The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 7, 2013

Last month, my wife created a miracle. She planned and pulled-off a wedding reception in seven days. Yes, you read that correctly — seven days from decision to wedding and reception. Many things happened leading up to the decision, but the simple answer for the question “Why would you do that?”

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The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 8, 2010

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The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 11, 2010

In fact some conflict can actually be good.

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The Recovering Engineer

SEPTEMBER 9, 2010

While the tips still apply to written communication, I haven’t written specifically about how to apply the model in emails and letters. I might expand this thought further in later posts, but, for now, I thought I would share a quick tip to improve the odds that people actually read and take action on your written correspondence.

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The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 8, 2010

Check Out These Sites Article Series Connecting With People DISC Model FAQs Take Charge of Your Life Popular Articles The DISC Model of Human Behavior - A Quick Overview Conflict Resolution Tips: Task Oriented People with People Oriented Individuals Effective Communication Skills: How to Quickly Guess a Person’s DISC Style Task-Oriented vs People-Oriented: (..)

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 27, 2010

In that post, I listed a number of things common to the political process that are terrible examples of how to behave when you are really trying to solve a problem or resolve a conflict. Then, the debate turns to how we should redesign the way we pay for the broken system. Almost no substantive discussion about how to fix the system.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 27, 2010

In that post, I listed a number of things common to the political process that are terrible examples of how to behave when you are really trying to solve a problem or resolve a conflict. Then, the debate turns to how we should redesign the way we pay for the broken system. Almost no substantive discussion about how to fix the system.

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The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 25, 2013

Many new leaders became leaders because they know how to get things done. As I began working to develop better collaborative problem solving skills, I read How to Make Collaboration Work by David Straus, and I learned an approach for reaching better group decisions. Related Posts How to Plan a Wedding Reception in Seven Days.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 30, 2014

Related Posts How to Plan a Wedding Reception in Seven Days. This is a quick video I put together to capture some great conflict resolution quotes that help and inspire me. I hope it stimulates your thinking about the mindset of successful conflict resolution. Five Common Responses to Conflict. What CAN You Do?

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The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 2, 2012

Successful project managers get work done on time and within budget because they know how to work with people and not because they know how to create a perfect Gantt chart. They understood how to use project management and tracking tools, and they kept their focus on connecting with the people responsible for the many tasks.

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The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 28, 2012

They know how to communicate calmly and assertively in nearly every situation. The growth in your conflict resolution skills begins when you learn to accurately diagnose and read conflict situations and how to respond appropriately — confidently — to the conflict. I see people who are… Conflict Rock Stars. Conflict Confident.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 14, 2011

For many of the people in the class, this was their first in-depth exposure to the DISC model and how to use it to more effectively communicate with others. The “I understand how to do this, and I have to think about it to make it work&# stage. Using the DISC Model: How to Create Stress for Other People. Get Shareaholic.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 9, 2010

A DISC Model Question You Should Ask of Yourself Effective Communication Skills: How to Quickly Guess a Person’s DISC Style If you liked this post, please tweet it, like it, share it, or leave a comment. DISC FAQs: Can I Change My Personality Style On Purpose? Related posts: DISC Model FAQ’s: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney?

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 8, 2012

Related Posts How to Decide if a Conflict is Worth the Effort to Resolve. There is so much good in the worst of us, And so much bad in the rest of us, That it ill behooves any of us. To find fault with the rest of us. Author unknown. Do This If You Want to Guarantee Conflict Escalation. One Way to Head Off a Conflict: Manage Expectations.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 10, 2010

Check this post, for more insights on how to guess at a person’s DISC style. Remember these suggestions the next time you interact with people who are fast-paced and task-oriented, and you will improve the odds that they listen to, understand, and take action on your message. This article is from the Connecting With People series.

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 21, 2011

Using the DISC Model: How to Create Stress for Other People. Related posts: Using the DISC Model: How to Create Stress for Other People. Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, People-Oriented People. Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, Task-Oriented People. Using the DISC Model: Focus on Needs More than Behaviors.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 21, 2011

We spoke about issues surrounding the transition to leadership, coaching skills, how to coach in an environment with an uncertain future, communication skills, collaboration concepts, and other ideas. During this interview, we had the opportunity to discuss some key points from our new book: From Bud to Boss.

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The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 3, 2012

I think I still have a lot to learn about how to do this well, but it seems promising at this point. I’m hoping that short videos can help to convey ideas and illustrate concepts in a fun, humorous, and effective way that helps people to relate to both the scenario and the concept so that they can use it in real life.

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The Recovering Engineer

SEPTEMBER 30, 2013

By combining the models you can gain insights for how to best lead your team through each of the four stages. They know what needs to be done and how to do it. You will use many different leadership behaviors at all stages of team development. Finally, your team moves into the Performing stage. They are pretty self-sufficient.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 13, 2010

During our conversation, we covered a number of important issues: How to deal with the role and relationship changes you face as a new supervisor. How to think about the relationship changes you face in the transition. (This is the topic of the Bud to Boss workshop that Kevin Eikenberry and I developed).

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 11, 2010

Check this post, for more insights on how to guess at a person’s DISC style. Remember these suggestions the next time you interact with people who are fast-paced and people-oriented, and you will improve the odds that they listen to, understand, and take action on your message. This article is from the Connecting With People series.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 12, 2010

Check this post, for more insights on how to guess at a person’s DISC style. Remember these suggestions the next time you interact with people who are slower-paced and people-oriented, and you will improve the odds that they listen to, understand, and take action on your message. This article is from the Connecting With People series.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 12, 2010

Check this post, for more insights on how to guess at a person’s DISC style. Remember these suggestions the next time you interact with people who are slower-paced and task-oriented, and you will improve the odds that they listen to, understand, and take action on your message. This article is from the Connecting With People series.

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The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 24, 2012

How to Decide if a Conflict is Worth the Effort to Resolve. Three Critical Factors to Consider Before You Choose a Communication Technique. Three Power Phrases to Disarm a Verbal Aggressor. The Difference Between Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive Communication.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 7, 2010

How to apply powerful psychological principles in a practical way to help you control your response and develop influence with others. Only the context changes. The principles remain the same.) Here’s what you’ll find on this audio program: Ways of looking at conflict that you may have never considered.

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The Recovering Engineer

AUGUST 3, 2010

Like so many other issues that surface in the discussion of how to lead a team (business, sports, family, church, etc), the rule-relationship issue is a both-and scenario rather than an either-or scenario. They might say that only relationship matters as a leader. Well, I wouldn’t go that far either.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 25, 2012

How to Decide if a Conflict is Worth the Effort to Resolve. Learn to use the power of tact and relationship to turn conflicts towards resolution and away from escalation. 1 Fadiman, Clifton; Editor. The Little, Brown Book of Anecdotes. Related Posts The Difference Between Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive Communication.

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The Recovering Engineer

AUGUST 27, 2011

How to Tell If a Conflict is Good or Bad. When you reduce the emotional energy, you reduce the risk that the communication will escalate to a destructive conflict. Related posts: Conflict Prevention: Just Fix the Problem. Snow Drifts, Driving Lessons, and Conflict Resolution.

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The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 22, 2013

While most people experience and rely upon both trust components as they make decisions about how to interact with others, there are subtle differences in the priority that people place on the two components as they make decisions.

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The Recovering Engineer

DECEMBER 6, 2010

How to Take Charge of Your Life - General Principles Take Charge of Your Life - Control What You Can If you liked this post, please tweet it, like it, share it, or leave a comment. Use the links below to read more from this series.

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 12, 2010

Related posts: Using the DISC Model: How to Create Stress for Other People Conflict Resolution Tips: Task Oriented People with People Oriented Individuals Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented People DISC Model FAQ’s: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney? While the tips still [.] Reply What Do You Think?

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The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 2, 2010

Related posts: Effective Communication Skills: You Don’t Know Until You Ask Effective Communication: Begin With The End In Mind Effective Communication Skills: Use And More than But Effective Communication Skills: How to Quickly Guess a Person’s DISC Style Three Actions You Can Take to De-escalate Conflicts Tags: assertive communication , Communication (..)

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 13, 2011

How to Take Charge of Your Life – General Principles. Related posts: Conflict Resolution from John Wooden – What’s Right Not Who’s Right. Commit to Continual Learning – Life Lessons From Cal Ripken, Jr.

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The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 6, 2010

In this post, I’m expanding on three of the actions with some additional thoughts on how to put them to work in your conflict resolution repertoire. Here are three things you can do in virtually any conflict situation to improve the outcome.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 10, 2010

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 15, 2011

I know how to make my left hand create a number of chords. I don’t model the ease and beauty of playing that you might see in a true guitar master like Eric Clapton or Jim Croce (yes, I am showing my age), I can manage to, generally, make sounds that resemble music. I know them by name, and I know a few simple variations.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 21, 2012

Related Posts How to Decide if a Conflict is Worth the Effort to Resolve. In the end, they both showed a level of emotional maturity I often see lacking in people twice their age. Not every question is a threat. Questions are often just questions. Do This If You Want to Guarantee Conflict Escalation.

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