The Recovering Engineer

JULY 13, 2011

I have noticed that people who are able to successfully resolve conflicts generally exercise great patience with others, with themselves, and with the process of reconciling differences.

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The Recovering Engineer

SEPTEMBER 26, 2010

In the process of looking over my notes and thinking through the planned events tomorrow, I started reflecting on a meeting that I facilitated for a client in Indiana last week. Remember – I built the agenda, and I started to get frustrated with the process. Graphic by www.lumaxart.com.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 10, 2018

If an employer asks you to take the DISC assessment as part of a hiring process or team building exercise, it might seem that they hope to see a particular result before hiring you or giving you other job related opportunities.

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The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 7, 2013

The lessons from the family decision-making process reveal some great communication, conflict resolution, and leadership lessons; and those are stories for other posts on other days. For now, I’m focusing on what happened in the seven days starting December 16th and ending on December 22nd. .” ” It was amazing.

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The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 24, 2012

It is incomplete in that people often ask the question with an unspoken assumption about the outcome of the resolution process. The question does have one problem though — it is incomplete. When I add the assumption to the question, it becomes… Can every conflict be resolved and also preserve the relationship ?

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The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 2, 2010

In this post, Kevin makes a great point we can all learn from the campaign process that those of us in the United States have been watching for the last few weeks.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 8, 2013

One commonly referenced study on the impact of non-verbal clues in the communication process comes from Albert Mehrabian. The leverage point for de-escalating the conflict is their perception, and the strongest impact you will likely have on their perception is your tone and body language.

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The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 7, 2013

The lessons from the family decision-making process reveal some great communication, conflict resolution, and leadership lessons; and those are stories for other posts on other days. For now, I’m focusing on what happened in the seven days starting December 16th and ending on December 22nd. .” ” It was amazing.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 22, 2013

The new procedure added two documentation steps to an existing operation, and he knew that it would add both time and energy to an already cumbersome process. John was not happy with the change because he knew that his team would not like it. As he spoke with Bill, John argued his case to no avail.

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The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 31, 2012

The conflict resolution process is full of various kinds of risks. The question takes many forms, but it generally comes down to this: When is it safe to speak assertively with another person? This is a great question because it acknowledges the potential risk of confronting another person’s behaviors. I understand the risks.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 2, 2011

And they will often prefer to work at a steady pace with a focus on doing the work process in a way that minimizes risk and strengthens relationships. A person who has reserved and people-oriented (Supp0rtive) traits is often motivated by: Teamwork. The opportunity to help others. Feeling appreciated for their contribution.

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The Recovering Engineer

NOVEMBER 19, 2012

Your Now Step: Think about a project, relationship, or process in your organization that has been frustrating you recently. Focus on what you can do rather than what you cannot do, and you become a victor over circumstances rather than a victim to them.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 14, 2011

I saw their efforts as natural parts of the learning process. Even though the results were not all that great initially, the effort to bridge the difference gap encouraged me. They saw their efforts as failures. A model for learning I often use speaks of learning happening in four stages: Unconscious incompetence. Conscious incompetence.

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The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 2, 2012

They include construction, computer system, computer software, marketing, web development, book writing, process improvement, and plant expansion projects. At different times and in different roles, I have had the opportunity to observe, work on, plan, and implement projects of various sizes and types.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 8, 2011

In a post about finding what motivates other people , I shared some insights that might help you in the process of finding that emotional hook. It’s not always easy. It can often be done. By the way, I still don’t own or know how to play a saxophone. I guess the “why&# isn’t big enough yet.

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The Recovering Engineer

SEPTEMBER 30, 2013

To navigate these rough waters, you can use Cautious behaviors – asking thoughtful questions, carefully evaluating information, and developing processes – to guide your team on to the next stage of development. As your team enters the Norming stage, they will focus more on task accomplishment and less on interpersonal issues.

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 11, 2013

Give them time to process what you have said before asking for a response. If they are slower paced and focused on relationships , tie their actions to how they can help others and how their contribution builds the team. Rather than focus entirely on what you want done, make time to discuss how you want it done (with their input).

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 24, 2013

This questioning process is the beginning of learning. I know that to be true. Everyone knows that to be true. Then, I began to question if what I knew to be true was actually true or if I only believed it to be true.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 27, 2010

In that post, I listed a number of things common to the political process that are terrible examples of how to behave when you are really trying to solve a problem or resolve a conflict. I am, though, a person who can observe the process and see how the current discussion has virtually no hope of arriving at a good conclusion.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 27, 2010

In that post, I listed a number of things common to the political process that are terrible examples of how to behave when you are really trying to solve a problem or resolve a conflict. I am, though, a person who can observe the process and see how the current discussion has virtually no hope of arriving at a good conclusion.

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The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 1, 2011

As I continue this post series inspired by a plaque I purchased while visiting the Biltmore House this past Christmas, I keep getting challenged by both the plaque and the process of writing about each word in succession. Today, I’m tackling a topic that does not come naturally to me. Remember, I call myself The Recovering Engineer).

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 10, 2010

Focus on results and outcomes — process and feelings are less important to them than results. Give them options — they want the opportunity to choose. Look them in the eye and speak-up — they seldom have patience for people who do not have confidence.

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The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 5, 2011

Worked in research, technical service, product development, and process development in both the plastics and coatings industries. I… Completed my service as a submarine officer. Married my amazing wife. Became the father of two fantastic daughters. Launched a consulting, training, and coaching business.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 18, 2010

Even if I offer a slightly different interpretation of the facts, I have avoided triggering defensiveness early in the process so that you might receive what I have to say with an open attitude. The second reply creates a more positive lead-in to the second part of the statement.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 4, 2010

In the process of changing your behaviors, I have another thought to offer. Assuming that you want to have a productve relaitonship with the other person in this question, the real question is not “How do I get them to do what I want them to do?&# When you do this, you just might learn that they have some good ideas as well.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 12, 2010

When you find yourself communicating with a person who is reserved and people-oriented (primary Supportive behavioral style), remember these key communication tips: Slow down — they usually want you to give them time to process what you’re saying before they respond.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 12, 2010

When you find yourself communicating with a person who is reserved and task-oriented (primary Cautious behavioral style), remember these key communication tips: Slow down — they usually want you to give them time to process what you’re saying before they respond.

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The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 19, 2010

This perception of threat can take many forms, and it is likely linked to the anger process I wrote about previously. It doesn’t really matter if Person A meant their words or actions as a threat. It only matters if Person B sees the words or actions as a threat. Person A now perceives Person B’s behavior as a threat.

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The Recovering Engineer

SEPTEMBER 23, 2010

In the process, I was reminded of some insights on ths vital point by an exercise we did in a session on Servant Leadership. Leaders who learn work in ways that fulfill employee needs will get better results than those who do not. I had the class rank their top concerns with regard to interactions with their leaders.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 9, 2010

While he is in the process of drowning, he thrashes, lunges, and swings his arms and legs wildly. He is grasping at everything and everyone within reach. He has little or no visible concern for others. He may, at other times, be a kind, loving, considerate person. If you get in the way of a drowning man, you just might get hurt.

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The Recovering Engineer

DECEMBER 16, 2008

If you have a stronger people orientation than task orientation, you likely process interactions with others based on how you feel about them and the situation. In this post, I’ll change the perspective by suggesting three tips that go the other direction. 1) Express what you “think&# rather than how you “feel.&#

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 1, 2010

They process fast. I started to wonder how I could change my communication approach and get to the point faster so that it was more clear to the other person the difference between commas and periods in my speech. The person in question is very outgoing. They speak fast. They decide fast. I am more reserved and analytical.

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The Recovering Engineer

SEPTEMBER 13, 2010

The DISC model is a good place to start the process of figuring out what types of environments might best fit you and your preferences. Reply Guy Harris says: December 4, 2010 at 1:59 pm Hi Chrystine, Thanks for the comment. Reply What Do You Think? Tell me what youre thinking.

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The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 26, 2010

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The Recovering Engineer

DECEMBER 14, 2010

If you have suggestions for me or others reading this post that might help in this process, please leave a comment below. This is a big question to consider, and it relates directly to how you set your goals for next year.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 12, 2010

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 4, 2010

It usually represents how theythe think about, feel about, or otherwise interpret and process the world around them. For most people, their basic style represents the most consistent part of who they are. It reflects the type of environment that would be the most comfortable for them.

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