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How to Tell If a Conflict is Good or Bad | Guy Harris: The.

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The challenge is that the emotional energy, body language, and other external signs of the conflict can look the same to an outside observer. In fact some conflict can actually be good. The difference is whether the conflict is constructive or destructive.

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Hear and Understand to be Heard and Understood

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The first approach takes a little patience, but it doesn’t take much energy. The second approach can seem faster in the moment, but it takes lots of energy and it creates the risk of rupturing the container. I think that people are sort of like the containers in my example above.

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Some Recommended Reading

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So, I thought that rather than share my somewhat clouded thoughts, I would pass along some of what I found today as I looked through my RSS feeds.

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Group Problem Solving - Give People a Chance to Talk | Guy Harris.

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The time you invest in the process will come back to you many times over in the increased energy and productivity that the meeting generates. The next time you lead a group problem solving session, make sure you allow the time necessary to let everyone have their say. Graphic by www.lumaxart.com.

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The 7 Deadly Sins of Conflict Resolution | Guy Harris: The.

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While the specific time line for a conflict resolution conversation depends on many factors, most conflict conversations reach their peak of emotional energy at about 45 minutes to an hour. This is a bad plan. Most resolutions come after the peak emotional involvement. They rarely happen before or during the height of emotion.

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“It's cold in here” and Other Fighting Words | Guy Harris: The.

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