spent four months focused on collaboration.

DISC Frequently Asked Questions | Guy Harris: The Recovering Engineer

The Recovering Engineer

This article is from the DISC FAQs series. DISC Model FAQs: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone? DISC Model FAQs: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style? DISC Model FAQs: Can I Have One DISC Style at Work and Another DISC Style at Home?

A DISC Model Question You Should Ask of Yourself

The Recovering Engineer

This article is from the DISC FAQs series. DISC Model FAQs: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone? DISC Model FAQs: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style? DISC Model FAQs: Can I Have One DISC Style at Work and Another DISC Style at Home?

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Don't Use an Illness Description for a Normal Behavior | Guy.

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FAQ 238

The Difference Between Doing and Mastering

The Recovering Engineer

Related posts: DISC Model FAQ’s: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney? A few months ago, I bought a guitar and started the process of learning to play. A few days ago, I wrote a post about what my motivation to purchase a guitar can teach leaders of all kinds.

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Being Too Nice Can Hurt You | Guy Harris: The Recovering Engineer

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A Simple Model for Understanding What Drives Behavior

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DISC Model FAQ’s: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney? Leadership Skills Parenting Post Series motivation parenting skills persuasion understanding understanding peopleThe diagram above shows a simplified model for better understanding what drives behavior.

FAQ 277

Applying the DISC Model: Breaking Through A Common Frustration

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How To Irritate Others With The DISC Model | Guy Harris: The.

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Communicating About Change – Connect With Emotions

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Using the handout from this month’s Remarkable Leadership teleseminar as a discussion guide, we talked about some really powerful concepts related to communicating change.

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Using the DISC Model: Focus on Needs More than Behaviors

The Recovering Engineer

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Using the DISC Model: How to Create Stress for Other People | Guy.

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How GenX Affects Your Business

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There are a couple of reasons I don’t purchase appliances on-line: I want to see and inspect what I am buying, I want more information than appears on the FAQ’s page and I want to know who I can go to if something goes wrong. customer service Management Technology Uncategorized business managements business Technology genx workers Leadership

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Rules Without Relationship Breed Rebellion | Guy Harris: The.

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How to Make Your Next 12 Months Your Best 12 Months

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Why You Might Eventually Do Something You Don't Want to Do…

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I Need Your Help – What Would You Like to Know About the DISC Model?

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FAQ 132

Connecting With People

The Recovering Engineer

Subscribe to Receive Updates Home About This Blog Archives Great Reading Contact Me my business about me Communication Skills Persuasion DISC Model Family Relationships Parenting Leadership Skills Post Series Reflections Decision Making From Our Cats Personal Change Resolving Conflict Problem Solving Video Browse > Home / Communication Skills , DISC Model , Post Series / Connecting With People Connecting With People May 10, 2010 by Guy Harris Filed under Communication Skills , DISC Model , Post Series Leave a Comment This series of articles contains specific tips, insights, and techniques for connecting with people better. This article is from the Connecting With People series. Use the links below to read more from this series. Connecting With People Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, People-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, Task-Oriented People Using the DISC Model: How to Create Stress for Other People If you liked this post, please tweet it, like it, share it, or leave a comment. For periodic email updates, special offers, and other occasional gifts available only to email subscribers, complete this form. Related posts: Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, People-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented People DISC Model Frequently Asked Questions Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, Task-Oriented People Tags: business relationships , Communication Skills , DISC Model , disc style , effective communication skills , Family Relationships , Leadership Skills , persuasion , understanding people Guy Harris describes himself as a recovering engineer. He has degrees in Chemical Engineering and he served as a Nuclear Engineering officer in the U.S. Navy. He is an engineer by nature, by training, and experience. He has spent many years learning to connect and communicate with other people more effectively. With concerted effort and focused study, he has become a Human Behavior and Conflict Resolution Specialist. He now enjoys speaking, writing, and teaching these relationship principles to others. — Learn More… What Do You Think? Tell me what youre thinking. and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a gravatar ! Click here to cancel reply. Featured Video The Recovering Engineer YouTube Channel From Bud to Boss Connect With Me Subscription Options Email updates. Get updates in an RSS reader. Check Out These Sites Article Series Connecting With People DISC Model FAQs Take Charge of Your Life Popular Articles The DISC Model of Human Behavior - A Quick Overview Conflict Resolution Tips: Task Oriented People with People Oriented Individuals Effective Communication Skills: How to Quickly Guess a Person’s DISC Style Task-Oriented vs People-Oriented: A Common Source of Conflict Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People Article Categories Select Category Communication Skills Decision Making DISC Model Family Relationships Featured Article From Our Cats Gallery Leadership Skills Parenting Personal Change Persuasion Post Series Problem Solving Recommendations Reflections Resolving Conflict Video Common Article Tags assertive communication behavioral style business relationships Communication Skills conflict resolution DISC Model disc style effective communication skills emotional control emotional intelligence Family Relationships get over yourself influence Leadership Skills Parenting parenting skills perception perspective persuasion Resolving Conflict self awareness self control understanding understanding people workplace conflict resolution Articles By Date Select Month February 2011 January 2011 December 2010 November 2010 October 2010 September 2010 August 2010 July 2010 June 2010 May 2010 April 2010 March 2010 February 2010 January 2010 September 2009 August 2009 December 2008 My Older Articles RecoveringEngineer.com launched in Jan 2010. Most of my older posts can be found at. Video Insights Blog Stats Home · Contact Me · Privacy Policy · Sitemap Copyright © 2010 · All Rights Reserved · Based on Revolution Church theme by Brian Gardner · Modified by Guy Harris · Powered by WordPress · Admin Close for now. Never show again. Get Email Updates

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The Carrot Principle - Book Recommendation | Guy Harris: The.

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Subscribe to Receive Updates Home About This Blog Archives Great Reading Contact Me my business about me Communication Skills Persuasion DISC Model Family Relationships Parenting Leadership Skills Post Series Reflections Decision Making From Our Cats Personal Change Resolving Conflict Problem Solving Video Browse > Home / Leadership Skills , Recommendations / The Carrot Principle – Book Recommendation The Carrot Principle – Book Recommendation November 8, 2010 by Guy Harris Filed under Leadership Skills , Recommendations Leave a Comment I have had this book for months, and I finally moved it up the queue enough to finish reading it. I should have finished it sooner. It’s full of great insights, data, and suggestions for creating a recognition culture in your workplace. If you are looking for ways to inspire high level performance on your team, this book is for you. It is detailed, practical, easy to read, and full of great ideas. I highly recommend The Carrot Principle for new, aspiring, and experienced leaders. If you liked this post, please tweet it, like it, share it, or leave a comment. For periodic email updates, special offers, and other occasional gifts available only to email subscribers, complete this form. Related posts: Two Great Learning Opportunities for Aspiring Leaders Tags: book recommendations , employee performance , recognition Guy Harris describes himself as a recovering engineer. He has degrees in Chemical Engineering and he served as a Nuclear Engineering officer in the U.S. Navy. He is an engineer by nature, by training, and experience. He has spent many years learning to connect and communicate with other people more effectively. With concerted effort and focused study, he has become a Human Behavior and Conflict Resolution Specialist. He now enjoys speaking, writing, and teaching these relationship principles to others. — Learn More… What Do You Think? Tell me what youre thinking. and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a gravatar ! Click here to cancel reply. Featured Video The Recovering Engineer YouTube Channel From Bud to Boss Connect With Me Subscription Options Email updates. Get updates in an RSS reader. Check Out These Sites Article Series Connecting With People DISC Model FAQs Take Charge of Your Life Popular Articles The DISC Model of Human Behavior - A Quick Overview Conflict Resolution Tips: Task Oriented People with People Oriented Individuals Effective Communication Skills: How to Quickly Guess a Person’s DISC Style Task-Oriented vs People-Oriented: A Common Source of Conflict Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People Article Categories Select Category Communication Skills Decision Making DISC Model Family Relationships Featured Article From Our Cats Gallery Leadership Skills Parenting Personal Change Persuasion Post Series Problem Solving Recommendations Reflections Resolving Conflict Video Common Article Tags assertive communication behavioral style business relationships Communication Skills conflict resolution DISC Model disc style effective communication skills emotional control emotional intelligence Family Relationships get over yourself influence Leadership Skills Parenting parenting skills perception perspective persuasion Resolving Conflict self awareness self control understanding understanding people workplace conflict resolution Articles By Date Select Month February 2011 January 2011 December 2010 November 2010 October 2010 September 2010 August 2010 July 2010 June 2010 May 2010 April 2010 March 2010 February 2010 January 2010 September 2009 August 2009 December 2008 My Older Articles RecoveringEngineer.com launched in Jan 2010. Most of my older posts can be found at. Video Insights Blog Stats Home · Contact Me · Privacy Policy · Sitemap Copyright © 2010 · All Rights Reserved · Based on Revolution Church theme by Brian Gardner · Modified by Guy Harris · Powered by WordPress · Admin Close for now. Never show again. Get Email Updates

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Hear and Understand to be Heard and Understood

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Conflict Resolution Lessons From A Lifeguard: A Drowning Man Doesn.

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And what has all of this got to do with communication, conflict resolution, leadership, and parenting.

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Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People.

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Subscribe to Receive Updates Home About This Blog Archives Great Reading Contact Me my business about me Communication Skills Persuasion DISC Model Family Relationships Parenting Leadership Skills Post Series Reflections Decision Making From Our Cats Personal Change Resolving Conflict Problem Solving Video Browse > Home / Communication Skills , DISC Model / Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People May 10, 2010 by Guy Harris Filed under Communication Skills , DISC Model 1 Comment One way to improve your communication effectiveness is to communicate in a way that best fits the other person’s DISC behavioral style. When you find yourself communicating with a person who is outgoing and task-oriented (primary Dominant behavioral style), remember these key communication tips: Get to the point quickly — offer the results or conclusions and then your data or analysis. Focus on results and outcomes — process and feelings are less important to them than results. Give them options — they want the opportunity to choose. Look them in the eye and speak-up — they seldom have patience for people who do not have confidence. Show them respect — they also want you to show respect for them, their position, and their work. Remember these suggestions the next time you interact with people who are fast-paced and task-oriented, and you will improve the odds that they listen to, understand, and take action on your message. Check this post, for more insights on how to guess at a person’s DISC style. This article is from the Connecting With People series. Use the links below to read more from this series. Connecting With People Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, People-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, Task-Oriented People Using the DISC Model: How to Create Stress for Other People If you liked this post, please tweet it, like it, share it, or leave a comment. For periodic email updates, special offers, and other occasional gifts available only to email subscribers, complete this form. Related posts: Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, Task-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, People-Oriented People Conflict Resolution Tips: People Oriented Individuals with Task Oriented People Conflict Resolution Tips: Task Oriented People with People Oriented Individuals Tags: business relationships , Communication Skills , DISC Model , dominant individuals , dominant personality style , Family Relationships , outgoing people , parenting skills , task-oriented people Guy Harris describes himself as a recovering engineer. He has degrees in Chemical Engineering and he served as a Nuclear Engineering officer in the U.S. Navy. He is an engineer by nature, by training, and experience. He has spent many years learning to connect and communicate with other people more effectively. With concerted effort and focused study, he has become a Human Behavior and Conflict Resolution Specialist. He now enjoys speaking, writing, and teaching these relationship principles to others. — Learn More… Comments One Response to “Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People&# Trackbacks Check out what others are saying about this post. Is there some way of connecting a 5.1 surround sound speaker system to a USB port on my laptop? | surround sound speaker and the home theatre system says: May 11, 2010 at 12:14 am [.] Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People … [.] Reply What Do You Think? Tell me what youre thinking. and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a gravatar ! Click here to cancel reply. Featured Video The Recovering Engineer YouTube Channel From Bud to Boss Connect With Me Subscription Options Email updates. Get updates in an RSS reader. 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Women's Leadership Exchange - Blog - Hope for Women Business.

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Three Actions You Can Take to De-escalate Conflicts | Guy Harris.

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Subscribe to Receive Updates Home About This Blog Archives Great Reading Contact Me my business about me Communication Skills Persuasion DISC Model Family Relationships Parenting Leadership Skills Post Series Reflections Decision Making From Our Cats Personal Change Resolving Conflict Problem Solving Video Browse > Home / Gallery , Resolving Conflict / Three Actions You Can Take to De-escalate Conflicts Three Actions You Can Take to De-escalate Conflicts October 6, 2010 by Guy Harris Filed under Gallery , Resolving Conflict Leave a Comment In a previous post on exercising your power of choice to get conflicts under control, I mentioned some specific actions to consider using to de-escalate conflicts. In this post, I’m expanding on three of the actions with some additional thoughts on how to put them to work in your conflict resolution repertoire. Here are three things you can do in virtually any conflict situation to improve the outcome. 1. Apologize I seldom see conflict situations where all of the miscommunication, misunderstanding, or misinterpretation of intentions rests entirely on one person. You might not be totally at fault for the challenge that led to the conflict. Odds are, there is something you contributed to the early stages that helped it to escalate. Whatever that behavior, word choice or tone was, apologize for it. Don’t apologize for how the other person feels or how they interpreted your actions. You can apologize for the action itself. Apology is a powerful way to de-escalate conflict. When you apologize, remember that apologizing for your contribution does not mean that you have to take all of the blame. Just own your contribution. 2. Forgive Just as you should apologize for your contribution, be ready to accept their apology or ownership of responsibility. Resist the urge to take advantage of their show of vulnerability. Just forgive graciously. In practice, you don’t even have to wait for an apology to forgive. You can forgive simply because you chose to do so. (And you can do it without holding it over the other person. Remember the gracious part.) 3. Listen As a general rule, people feel less angry or frustrated when they feel understood. When you listen without interrupting, correcting, or debating, you can help the other person feel understood. When you help them feel understood, you improve the odds of de-escalating the conflict. I don’t propose that these actions are necessarily easy to do when emotions are high and the conflict is escalating. While they might not be easy to do, they are possible to do. And they are powerful steps you can consciously apply to help conflicts move towards resolution. Photo by Eric and Deanna Pesik. If you liked this post, please tweet it, like it, share it, or leave a comment. For periodic email updates, special offers, and other occasional gifts available only to email subscribers, complete this form. Related posts: Conflict Resolution Insights: Why Conflicts Escalate The 7 Deadly Sins of Conflict Resolution Conflict Resolution Techniques: Question Your Assumptions Exercise Your Power of Choice in Conflict Resolution Why Your Natural Response to Conflict is Probably Wrong & What You Can Do About It Tags: accountability , anger , assertive communication , business relationships , Communication Skills , conflict escalation , conflict resolution , effective communication skills , emotional control , get over yourself , influence , Leadership Skills , miscommunication , Parenting , parenting skills , workplace conflict resolution Guy Harris describes himself as a recovering engineer. He has degrees in Chemical Engineering and he served as a Nuclear Engineering officer in the U.S. Navy. He is an engineer by nature, by training, and experience. He has spent many years learning to connect and communicate with other people more effectively. With concerted effort and focused study, he has become a Human Behavior and Conflict Resolution Specialist. He now enjoys speaking, writing, and teaching these relationship principles to others. — Learn More… What Do You Think? Tell me what youre thinking. and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a gravatar ! Click here to cancel reply. Featured Video The Recovering Engineer YouTube Channel From Bud to Boss Connect With Me Subscription Options Email updates. Get updates in an RSS reader. Check Out These Sites Article Series Connecting With People DISC Model FAQs Take Charge of Your Life Popular Articles The DISC Model of Human Behavior - A Quick Overview Conflict Resolution Tips: Task Oriented People with People Oriented Individuals Effective Communication Skills: How to Quickly Guess a Person’s DISC Style Task-Oriented vs People-Oriented: A Common Source of Conflict Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People Article Categories Select Category Communication Skills Decision Making DISC Model Family Relationships Featured Article From Our Cats Gallery Leadership Skills Parenting Personal Change Persuasion Post Series Problem Solving Recommendations Reflections Resolving Conflict Video Common Article Tags assertive communication behavioral style business relationships Communication Skills conflict resolution DISC Model disc style effective communication skills emotional control emotional intelligence Family Relationships get over yourself influence Leadership Skills Parenting parenting skills perception perspective persuasion Resolving Conflict self awareness self control understanding understanding people workplace conflict resolution Articles By Date Select Month February 2011 January 2011 December 2010 November 2010 October 2010 September 2010 August 2010 July 2010 June 2010 May 2010 April 2010 March 2010 February 2010 January 2010 September 2009 August 2009 December 2008 My Older Articles RecoveringEngineer.com launched in Jan 2010. 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The DISC Model of Human Behavior – A Quick Overview | Guy Harris.

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How To Effectively Communicate With Your 5K Racers

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My two passions are leadership and running 5K races that benefit nonprofit organizations. If you're planning a half-marathon or marathon event, your FAQ Section will need to include additional categories and content.

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How to Tell If a Conflict is Good or Bad | Guy Harris: The.

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Subscribe to Receive Updates Home About This Blog Archives Great Reading Contact Me my business about me Communication Skills Persuasion DISC Model Family Relationships Parenting Leadership Skills Post Series Reflections Decision Making From Our Cats Personal Change Resolving Conflict Problem Solving Video Browse > Home / Gallery , Resolving Conflict / How to Tell If a Conflict is Good or Bad How to Tell If a Conflict is Good or Bad October 11, 2010 by Guy Harris Filed under Gallery , Resolving Conflict Leave a Comment Not all conflict is bad. In fact some conflict can actually be good. The difference is whether the conflict is constructive or destructive. The challenge is that the emotional energy, body language, and other external signs of the conflict can look the same to an outside observer. So, how can you tell the difference between a constructive conflict and a destructive conflict? Here are three tell-tale signs to help you distinguish between the two types. Constructive conflict conversations focus on issues. Destructive conflict conversations focus on people. Constructive conflict conversations focus on the future. Destructive conflict conversations focus on the past. Constructive conflict conversations bring people together to solve a problem. Destructive conflict conversations create polarization and division within an organization. If a conflict conversation is constructive, let it go to completion. It is likely to turn out well. If a conflict conversation is destructive, use the Seven Secrets for Resolving Personal Workplace Conflict to move the conflict in a positive direction. Photo by jphilipg. If you liked this post, please tweet it, like it, share it, or leave a comment. For periodic email updates, special offers, and other occasional gifts available only to email subscribers, complete this form. Related posts: The 7 Deadly Sins of Conflict Resolution Seven Workplace Conflict Resolution Tips Exercise Your Power of Choice in Conflict Resolution Conflict Resolution Techniques: Question Your Assumptions Conflict Resolution Insights: Why Conflicts Escalate Tags: anger , conflict escalation , conflict resolution , Problem Solving , Resolving Conflict , workplace conflict resolution Guy Harris describes himself as a recovering engineer. He has degrees in Chemical Engineering and he served as a Nuclear Engineering officer in the U.S. Navy. He is an engineer by nature, by training, and experience. He has spent many years learning to connect and communicate with other people more effectively. With concerted effort and focused study, he has become a Human Behavior and Conflict Resolution Specialist. He now enjoys speaking, writing, and teaching these relationship principles to others. — Learn More… What Do You Think? Tell me what youre thinking. and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a gravatar ! Click here to cancel reply. Featured Video The Recovering Engineer YouTube Channel From Bud to Boss Connect With Me Subscription Options Email updates. Get updates in an RSS reader. Check Out These Sites Article Series Connecting With People DISC Model FAQs Take Charge of Your Life Popular Articles The DISC Model of Human Behavior - A Quick Overview Conflict Resolution Tips: Task Oriented People with People Oriented Individuals Effective Communication Skills: How to Quickly Guess a Person’s DISC Style Task-Oriented vs People-Oriented: A Common Source of Conflict Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People Article Categories Select Category Communication Skills Decision Making DISC Model Family Relationships Featured Article From Our Cats Gallery Leadership Skills Parenting Personal Change Persuasion Post Series Problem Solving Recommendations Reflections Resolving Conflict Video Common Article Tags assertive communication behavioral style business relationships Communication Skills conflict resolution DISC Model disc style effective communication skills emotional control emotional intelligence Family Relationships get over yourself influence Leadership Skills Parenting parenting skills perception perspective persuasion Resolving Conflict self awareness self control understanding understanding people workplace conflict resolution Articles By Date Select Month February 2011 January 2011 December 2010 November 2010 October 2010 September 2010 August 2010 July 2010 June 2010 May 2010 April 2010 March 2010 February 2010 January 2010 September 2009 August 2009 December 2008 My Older Articles RecoveringEngineer.com launched in Jan 2010. Most of my older posts can be found at. Video Insights Blog Stats Home · Contact Me · Privacy Policy · Sitemap Copyright © 2010 · All Rights Reserved · Based on Revolution Church theme by Brian Gardner · Modified by Guy Harris · Powered by WordPress · Admin Close for now. Never show again. Get Email Updates

FAQ 248

One Way To Guarantee That Your Suggestion Is Ignored

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Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented People Tags: effective communication skills , influence , Leadership Skills , parenting skills , self control Guy Harris describes himself as a recovering engineer.

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Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented.

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Subscribe to Receive Updates Home About This Blog Archives Great Reading Contact Me my business about me Communication Skills Persuasion DISC Model Family Relationships Parenting Leadership Skills Post Series Reflections Decision Making From Our Cats Personal Change Resolving Conflict Problem Solving Video Browse > Home / Communication Skills , DISC Model / Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented People May 11, 2010 by Guy Harris Filed under Communication Skills , DISC Model 1 Comment One way to improve your communication effectiveness is to communicate in a way that best fits the other person’s DISC behavioral style. When you find yourself communicating with a person who is outgoing and people-oriented (primary Inspiring behavioral style), remember these key communication tips: Smile — they tend to be very much in-tune with your body language and facial expressions as a way to “read&# your emotions. Show some enthusiasm — if you seem bored, they will be bored. Use stories and experiences more than facts and figures — they tend to relate to the communication of emotion over the communication of facts. Be friendly and not too business like — they respond better to people who like them. Ask about them, their family, and their friends — they tend to connect on a personal level before they are concerned with doing business, they want to know that you care about them. Remember these suggestions the next time you interact with people who are fast-paced and people-oriented, and you will improve the odds that they listen to, understand, and take action on your message. Check this post, for more insights on how to guess at a person’s DISC style. This article is from the Connecting With People series. Use the links below to read more from this series. Connecting With People Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, People-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, Task-Oriented People Using the DISC Model: How to Create Stress for Other People If you liked this post, please tweet it, like it, share it, or leave a comment. For periodic email updates, special offers, and other occasional gifts available only to email subscribers, complete this form. Related posts: Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, People-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, Task-Oriented People Conflict Resolution Tips: People Oriented Individuals with Task Oriented People Conflict Resolution Tips: Task Oriented People with People Oriented Individuals Tags: behavioral style , business relationships , Communication Skills , DISC Model , emotional control , emotional intelligence , influence , inspiring individuals , Leadership Skills , outgoing people , parenting skills , people-oriented people Guy Harris describes himself as a recovering engineer. He has degrees in Chemical Engineering and he served as a Nuclear Engineering officer in the U.S. Navy. He is an engineer by nature, by training, and experience. He has spent many years learning to connect and communicate with other people more effectively. With concerted effort and focused study, he has become a Human Behavior and Conflict Resolution Specialist. He now enjoys speaking, writing, and teaching these relationship principles to others. — Learn More… Comments One Response to “Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented People&# genith says: July 21, 2010 at 4:38 am &# I like reading the whole article. I learned new stuffs. Thumbs up for this. It’s a nice a thing to spend your time with.&# Reply What Do You Think? Tell me what youre thinking. and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a gravatar ! Click here to cancel reply. Featured Video The Recovering Engineer YouTube Channel From Bud to Boss Connect With Me Subscription Options Email updates. Get updates in an RSS reader. 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Effective Communication: What DO You Want?

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November 2, 2010 by Guy Harris Filed under Communication Skills , Leadership Skills , Persuasion , Resolving Conflict Leave a Comment This morning, I read a great post by my friend and colleague Kevin Eikenberry.

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Task-Oriented vs People-Oriented: A Common Source of Conflict.

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Subscribe to Receive Updates Home About This Blog Archives Great Reading Contact Me my business about me Communication Skills Persuasion DISC Model Family Relationships Parenting Leadership Skills Post Series Reflections Decision Making From Our Cats Personal Change Resolving Conflict Problem Solving Video Browse > Home / Communication Skills , DISC Model , Resolving Conflict / Task-Oriented vs People-Oriented: A Common Source of Conflict Task-Oriented vs People-Oriented: A Common Source of Conflict July 18, 2010 by Guy Harris Filed under Communication Skills , DISC Model , Resolving Conflict 1 Comment In one way or another, I have commented on this common difference between people in this blog and in other articles. It seems that I have, in many cases, made the point in an indirect way. Today, I thought I would make a more explicit observation about one of the common differences between task-oriented people and people-oriented people (from the DISC model ): Task-oriented people generally “think&# about things (including relationships). People-oriented people generally “feel&# about things (including tasks). In a previous post, I shared the story about calling home while I was traveling. That story illustrated my task nature and how I made a relational effort (calling home) into a task. That story also illustrated how the way that I defined the task led me to ignore the relational aspect of calling home. I called home and I was done. No conversation. No real listening. I checked out when my task (calling home) was checked off my list. A similar mental barrier can creep into the approach that people-oriented people take with regard to tasks. For example, I once worked with an extremely people-oriented person on evaluating a potential business investment. As we talked through his options, we came to a logical conclusion about what he should do next. After we came to our conclusion, he paused and said that he had some reservations about being able to invest the money needed to move forward. I said: “How much money do you have?” He said: “I don’t know for sure. I just don’t feel like I have enough.” I wanted to say (but, thankfully, I didn’t): “How much money you feel like you have was not the question. I asked, how much do you have?” At that moment, we could have had a major communication breakdown. He felt rather than thought about a factual, data-driven issue. My colleague in this story is a very intelligent person. We did not get into a conflict over this situation because we were both able to adjust our communication styles (word choice, tone, etc) to better connect with each other. What if, instead of holding back my initial thought, I had said what was in my mind: “…how much do you have?&# (With the accompanying sarcastic tone.) How would our relationship have progressed from that point? I think it would not have gone well. The misinterpretation of intent that often comes from this simple difference in perspective and approach can create some pretty intense conflicts. Task-oriented people can think that people-oriented people are not rational. People-oriented people can feel that task-oriented people don’t care. And both assumptions are often wrong. If you liked this post, please tweet it, like it, share it, or leave a comment. For periodic email updates, special offers, and other occasional gifts available only to email subscribers, complete this form. Related posts: Conflict Resolution Tips: People Oriented Individuals with Task Oriented People Conflict Resolution Tips: Task Oriented People with People Oriented Individuals Better Relationship Tips For Task Oriented People: Redefine Your Task Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, Task-Oriented People Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People Tags: conflict communication , conflict resolution , DISC Model , people-oriented people , Resolving Conflict , task-oriented people , understanding peopled Guy Harris describes himself as a recovering engineer. He has degrees in Chemical Engineering and he served as a Nuclear Engineering officer in the U.S. Navy. He is an engineer by nature, by training, and experience. He has spent many years learning to connect and communicate with other people more effectively. With concerted effort and focused study, he has become a Human Behavior and Conflict Resolution Specialist. He now enjoys speaking, writing, and teaching these relationship principles to others. — Learn More… Comments One Response to “Task-Oriented vs People-Oriented: A Common Source of Conflict&# Trackbacks Check out what others are saying about this post. Rules Without Relationship Breed Rebellion | Guy Harris: The Recovering Engineer says: August 3, 2010 at 9:28 am [.] that you need both rules and relationship to make it work. (For more on the either-or extremes, check this post on the task-people perspective [.] Reply What Do You Think? Tell me what youre thinking. and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a gravatar ! Click here to cancel reply. Featured Video The Recovering Engineer YouTube Channel From Bud to Boss Connect With Me Subscription Options Email updates. Get updates in an RSS reader. 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