The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 3, 2010

The Positive Runs Out Communicating About Change – Connect With Emotions Tags: emotional control , emotional intelligence , emotions , get over yourself , human behavior , intention , self awareness , self control , understanding people Guy Harris describes himself as a recovering engineer. . Reply What Do You Think? Never show again.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 7, 2010

Very seldom will anyone respond positively to you if you blame them. (It Tweets that mention The 7 Deadly Sins of Conflict Resolution | Guy Harris: The Recovering Engineer -- Topsy.com says: June 7, 2010 at 7:32 pm [.] Get Your Ex Back Forever says: June 7, 2010 at 9:56 pm [.] It could happen. It’s just not very likely.)

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The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 19, 2010

By understanding the model, we can plan positive steps to back conflicts down after they start. Using this post as a starting point, we can then look at how to avoid or minimize this problem in our lives. In this post, I will quickly show a model of what often happens during conflict escalation. I’ll share more on that later.

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The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 15, 2010

Since I have been in the other driver’s position, encountering a snow drift on my side of the road while the other driver has basically clear pavement, I was aware that they were in a position where they might feel a little out of control. During the day, road crews cleared the roads. Most of my older posts can be found at.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 16, 2010

Take a walk, read something positive, or just get away from the situation for a moment to carefully consider your emotional state and it’s possible impact on your decision making. Did you just learn that you need to invest money you don’t have to repair your car? If so, be careful. Most of my older posts can be found at.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 9, 2010

In all of these situations, you can, like a lifeguard, be in the position of a person approaching someone else when they are under distress because their needs are not being met. Most of my older posts can be found at. Never show again. Get Email Updates

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The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 23, 2010

Alternative stories can stop our perception of threat and lead us to a more positive, rational, and engaged response than either a heated attack or an icy withdrawal. Guy Reply imelda says: April 25, 2010 at 1:00 am Great suggestion about coming up with “alternative stories&# when we are having a fight or flight reaction.

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 18, 2010

By telling her colleague that she will likely have questions, she is: Establishing reasonable expectations with her colleague, Preparing her colleague to receive the call, and Showing that she is concerned with a positive outcome. Animaux says: March 19, 2010 at 2:20 am [.] Thanks for sharing, I’ll be sure to return regularly.

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 27, 2010

Learn More… Comments 5 Responses to “Effective Communication Skills: You Don’t Know Until You Ask&# Lori W says: March 30, 2010 at 9:46 pm Everytime you ASSUME someone’s intention, you are just making up a story about the “WHY&#. Reply Generate Huge Profits With Social Media Marketing says: March 27, 2010 at 9:47 pm [.]

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 29, 2010

Did it offer us more positive or more negative? If it was more positive, we needed to go forward without complaining about the negative because we had chosen to accept it into our lives for the moment. Attempt to exert positive influence on those things that I couldn’t directly change. In my case, I chose to stay.

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The Recovering Engineer

DECEMBER 14, 2010

December 14, 2010 by Guy Harris Filed under Gallery , Reflections 8 Comments A few days ago, I posted about the tragic death of a young lady who was part of my life when I was in college and she was a toddler. Jenny says: December 14, 2010 at 8:12 am I love this idea, Guy. How Much Margin Do You Have? Hope you’re doing great.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 16, 2010

Take a walk, read something positive, or just get away from the situation for a moment to carefully consider your emotional state and it’s possible impact on your decision making. Did you just learn that you need to invest money you don’t have to repair your car? If so, be careful. Most of my older posts can be found at.

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The Recovering Engineer

DECEMBER 16, 2008

The more you focus on future actions to “fix&# the problem, the more you improve the odds that they will engage with you in a positive way. They often want to get moving rather than talk about past events or feelings. Most of my older posts can be found at. Never show again. Get Email Updates

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 20, 2010

So, here’s a big lesson I learned while working an exhibit hall booth at ASTD 2010 in Chicago: If you’ve got something to say, stand up and say it. As I worked in the Kevin Eikenberry Group booth, I noticed an interesting dynamic happening at the booths around me. They might not like what you have to say. Never show again.

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The Recovering Engineer

SEPTEMBER 7, 2009

When I permit someone’s perspective, I place myself in a superior position to them. When I look at these definitions, I see what Elie Wiesel spoke of in his answer. When I tolerate another person, I permit their existence. I endure their presence. I don’t want to permit other people to have their views. Never show again.

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The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 31, 2010

I’m not even saying that I’m always good at accepting detours with a positive attitude. The detour might actually be a little bit of fun to follow. I’m not suggesting that you should look for detours. Some of my greatest lessons in life have come from detours. Most of my older posts can be found at. Never show again.

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 31, 2010

March 31, 2010 by Guy Harris Filed under DISC Model , Video 3 Comments Guy Answers the Question: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone? Here are some observations to support this position. All Best News | Promotional Content Marketing Wisdom says: March 31, 2010 at 6:29 pm [.] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Guy Harris.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 27, 2010

Learn More… Comments 2 Responses to “Why The Health Care Reform Debate Makes Me Sick&# Brian Rush says: February 27, 2010 at 11:01 pm When people say “the system is broken,&# they mostly mean the way we pay for it, which implies the health INSURANCE system rather than the health CARE system. The conversation is not terribly civil.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 27, 2010

Learn More… Comments 2 Responses to “Why The Health Care Reform Debate Makes Me Sick&# Brian Rush says: February 27, 2010 at 11:01 pm When people say “the system is broken,&# they mostly mean the way we pay for it, which implies the health INSURANCE system rather than the health CARE system. The conversation is not terribly civil.

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 15, 2010

I don’t recall a single person speaking positively about the hour of daylight we would “gain&# at the end of the normal business day. And here’s my observation: People tend to notice loss more than gain and to see the negative before they see the positive. I recognize that this is a broad statement. Well, maybe not.

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