Experience to Lead

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For managers, leadership isn’t one-size-fits-all. Each individual must take their own unique mixture of real-world experience and personal talents to forge their own leadership style. With leadership training, managers can study the core competencies they need to adapt and grow for their entire career.

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 26, 2011

As you might guess, we tend to avoid negative consequences and to pursue positive consequences. As a result, negative consequences (like punishments) tend to discourage repeating behaviors and positive consequences (like rewards) tend to encourage behaviors to repeat in the future. The Positive Runs Out.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 15, 2011

As my daughters and a friend of mine patiently teach me scales, chords, chord progressions, hand positions, and strumming patterns; I have learned to struggle through a song or two. Related posts: DISC Model FAQ’s: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney? First, the story behind the lesson. Photo by seriousbri.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 3, 2010

Related posts: Being Too Nice Can Hurt You A DISC Model Question You Should Ask of Yourself DISC Model FAQ’s: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney? Maybe you said you wouldn’t eat too much at a party. Maybe you told yourself that you wouldn’t speak too soon at a meeting. Get updates in an RSS reader.

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FAQ Self-aware Emotional Intelligence Engineering 235

The Recovering Engineer

OCTOBER 11, 2010

If a conflict conversation is destructive, use the Seven Secrets for Resolving Personal Workplace Conflict to move the conflict in a positive direction. If a conflict conversation is constructive, let it go to completion. It is likely to turn out well. Photo by jphilipg. Get updates in an RSS reader.

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The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 21, 2011

The DISC model is one tool that you can use to get an estimate of another person’s emotional/psychological needs so that you can take positive, intentional actions that increase your ability to effectively connect and communicate with him or her. DISC Model FAQ’s: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney?

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 14, 2011

The class was lively, engaged, and energetic with everyone in the room displaying a highly positive approach to learning. Related posts: DISC Model FAQ’s: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney? Share this on del.icio.us. Stumble upon something good? Share it on StumbleUpon. Share this on Plaxo. Share this on Technorati.

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The Recovering Engineer

MAY 10, 2010

Show them respect — they also want you to show respect for them, their position, and their work. Look them in the eye and speak-up — they seldom have patience for people who do not have confidence. Featured Video The Recovering Engineer YouTube Channel From Bud to Boss Connect With Me Subscription Options Email updates.

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Tips Engineering FAQ Emotional Intelligence 277

The Recovering Engineer

MAY 18, 2010

Even if what I say is positive, you probably have a bit of a defensive posture in receiving what I am about to say. The second reply creates a more positive lead-in to the second part of the statement. I have probably triggered a natural defensive mechanism. Get updates in an RSS reader.

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Skills Engineering FAQ Emotional Intelligence 209

The Recovering Engineer

MAY 12, 2010

Use data and third-party information to support your position — they want to know that you have done your homework. Talk about thoughts more than feelings — while they are not totally unemotional, they are more likely to be persuaded by thoughts than by feelings. Get updates in an RSS reader.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 2, 2010

You reach a point in the conversation where you have to make a choice to stay on the road or to take the right fork that leads you back to the main highway of resolution and positive interaction. The truth is that we almost always have a better and more positive option we can choose. The moment of choice might not happen immediately.

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Power Emotional Intelligence Engineering Self-aware 230

The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 2, 2010

If you want to resolve the conflict, carefully consider which of your positions are based in fact and which are based in your opinion or perspective. In my experience so far, I have never observed a conflict conversation that turned out well when both parties insisted on arguing their respective perspectives as if their opinions were facts.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 16, 2010

Take a walk, read something positive, or just get away from the situation for a moment to carefully consider your emotional state and it’s possible impact on your decision making. Did you just learn that you need to invest money you don’t have to repair your car? If so, be careful. Get updates in an RSS reader.

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Emotional Intelligence Self-aware Short-term Engineering 210

The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 9, 2010

In all of these situations, you can, like a lifeguard, be in the position of a person approaching someone else when they are under distress because their needs are not being met. And what has all of this got to do with communication, conflict resolution, leadership, and parenting. He might hurt you in his effort to get air.

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The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 15, 2010

Since I have been in the other driver’s position, encountering a snow drift on my side of the road while the other driver has basically clear pavement, I was aware that they were in a position where they might feel a little out of control. Immediately, I saw a connection to conflict resolution, communication, and leadership.

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The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 19, 2010

By understanding the model, we can plan positive steps to back conflicts down after they start. Using this post as a starting point, we can then look at how to avoid or minimize this problem in our lives. In this post, I will quickly show a model of what often happens during conflict escalation. I’ll share more on that later.

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The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 16, 2010

Take a walk, read something positive, or just get away from the situation for a moment to carefully consider your emotional state and it’s possible impact on your decision making. Did you just learn that you need to invest money you don’t have to repair your car? If so, be careful. Get updates in an RSS reader.

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The Recovering Engineer

JULY 29, 2010

Did it offer us more positive or more negative? If it was more positive, we needed to go forward without complaining about the negative because we had chosen to accept it into our lives for the moment. Attempt to exert positive influence on those things that I couldn’t directly change. In my case, I chose to stay.

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Cost-Benefit Analysis Workshop Engineering FAQ 114

The Recovering Engineer

MAY 20, 2010

Related posts: Commit to Continual Learning – Life Lessons From Cal Ripken, Jr One Way To Guarantee That Your Suggestion Is Ignored The Positive Runs Out Tags: astd conference , courage , kevin eikenberry group , Leadership Skills , persuasion , speaking in public Guy Harris describes himself as a recovering engineer.

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Conference Engineering FAQ Emotional Intelligence 102

The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 18, 2010

By telling her colleague that she will likely have questions, she is: Establishing reasonable expectations with her colleague, Preparing her colleague to receive the call, and Showing that she is concerned with a positive outcome. I have seen this concept discussed in a number of ways and in a variety of contexts.

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Engineering Self-aware Video FAQ 210

The Recovering Engineer

DECEMBER 16, 2008

The more you focus on future actions to “fix&# the problem, the more you improve the odds that they will engage with you in a positive way. They often want to get moving rather than talk about past events or feelings. Get updates in an RSS reader.

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Tips Engineering FAQ Self-aware 188

The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 27, 2010

Since you are in control of your thoughts, choose to make the story a good one – a positive one – one that puts you in a better frame of mind and puts the other person in a good light – or at least one to be sympathized with. He has degrees in Chemical Engineering and he served as a Nuclear Engineering officer in the U.S.

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The Recovering Engineer

APRIL 23, 2010

Alternative stories can stop our perception of threat and lead us to a more positive, rational, and engaged response than either a heated attack or an icy withdrawal. We can act to resolve the communication breakdown rather than act to escalate the conflict. Get updates in an RSS reader.

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The Recovering Engineer

JUNE 7, 2010

Very seldom will anyone respond positively to you if you blame them. (It For example, “I yelled at you because you yelled at me.” While it feels a bit like self-defense, it actually triggers conflict escalation. It could happen. It’s just not very likely.) Trying to justify our behaviors. Justification is blame’s evil twin.

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The Recovering Engineer

JANUARY 31, 2010

I’m not even saying that I’m always good at accepting detours with a positive attitude. Earlier in my life, these road blocks discouraged me. Now, I just see them as detours, and I have learned to learn from the detours. The detour might actually be a little bit of fun to follow. Get updates in an RSS reader.

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The Recovering Engineer

SEPTEMBER 7, 2009

When I permit someone’s perspective, I place myself in a superior position to them. When I look at these definitions, I see what Elie Wiesel spoke of in his answer. When I tolerate another person, I permit their existence. I endure their presence. I don’t want to permit other people to have their views.

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The Recovering Engineer

DECEMBER 14, 2010

Now about that silver bullet……… Reply Guy Harris says: December 15, 2010 at 10:37 pm Jenny, Thanks for the positive feedback. I’m thankful you have shared your story and challenged the rest of us to make something good out of a pretty sucky situation (technical term). I really do wish I had that silver bullet.

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Engineering Self-aware Emotional Intelligence Chemicals 169

The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 27, 2010

People cast aspersions at each other, attack the character of the other person, rigidly stake out positions, and seek to win rather than to resolve. Anyway, I digress, because my main point here is not really about the health care system in the first place, it is about the manner in which the discussion proceeds. Get updates in an RSS reader.

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Health Care Engineering System Politics 102

The Recovering Engineer

FEBRUARY 27, 2010

People cast aspersions at each other, attack the character of the other person, rigidly stake out positions, and seek to win rather than to resolve. Anyway, I digress, because my main point here is not really about the health care system in the first place, it is about the manner in which the discussion proceeds. Get updates in an RSS reader.

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Health Care Engineering System Politics 102

The Recovering Engineer

MARCH 15, 2010

I don’t recall a single person speaking positively about the hour of daylight we would “gain&# at the end of the normal business day. And here’s my observation: People tend to notice loss more than gain and to see the negative before they see the positive. I recognize that this is a broad statement. Well, maybe not.

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