More often than not, women are the ones who help others when asked — they plan the meetings, take the notes, and take on other types of “office housework,” in Rosabeth Moss Kanter’s immortal phrase. These thankless-but-necessary tasks keep organizations humming. But as Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg and Wharton professor Adam Grant noted in a New York Times article, while women are expected to do more of this work, they don’t get credit for it and suffer backlash when they refuse to do it. “When a woman declines to help a colleague, people like her less and her career suffers,” they wrote, citing different studies by professors Madeline Heilman, Joan C. Williams, and Joyce K. Fletcher, “But when a man says no, he faces no backlash. A man who doesn’t help is ‘busy’; a woman is ‘selfish.’”